Rachel meets Nathan, a gay man who later marries her due to family's pressure. Unhappy and trapped, Nathan plots his fake death and later undergoes to a sexual reassignment and face surgery in another country. Years later, Rachel meets Gavin and falls for him. Gavin has a wife, Venus whom Rachel will eventually find out to be her former husband.
Cast & Credits
While I admired the way they introduced Nathan's character - a female identity trapped in a male body with all of her angsts and selfish flaws, her jealousy and angry outbursts very quickly became so nauseatingly over-the-top, I often wondered why I even thought she was going to be an interesting character in the first place. That she was actually going to learn and grow and develop into a better version of herself in the course of this show - or if not, then be punished accordingly for all of her wrongdoings.
However, it soon became apparent that "Asawa Ko, Karibal Ko" was not a story about a transgender woman's journey towards freedom and acceptance, nor was it the tale of a selfish person's eventual downfall regardless of her sexuality. Instead, it was just your generic tale of rivalry rife with violence between two women - always initiated by Nathan/Venus - over a male character that I honestly did not find interesting enough to fight for. He's mostly just there so that Venus would continue to have reasons to provoke Rachel over and over. In the long run, Venus' mindless outrage just got really annoying, I wondered why she weren't locked up in a mental institution yet.
And when Venus did change and realized the error of her ways, it felt forced and was already too little too late (you expect me to have sympathy for her now, seriously?!). It did not come as a result of anything other than the fact that the series was about to end. This was never her story. This was never Rachel's story. This was never anybody's story. Because whatever interesting plot, message, and character representation this series intended to have were already long gone before it could even begin to back up whatever valid point it was trying to make.
I wanted so bad to love this show. But it did everything it could to be hatefully stereotypical at each turn. I wish somebody would (re)do this kind of story in a more sensible and relatable way. One that does not just focus on a violent rivalry, but also on the actual growth of its characters.