It’s interesting how so many people are quick to tear apart Tushan Jing calling him weak, passive, or cowardly but stay completely silent when it comes to the serious flaws of the other characters.
Xiang Liu – A Harmful Lover
Xiang Liu is a complex character cold exterior, deep emotions, and a love that he could never fully express. But romanticizing him too much often ignores the very real emotional damage he inflicted on Xiaoyao.
1. Push-Pull Emotional Dynamic Xiang Liu loved Xiaoyao, but he constantly sent her mixed signals saving her, protecting her, then pushing her away coldly cowardly. This created an unhealthy attachment where Xiaoyao was stuck in confusion and longing, always unsure of his intentions.
2. Refused to Give Her a Future He knew he was dying and never tried to give Xiaoyao a real chance at a future with him. He chose to love from the shadows, never allowing her to make her own decision. That's not nobility, it's control wrapped in sacrifice.
3. Emotional With holding as a Weapon He made Xiaoyao feel deeply, but never gave her stability. While he claimed to protect her, he also let her suffer emotionally. There were moments where a single word from him could’ve changed everything but he stayed silent.
4. Always in Disguise, Never Truly Present As Fangfeng Bei, he flirted and gave hope. As Xiang Liu, he shut her out. This dual identity was emotionally manipulative. Whether intentional or not, it created a kind of emotional entrapment for Xiaoya tied to someone who would never stay.
Cang Xuan – The Ambitious Brother Who Always Chose Power
Cang Xuan’s love for Xiaoyao was real but so was his self-interest, his ambition, and his constant need to control. His flaws often get brushed aside with “he did it for the throne,” but the emotional cost to Xiaoyao was immense.
1. Used Xiaoyao as a Tool Repeatedly, he placed politics over her well-being. From forcing her into public appearances to using her connections and status to support his own rise he treated her like an asset, not a sister or someome he loved deeply.
2. Jealous Possessiveness He didn't want Xiaoyao to love anyone else not Jing, not Xiang Liu. But he didn’t want her for himself either (romantically). He wanted to own her loyalty, while refusing to give her the freedom to choose her own path.
3. Emotional Guilt-Tripping Cang Xuan often used guilt "I’m your only family" or "do this for me" to manipulate her. He assumed she owed him loyalty because of their shared past, ignoring the fact that she also suffered because of him.
4. Never Protected Her When It Counted When Xiaoyao was suffering most (being disfigured, poisoned, emotionally unstable), he was focused on alliances and survival. His protective gestures came late, and often after Jing or others had already stepped in.
Feng Long only saw Xiaoyao as a political match. His respect was surface-level, he never once understood or supported her emotionally. That was about status, not love.
Even Xiaoyao had her moments of selfishness brushing off Jing’s pain, emotionally distancing herself, and refusing to acknowledge her own feelings until it was almost too late.
So why is Jing the only one held to an impossible standard?
He was gentle, loyal, and consistent in a world full of manipulation, war, and broken promises. Did he make mistakes? Yes but he also fought quietly against a toxic family, risked his life to be with Xiaoyao, and always put her first even when it cost him everything.
Criticizing Jing while excusing everyone else isn’t analysis it’s bias.
Xiang Liu and Cang Xuan both loved Xiaoyao in their own way, but love without responsibility, consistency, or respect for her choices is not true love.
So when people harshly judge Tushan Jing who may be flawed, but always tried to be present and gentle, it’s important to ask Why are the emotionally unavailable, power-hungry, or self-sacrificing-but-controlling men given a free pass, while the one who stayed is picked apart? lol
Me too. It's almost 26 I can't help missing him. Deng Wei is my most favorite.
I knew him from MTD I was impressed by his acting and I always thought he will became a big actor and than years later I watched LYF I get to see him here as Tushan Jing and I can't help being his big fan. Always search him in Weibo insta .
Deng Wei, you have such a wonderful genuine presence it's always a pleasure to be around you. Your quiet strength and kind humble nature make a big difference, even in the smallest moments. Your everything leaves a last impression on me. Keep going best of luck. 🤍
I think you can watch it for Tushan Jing. Which character breaked Tencent Historys million records Deng Wei 🤍
I like Tushan Jing this is my choice . I didn't tell anyone to became his fan .You can do whatever you want. MDL is for everyone. I don't said you to like Tushan Jing. I respect everyones choice so they should.
I think you can watch it for Tushan Jing. Which character breaked Tencent Historys million records Deng Wei 🤍
You have your opinion so say that but you don't have to disagree with my opinion. Every one should respect each other choices. For watching lyf I think you should choose for don't getting depressed🙂 Because everyone lost everything although Jing get Xiaoyao and their ending was not so nice at least at last you will not get depressed for choosing cang Xuan or xiangliu
We all like what we like. But again, I disagree with your white washing take on Jing and his actions.Most importantly,…
While watching the drama I even don't thought Xiangliu is ml I didn't liked when xiaoyao go with him. But after watching the drama I seen Xiangliu is also male lead I didn't believed it .
Jing life became better I agree he deserve that. He was good at everything. Just he became kind to everyone he helped everyone . Some people don't see that. He didn't get a life partner who love him whole heartedly. xiaoyao cang xuan xianglius life also became better. xiangliu also was so dirty even he was prisoner. His life also became better cang Xuan became emperor xiaoyao also return to her father get a happy life. Ever character was in a sadness they don't get anything Wich they wished for.
We all like what we like. But again, I disagree with your white washing take on Jing and his actions.Most importantly,…
If she wanted she could live with him. It's ok xl always pushed her away because of his loyalty for his foster father. But she didn't take a chance to wait for him she was selfish. She just wanted anyone who could love her in her lifetime. When I watched this drama I didn't thinked xl is also male lead I thought cang Xuan than when Jing come I always feel he is the lead I always wish his life become better but tong hua and the production team didn't give him much importance as an actor Deng Wei even breaked Tencent Historys millions record. But he didn't get any project for several months for some toxic people.
I think you can watch it for Tushan Jing. Which character breaked Tencent Historys million records Deng Wei 🤍
I also didn't ask for your opinion🙂 I don't care about any OP. Every single character is important for me . White hair , chubby I like this but I can't like Xiangliu . My favorite character is Tushan Jing.
I think you can watch it for Tushan Jing. Which character breaked Tencent Historys million records Deng Wei 🤍
Any single drama is not about a single person. They show life's tragedy adventure hardships. I always like every single character in every drama. But in this drama I specially fall for Tushan Jing. Because he always pure heartedly loved Xiaoyao. Her wish was anyone will love her don't abandon her wait for her in every lifetime. So Jing is the person who waited for her who loved her. Although they make this characte like no one should like but in this world this character is the most every single person want.
Xiang Liu – A Harmful Lover
Xiang Liu is a complex character cold exterior, deep emotions, and a love that he could never fully express. But romanticizing him too much often ignores the very real emotional damage he inflicted on Xiaoyao.
1. Push-Pull Emotional Dynamic
Xiang Liu loved Xiaoyao, but he constantly sent her mixed signals saving her, protecting her, then pushing her away coldly cowardly. This created an unhealthy attachment where Xiaoyao was stuck in confusion and longing, always unsure of his intentions.
2. Refused to Give Her a Future
He knew he was dying and never tried to give Xiaoyao a real chance at a future with him. He chose to love from the shadows, never allowing her to make her own decision. That's not nobility, it's control wrapped in sacrifice.
3. Emotional With holding as a Weapon
He made Xiaoyao feel deeply, but never gave her stability. While he claimed to protect her, he also let her suffer emotionally. There were moments where a single word from him could’ve changed everything but he stayed silent.
4. Always in Disguise, Never Truly Present
As Fangfeng Bei, he flirted and gave hope. As Xiang Liu, he shut her out. This dual identity was emotionally manipulative. Whether intentional or not, it created a kind of emotional entrapment for Xiaoya tied to someone who would never stay.
Cang Xuan – The Ambitious Brother Who Always Chose Power
Cang Xuan’s love for Xiaoyao was real but so was his self-interest, his ambition, and his constant need to control. His flaws often get brushed aside with “he did it for the throne,” but the emotional cost to Xiaoyao was immense.
1. Used Xiaoyao as a Tool
Repeatedly, he placed politics over her well-being. From forcing her into public appearances to using her connections and status to support his own rise he treated her like an asset, not a sister or someome he loved deeply.
2. Jealous Possessiveness
He didn't want Xiaoyao to love anyone else not Jing, not Xiang Liu. But he didn’t want her for himself either (romantically). He wanted to own her loyalty, while refusing to give her the freedom to choose her own path.
3. Emotional Guilt-Tripping
Cang Xuan often used guilt "I’m your only family" or "do this for me" to manipulate her. He assumed she owed him loyalty because of their shared past, ignoring the fact that she also suffered because of him.
4. Never Protected Her When It Counted
When Xiaoyao was suffering most (being disfigured, poisoned, emotionally unstable), he was focused on alliances and survival. His protective gestures came late, and often after Jing or others had already stepped in.
Feng Long only saw Xiaoyao as a political match. His respect was surface-level, he never once understood or supported her emotionally. That was about status, not love.
Even Xiaoyao had her moments of selfishness brushing off Jing’s pain, emotionally distancing herself, and refusing to acknowledge her own feelings until it was almost too late.
So why is Jing the only one held to an impossible standard?
He was gentle, loyal, and consistent in a world full of manipulation, war, and broken promises. Did he make mistakes? Yes but he also fought quietly against a toxic family, risked his life to be with Xiaoyao, and always put her first even when it cost him everything.
Criticizing Jing while excusing everyone else isn’t analysis it’s bias.
Xiang Liu and Cang Xuan both loved Xiaoyao in their own way, but love without responsibility, consistency, or respect for her choices is not true love.
So when people harshly judge Tushan Jing who may be flawed, but always tried to be present and gentle, it’s important to ask
Why are the emotionally unavailable, power-hungry, or self-sacrificing-but-controlling men given a free pass, while the one who stayed is picked apart? lol
Because everyone lost everything although Jing get Xiaoyao and their ending was not so nice at least at last you will not get depressed for choosing cang Xuan or xiangliu
Jing life became better I agree he deserve that. He was good at everything. Just he became kind to everyone he helped everyone . Some people don't see that. He didn't get a life partner who love him whole heartedly.
xiaoyao cang xuan xianglius life also became better. xiangliu also was so dirty even he was prisoner. His life also became better cang Xuan became emperor xiaoyao also return to her father get a happy life.
Ever character was in a sadness they don't get anything Wich they wished for.