Which I found weird, it was like he was traumatized only when the plot required him to be. His child trauma was…
I’m sorry to say it doesn’t work that way, therapy isn’t a cure all, be all. War veteran who experienced something similar to what he did, most of the time stayed with the trauma their entire lifetime. SA victims spend years before being able to be intimate with their partner. Ik that it’s a drama and we don’t need to read too much into it but I don’t think the writers needed to write that about him except for the fact they want the FL to be his healing method but in real life, that situation would be extremely dangerous for him and her. Romance can’t be a simple solution for what would be years of therapy, trying to cope with it. even with all of that, that kind of severe PTSD stays with you and comes back whenever
I liked the first 10 or 11 episodes. They had the right amount of tension, intensity and angst. Beyond that point…
Which I found weird, it was like he was traumatized only when the plot required him to be. His child trauma was easily forgotten, and then they had that the guy was kidnapped and forced to fight for his life. His trauma would work opposite of what they showed meaning hug/physical intimacy would have the reverse effect on him people who been physically abuse tend to find physical intimacy to be triggering even if it was a love one. He would be emotionally numb, hypervigilant meaning he would be in a constant flight or fight mode, and most importantly he would find coping with every day mundane life hard
I wanted to love the drama for the FL actress but I ended up disliking it mainly because how they treated the ML, he became too passive in the story and lovesick… he was sold as a cold calculative person but then they strip him of his agency, meaning a lot of dire stuff were happening around him but he kept ignoring them to focus/chasing again again after the FL. I didn’t get why he fell in love with her and kept ignoring her boundaries, when she says no the dude just straight up ignores it. In the end, they frame her making that choice as a tragic romantic one but I saw it as just a a cheap plot device to make her seems like she sacrifice a lot for him.. if I’m being honest, the one who hurt the Ml the most is the FL but then again he was a non-character that didn’t get the chance to explore his emotions.. in the end he’s just another basic simp that is there to compliment the Fl
Since it’s been heavily recommended for me, I decided to watch it and I gotta say I didn’t like the ending. Let me start by saying what happened to the fl was monstrous, but I think the writers used that as a shield to protect her to make the audience feel sorry for her. The ML went to hell and back for her but the FL treated him as nothing more than her backup plan. she only chose him after she’s left with no other options. When she went back home after realized the things the ML did for her, had she truly chosen the ml she would have divorced her husband right there and wait for him to come back. she changed her mind bcuz of how the Ahole husband acted I was desperately hoping for a gone with the wind ending where the ml realize his worth and gave her the famous frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn It’s not that I wish harm for her but behind the romanticized framing of the story, the FL cast aside the ML throughout the drama while his entire being is the fl. She never truly picked the Ml in my opinion, it’s only when he was her only choice that she gave him a chance. The drama is the perfect example of nice guy finish last.
War veteran who experienced something similar to what he did, most of the time stayed with the trauma their entire lifetime. SA victims spend years before being able to be intimate with their partner.
Ik that it’s a drama and we don’t need to read too much into it but I don’t think the writers needed to write that about him except for the fact they want the FL to be his healing method but in real life, that situation would be extremely dangerous for him and her.
Romance can’t be a simple solution for what would be years of therapy, trying to cope with it. even with all of that, that kind of severe PTSD stays with you and comes back whenever
people who been physically abuse tend to find physical intimacy to be triggering even if it was a love one. He would be emotionally numb, hypervigilant meaning he would be in a constant flight or fight mode, and most importantly he would find coping with every day mundane life hard
The ML went to hell and back for her but the FL treated him as nothing more than her backup plan. she only chose him after she’s left with no other options. When she went back home after realized the things the ML did for her, had she truly chosen the ml she would have divorced her husband right there and wait for him to come back. she changed her mind bcuz of how the Ahole husband acted
I was desperately hoping for a gone with the wind ending where the ml realize his worth and gave her the famous frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn
It’s not that I wish harm for her but behind the romanticized framing of the story, the FL cast aside the ML throughout the drama while his entire being is the fl. She never truly picked the Ml in my opinion, it’s only when he was her only choice that she gave him a chance. The drama is the perfect example of nice guy finish last.