Fiona_HOD:
Dear Evie Zan
My problem was the outlaw (inlaw) at that time. Everything went sour and messy. My parents went over because of that incident so everything pretty messed up.
Yes now a days there are concepts we can play around and try. Our time all based on experiences. Good if you have a kid at this time.
Trying to balance between in-laws are tricky and need endless source of patience and energy. So it takes quite a while to figure out. For me and my hubby, we try to have an open conversation between us. The most important thing we decided between us first is no judgement as much as possible. It's really hard at first but we try our best to get used to the ideals, traditions, family's value, perspectives, etc. and try to find common ground. Trials, success, failure, good, bad, in between. Both of us agreed to the common goal of having a good and healthy relationship between our families. So we just set the goal and try to achieve our goal with everything we have. Good thing is when we get married my hubby already have a very stable career and income already. So that's really help I think. Over 3 years older than me so he's much more patient and grounded too. So it reduce lots of stress. And my greatest luck is my in laws are pretty easy going and kind. They value a person's character over everything so it's pretty easy to get along with them. For that I am forever grateful. But some in laws are nightmare in laws.
Yeah, I think it's nice to have children when you are over 25. More mature and grounded. Most important thing is we have the energy and also more patient than our early 20 years. Come to think of it, our marriage is over 7 years now. Time flies. In 3 years it's gonna be a decade long marriage. And I'll be over 32 years old. Hopefully I'll still look young and beautiful like our XiXi. Beauty Gods (well if there's one) please bless me. Please bless all of the beautiful souls of Moonbase with beauty like our XiXi.