How To: Convert Your Friends into Drama-Fanatics

SeRose's life changed a year ago, when she first started watching Asian dramas. Since then she's watched as many dramas as time allowed, and made tons of drama-watching converts (about five).

So you've watched your first drama and your world has changed forever. What now? After ten, twenty, or fifty, (even a hundred!) dramas, it really comes down to this: we all need a drama-watching buddy.  

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Image from Kdrama Coffee Prince

Most of us are all too familiar with that droll looking stare from our friends and family. If we're lucky we get this dumb series of questions. "You're watching what?" "What is K-Drama?" "Do you speak Japanese?" "Are there subtitles?" "Is that like anime?” "Why do all the guys look like girls?" Sometimes our friends don't even bother to ask questions, preferring instead to give you that 'smile and nod' treatment. It's generally accompanied by a roll of the eyes and a quick subject change. You can just see their brains spinning: "Not this again! It's just a phase, right? Please let it be just a phase."

In the interest of full disclosure, I'm not a drama loner: I have all of you! Seriously, how long could any of us last trapped in our own little bubble on the fringes of Dramaland? Half the fun of being a drama lover online is the thrill of meeting more fans out there crazier than we are. The day doesn’t end just because you finished watching the last available episode of a currently-airing drama, at least not until you’ve spent another hour or two perusing your blog roll for recaps and episode analyses.

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Image is from Kdrama You're Beautiful

When it comes down to it though, we all crave that personal touch: friends who can come over and spazz out on the couch with us. Some people are just born with natural drama-watching buddies. Some are superbly lucky and have friends who love dramas just because we told them to love it, or else! However, most of us live like social outcasts, marginalized for our great wealth of knowledge and “aiiigo”-like sound effects. Don’t they understand that watching dramas makes one conversant and culturally informed? Not only can I name all the members of CNBLUE like a true squealing fangirl, but I also know what life is like in a rooftop apartment in Seoul. Try learning about that in your history books!


So how do we make drama converts of our family and friends?

·     Don’t hide in your bedroom. Flaunt your dramas openly. The more readily available you make it, the more they’ll notice and be enticed to watch. (Pasta, for my husband. Who knew ‘The Voice’ was such a palatable male role model!) 

·     Persuade/coerce a relative to at least try a drama. Choose a good genre, and handpick the actors/actresses you think would entice/seduce the most (Lee Min Ho works for most girls, case you didn’t know).

·     Ignore the first round of idiotic questions: ‘Why doesn’t he just say he likes her?’, ‘Didn’t they use this plot device in the last episode?’ or ‘What is he/she even wearing?’ (You’re Beautiful, anybody?)

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Image is from Kdrama Secret Garden

·   Don’t push them too much. First promise a meal; then say, “Hey so you want to watch one (or twelve) one-hour videos?” (Secret Garden, suckers! Bonus points if you can keep the plot twist in episode 5 a complete secret.)
·  Define the ‘brooding shower scene’. Emphasize how awesome the plot of a particular drama is (anything with Park Shi Hoo)...

·  For your significant other – Simple. It’s sixteen to twenty hours of possible togetherness time. Just think of all the money saved from movie tickets (because Coffee Prince is completely fun and non-awkward to watch with your significant other)!


Beware of Backfire

·  Extra long dramas (24+ episodes)

·  Melodramas

·  The middle stretch of just about any drama – Don’t let them give up!
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Image is from Jdrama Hana Kimi

The best advice is to know your friends well enough to anticipate what they’ll like. Always recommend dramas you have seen before. Imagine the catastrophe if your first conversation went like this: “Hey there’s this new drama airing soon called Fashion King. Want to watch it with me?” 

Keep in mind that short dramas are good starters. Jdramas are ideally paced and executed (check out Nobuta wo Produce for sheer perfection). Never underestimate the benefits of a well-sculpted plot, a good-looking and talented cast, plus the power of a drama marathon to get everyone pumped! Chocolate and caffeine also help.

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Sadly, your friends’ entertainment choices may just be incompatible with yours. In this dire situation, do not fret. The online community will still be there. We’ll give you a virtual hug, yet another drama recommendation, and a secret treasure map with the location for our communal drama-watching BATCAVE. Just remind yourself that there is still hope in the world, and sometimes it’s more fun and efficient to marathon dramas all by yourself. Your support group at MDL will be waiting.

Comments (128)

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  • missienelly 1 day ago
    So, I'm in the process of converting my friend's sister into watching drama. She's been watching Korean movies and the last one being Sunny. I'm so giddy now and hoping she could find Playful Kiss on Netflix. When she does, I think my job is done! It's a hard work but someone has to do it!
  • alweena 10 days ago
    this is kinda helpful. can anyone at least recommend some really good series? some like with mature roles because i wanna lure my aunties too. :)
  • labellagorda 14 days ago
    My journey was kinda funny. My niece who is a total Asian nut introduced me to Hana Yori Dango...the manga. I wasn't too keen first but I read it and liked it. I then went and googled it and found out that there was a TV show based on it. So I went ahead and saw it...and that was it. I was hooked. There's no looking back now. 2 years and a LOT of dramas later, today I am studying Mandarin and Japanese and plan to study Korean. I've watched Korean, Taiwanese and Japanese dramas and listen to music from all over. Yes, I still hesitate to 'come out' in front of people...but I've been pleasantly surprised to find a LOT of closet Asian entertainment lovers in people I would have never imagined. But yes, this article hits the spot perfectly! I am sooooo GLAD I know I am not alone in feeling the way i do now!
  • Saintrat Apr 16, 2013
    My hubby asks me all the time: "So what's new in North Korea?" Grrrrrrrrrr...
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  • Luchia1199 Apr 16, 2013
    Oh my Gosh! You are soooo right! I talk to my friends and family like an idiot about K&J-Dramas and they look at me like I'm some kind of a weird animal xD Once I watched Hana Yori Dango with my friend and she, you can say, liked it but didn't want to watch it all 'couse it bored her. Then she said she even tried watching one K-Drama at home but it was not to her liking and she, let's say, dropped it. But I don't want to leave it like that and I promised myself that I will surely 'brig her back' :P
  • StellarJ Apr 14, 2013
    This describes my situation perfectly. I always talked about K-Dramas like an idiot and they either just nodded of said: "please, not that again". But now I converted one of my friends to an extreme K-drama fan (the first drama I recomended to her was Hana Yori Dango & she loved it ^^), who watches as many dramas as I do. And it's so amazing to have someone to talk about things like this ^^
    And to a friend who was one of the most opposing to my "hobby" one I recomended a drama and she loved it. OMG that feeling was amazing <3 ^^
  • Bookdork1 Oct 3, 2012
    I love this! One of my friends introduced to me to "Boys Over Flowers" and we watched that together, however it's the only drama she has ever seen and she had no idea the monster she was creating when she introduced me to the epic F4

    Also my mom is really nice, after dramatic cliff hangers of currently airing dramas, I'll come downstairs screaming and she will patiently listen to all the venting I need to do. Still, I wish I could get at least one person as hooked as I am, so that they could watch the airing dramas with me and understand why I'm currently obsessed with 1990's, or why I feel the need to research Korea under Imperial Japan...

    Also, my favorite part of this post was the reference to the idiotic questions, LOL, when my extended family hears I'm watching Korean television, I always get this blank stare followed by those exact inane questions!
  • Hangukeando Oct 3, 2012
    OMO this describes precisely how my friend enticed me into watching dramas (You're Beautiful, then Coffee Prince, after that, the rest is history lol) And it is how I do it. Got four converts so far hahaha Thanks for this awesome post!
  • HeyitsEst Oct 2, 2012
    My friends hate having to read subs :( they're lazy. I keep telling them once you catch on to some of the words and phrases, and notice the actors'/actress' body language, at some point you won't really have to look down as much. :P Some day, hopefully, they'll listen;)
  • lilypad22 Oct 1, 2012
    I actually got 3 or 4 friends to be drama watchers! (I wouldn't say "fanatics" but watchers nonetheless!) I was very proud and excited :D Most start off with Boys Over Flowers, I've found, but I first introduced them to You're Beautiful and it was a definite success ^_^
  • Nary Oct 1, 2012
    My friends r hopeless... I wld of killed my self with chocolate if it wasn't for my online fellow drama addicts
  • amrita828 Oct 1, 2012
    Brilliant article! :)
    I have been nodding all through the reading and can proudly boast of having made 3 proselytes in the last 6 months, all of them enthusiastic watchers now. My mum didn't want to watch the last episode of Secret Garden because she didn't want it to end. Recognize the symptoms, anyone? :P
    I loved this, SeRose. Every word. :D
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  • miss_kayti Sep 30, 2012
    But I'm going to try to convince my Mum to watch City Hunter. It has enough action to keep her satisfied, seeing as she doesn't like anything too romantic or sad. It's the right mix of everything to keep both of us happy, but the trouble is convincing her of that.
  • miss_kayti Sep 30, 2012
    I try to get my friends to watch dramas with me but they flat out refuse, no matter what I say. I show them pictures of Lee Min Ho, or a video of him laughing. How they don't fall in love with him on sight, I have no idea, lol. But they just aren't interested :-(
  • moirain Sep 30, 2012
    I turned my friend into total drama-addict and we can spend hours speaking about the development in the latest episode of some drama. But unfortunately the problem with my other friends rest upon the language barrier. They're saying that they can't speak/read English well enough to even try (and persuading with "You'll improve your language skills" doesn't help much) and subtitles in my native language aren't avaible or just suck (or at least the ones I tried, but I find English subs more suitable anyway). But I'm not afraid of these obstacles and I'll never give up. I've found that good start can be also some good movie to just let them get used to new language. It's sad that many people can't differ between Japanese and Korean.

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