I feel like the missing piece to understand CH's mother is to remember that she is poor, comes from a poor family, and a simple life accident like a pipe flood can upend her whole life.
She has never known safety, and as she said herself, resigned herself to never knowing it. She has to just accept a life of hard work and scraping by. She dreams of a simple life.
Some would say that's already what she has, but it is false. You cannot live on a precipice and lead a peaceful life. To feel peace, you need to feel secure; to feel secure, you need to have money to protect yourself from the uncertainties of life.
She is absolutely driven by fear and anxiety, and they are both her worst advisers. And that is something her family understands, and that's why they are so accommodating.
She is like a cornered animal seeking a way out whatever the cost. Her fear and her hopes drive her decisions. CH was right to say her mother is using her to fulfill her own wishes and aspirations for her own life, but she is not even aware of it.
She wanted better for herself and never got it. All her hopes for betterment were transferred to her children; they need to succeed where she failed. They need to do and be everything she wasn't able to do.
And she feels they owe it to her for all the sacrifices she made for them.
I will say people who are poor or come from immigrant families will probably resonate a lot with this family dynamic and have more room for understanding her mom than most.
This post was not to excuse her poor decision-making skills, but to explain her to people who see in her almost a caricature.
I can assure you there are hundreds of thousands of Cheng Huan's moms in this world.
The episodes go by so quickly though! Didnt thinkI could withstand a so long modern drama, but so many things are happening and the directing is great, so times flew.
I love his personality too, but I wish we saw things from his perspective a bit more often.
Its probably coming now, the Xin family arc is over, and the break with her mom happened too, he will probably be much more central from now on to the last episodes.
When will the Mother of ChengHuan ever learn her lessons? Even after the engagement party, her attitude stays…
She is not going to have a 360° transformation. This type of person will persuade themselves that they were in the right because their "intention" was good. They tend to be very egocentric, and only mind their own feelings. It will probably take a lot of time, shocks and self-reflection for to change.
I love how complex the Male Lead's characterization is to the point we nver quite know if he is genuine or he is scheming or he is both, because he probably doesnt know either 😭😂
Agreed. The family doesn't do anything when she oversteps boundaries. It's fine to forgive someone, but you need…
She is so overbearing, dramatic and guilt-tripping that is hard to resist against her. I think they did a wholesome job of recreating this kind of dynamic.
Its a MDL thing. Haters of main actor/actress usually flood MDL. You will see the true ratings emerge usually 1-2months after the end of airing, when genuine persons rate the drama.
I was so looking forward to watch this drama as i liked the trailer n the pairing of yangzi n xukai, but i m a…
This is a family book/drama that centers firt and foremost around the relationship between mother and daughter, romance is only secondary. You can literally check the tags of this drama on mydramalist.
It is not because a drama is not to your taste that it is a bad drama.
It's an excellent drama, From top notch acting from the wholecast, to directing, lighting and dialogues. It addresses so many family, society and job issues.
If you're looking for a silly idol romance drama you're not going to find it here.
hope they update the episodes to 40 now since its no longer 60 eps.
But the story is made of 4 books, just the first book warrant at least 12-15 episodes(after reading it) so 60 episodes seem pretty good sized storytelling wise.
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She has never known safety, and as she said herself, resigned herself to never knowing it. She has to just accept a life of hard work and scraping by. She dreams of a simple life.
Some would say that's already what she has, but it is false. You cannot live on a precipice and lead a peaceful life. To feel peace, you need to feel secure; to feel secure, you need to have money to protect yourself from the uncertainties of life.
She is absolutely driven by fear and anxiety, and they are both her worst advisers. And that is something her family understands, and that's why they are so accommodating.
She is like a cornered animal seeking a way out whatever the cost. Her fear and her hopes drive her decisions. CH was right to say her mother is using her to fulfill her own wishes and aspirations for her own life, but she is not even aware of it.
She wanted better for herself and never got it. All her hopes for betterment were transferred to her children; they need to succeed where she failed. They need to do and be everything she wasn't able to do.
And she feels they owe it to her for all the sacrifices she made for them.
I will say people who are poor or come from immigrant families will probably resonate a lot with this family dynamic and have more room for understanding her mom than most.
This post was not to excuse her poor decision-making skills, but to explain her to people who see in her almost a caricature.
I can assure you there are hundreds of thousands of Cheng Huan's moms in this world.
They tend to be very egocentric, and only mind their own feelings.
It will probably take a lot of time, shocks and self-reflection for to change.
The actress playing ChengHuan'smother is just beyond words.
Her acting is so flawless, so natural, that it feels like she is Wan Yu. That's why everyone loves to hate her with such a force.
It is not because a drama is not to your taste that it is a bad drama.
It's an excellent drama, From top notch acting from the wholecast, to directing, lighting and dialogues. It addresses so many family, society and job issues.
If you're looking for a silly idol romance drama you're not going to find it here.