I think its a miracle he wasnt engaged in domestic abuse and using a concubine to make her life hard like the other novel FL's ex lovers

 Euphoria:

me. I think they're ignoring the part that he hates the FL and her family

I mean besides hating the FL family and all. Her grandfather and uncle was the reason for his father and older brother’s death.

 サモンタ_サン:

I mean besides hating the FL family and all. Her grandfather and uncle was the reason for his father and older brother’s death.

This is why I dont expect him to treat her well. I actually like Wei Shao and thought he was at least decent enough not to treat her like shit. I also dont think he raped her and she cried bc Wei Shao is bad in bed. She even said his skills is terrible 💀💀

 Euphoria:

This is why I dont expect him to treat her well. I actually like Wei Shao and thought he was at least decent enough not to treat her like shit. I also dont think he raped her and she cried bc Wei Shao is bad in bed. She even said his skills is terrible ??

I like Wei Shao too I mean at least he didn’t beat her. He never touched her until his mother drugged him.  He’s more intrigued by her I like to say lol and about the in bed part, I mean they’re married. Although she didn’t consent to most of what they did behind doors/curtains, she still has rights to her body. She cried because he was aggressively rough in bed. He wasn’t being gentle enough.

 サモンタ_サン:

I like Wei Shao too I mean at least he didn’t beat her. He never touched her until his mother drugged him.  He’s more intrigued by her I like to say lol and about the in bed part, I mean they’re married. Although she didn’t consent to most of what they did behind doors/curtains, she still has rights to her body. She cried because he was aggressively rough in bed. He wasn’t being gentle enough.

I 100% agree. Maybe I have bias bc of LYN, but I still think he wasn't an asshole like they make him to be. A lot of time, ppl only think from FL perspective without considering the ML's perspective. I mean he treated her like a main wife deserved to be treated and never do underhanded schemes to make her miserable. In Chinese terms, he didnt make her 穿小鞋 "wear small shoes" and defended her in front of his mom. Sure he made her cry, but that was bc he was rough in bed Lol. He have the bed skills of Luo BingHe 2.0 

 Euphoria:

I 100% agree. Maybe I have bias bc of LYN, but I still think he wasn't an asshole like they make him to be. A lot of time, ppl only think from FL perspective without considering the ML's perspective. I mean he treated her like a main wife deserved to be treated and never do underhanded schemes to make her miserable. In Chinese terms, he didnt make her 穿小鞋 "wear small shoes" and defended her in front of his mom. Sure he made her cry, but that was bc he was rough in bed Lol. He have the bed skills of Luo BingHe 2.0 

I definitely concur! I like LYN and especially as Wei Shao.  Saw the trailer, read the novel, and no can play Wei Shao other than LYN such a perfect role for him. Love his voice too!! It seems like novel Wei Shao is more nice than drama Wei Shao. And yes, he chose FL over his cousin and ex-lover. I’m sure he treated her like that because he didn’t want to ruin the family name like how would the people see him and his noble family. I’d rather have him ignore her than do schemes on her or use his ex-lover to hurt FL feelings. Other than that Wei Shao isn’t a bad character I concur. Not only did he defended her in front of his mom, he also helped her by accepting the gift she gave his mother so she could stand up. When I read novels and watch dramas, I usually see it from both leads perspective. I’m glad I’m able to discuss this with you. Thought I was the only one thinking Wei Shao wasn’t a bad character. I bought the book translated in Thai, and I’m translating it to English. It’s cut down a little but details are still there.

 サモンタ_サン:
I definitely concur! I like LYN and especially as Wei Shao.  Saw the trailer, read the novel, and no can play Wei Shao other than LYN such a perfect role for him. Love his voice too!! It seems like novel Wei Shao is more nice than drama Wei Shao. And yes, he chose FL over his cousin and ex-lover. I’m sure he treated her like that because he didn’t want to ruin the family name like how would the people see him and his noble family. I’d rather have him ignore her than do schemes on her or use his ex-lover to hurt FL feelings. Other than that Wei Shao isn’t a bad character I concur. Not only did he defended her in front of his mom, he also helped her by accepting the gift she gave his mother so she could stand up. When I read novels and watch dramas, I usually see it from both leads perspective. I’m glad I’m able to discuss this with you. Thought I was the only one thinking Wei Shao wasn’t a bad character. I bought the book translated in Thai, and I’m translating it to English. It’s cut down a little but details are still there.

right?? Idk what people were expecting from him, he's definitely not the flawless/fall at first sight/all hearts for FL type ML.  I even thought he treated her with proper respect. He even went to rescue her when she was captured which he totally wouldn't have to and considering his hatred. He didn't make her lose face in front of the servants and slept with her. Bc if he slept somewhere else, we know for sure in that setting and period, FL is gonna have a hard time standing in the Wei Family. I also noticed he was actually nicer in the novel. In the trailor, he was pretty aggressive compare to how he was in the novel. 

@Euphoria exactly he treated her nice in the novel he gave her title and his room. He could have done way worse in his position but he didn’t. He even led her back to his mansion. I was shocked when he put his hand on her neck I was like novel Wei Shao never did that or even pushed her to the ground.  Of course they would make him aggressive in the drama. 

 サモンタ_サン:

Am I the only one who thinks he’s not a jerk like others are saying he is 

I don't think he is bad. He has great enmity with the FL family which is understandable. With the arranged marriage he thought of just making Qiao girl primarily a wife figure and he can choose to have concubines, but he did not do that. And when the the Qiao uncle put his general in danger and made his soldiers die due to schemes of Liu Yan, then finding that FL mistrusted him, I was surprised it did not take him long to forgive her. He also humbly ask her to love him as he loves her and to bear him children and never leave him. With the trust issues and revenge as the focal point, I thought he treated her so well. 

Glad I’m not the only one. He did treat her well too well for that era.  Felt like he liked her from the start and was making her his asking her to love him like you said