TaleNeverTold

See, my original post was not about hating YX, just about surprise that some are willing to forgive his ‘red flag’ behavior citing his ‘penance bow’ or some unseen acts of service that he has rendered the FL in the novel - because to me none of this suffice. I also made an assumption that maybe the fact that actor is well liked, it can tint the perception of the character. At no point have I mentioned his looks or his quality of acting or quality of show writing. Just simple ‘the character does bad things, why forgive him so easy?’ comment. And I know that ‘pretty privilege’ is not stemming from my comment directly but since I’m one of ‘you guys’ I will respectfully offer my five cents too.

Please, do specify which part of my original message qualifies as ‘targeting actor’. Also, yes, I do consider myself old as I’m older than this show ‘old uncle’. My age allows me to see problematic behavior and not romanticize abuse.

I specifically made a point that I do not refer back to novel for my judgement of a character and only assess him based on the drama. I did not talk about the actor, I don’t even know who he is. I merely pointed out that he must be someone famous/an idol so maybe some love for the actor translates to unwarranted love for his character, as means of explanation why people defend the character.

I’m genuinely perplexed by some people defending Ye Xian’s ‘right to love’ and saying that he has redeemed himself before FL by bowing to her mother’s tablet, also quoting the original novel as the source for background information on all his good deeds towards FL. First, I think by now we’ve established that the drama does not follow the novel that close and is a sort of fan fiction of the original novel, so this Ye Xian should be taken in the context of what he’s done in the drama. Second, no amount of cowtowing covers for the fact that he was VIOLENT to people around him and FL too… am I just old enough to understand this simple concept? Manners maketh the man and Ye Xian clearly hasn’t learned enough manners yet to count as one.
P.S. I have a suspicion that Ye Xian’s popularity has something to do with the actor who plays him and his novel arc (I think there’s some character growth/redemption there). But since I don’t know the actor and as far as drama Ye Xian stands circa episode 14… yeah, no, he’s eons away from atoning and being forgiven.

You are correct, I genuinely dislike that manchild for the very simple reason that he is violent to those he sees beneath him and cowardly in the face of stronger opponents. More than once he’d tried to intimidate or hurt people around him for his own amusement (remember gun incident?) or out of uncontrolled anger (he did HIT the FL, did he not?). So his poor attempts in wooing the FL are just annoying to me but don’t add much to my dislike for him. He’s just NOT A GOOD MAN and he doesn’t even try to be a better one.

He does. Babe says goodbye to him and asks him to be a better friend to him in the next life.