I understand your way of thinking, but usually its girl do all this sacrifices in real life and especially in…
I am not strict towards female characters, but for this scenario, I am really troubled, always FL making sacrifices I know very well. Beleive I have seen series with angst where FL is used like a scape goat. But that has nothing to do with this couple right? You can't expect them to make compromise, just because girls in other dramas are understanding.
I am talking about this couple. And in this couple, boy has carried their relationship. FL only grew after her tragic incident. Like I said both of them are not wrong. Had the boy was not compromising so much, It wouldn't have bothered me, but literally he is the one making sacrifices.
I am just looking for a right solution, but he ends up making sacrifice again.
Please, if you're going to consume media from different cultures, try to learn about their culture and the origins…
Thank you for your input, I am very well aware of PDAs and culture. I am respectful to all culture, but it is my personal opinion, and "i" said I don't like it, and I never said anything derogatory about anyone. Hope you understand my point of view as well. I come from a background, where sniff-kiss is another, there is no PDA culture.
the bastard of a fiance is fucking unhappy, anybody can see that, she forced her onto him... they will breakup when 2FL will realise it was wrong to force him, and SML will try to come to FL, but she will already be in relationship with ML. So, 2ML will at the end truly come to like 2FL.
So the Kiss curse has been broken. Please someone confirm if it isn't CGI or camera angle trick because it didn't looked like one. Now they being together look perfect. Physical touch in relationship is vital. 70% is about sexual tension and 30% other things. If you don't have 70%, no relationship can survive on this planet. No matter how much in love you are.
Bai jiting also went back to his words with You Are My Hero.
I liked it. A typical no-fault guy with bumpy girl. Boy fell in love wl because she is the one he was looking for. Very fast paced for 2 epsiodes. But 40 epsiodes not sure. It could have been a done deal in 24.
But the QR thing was like godly. Even a photographic memory one can't pull that shit.
I like it. There is going to come a tragic turn for ML as his past truth will be revealed. And FL which he can only see in color will come to heal as well.
When two people are in relationship, and they love each other deeply. Their circumstances of relationship are optimal and they are match made perfect. However, those two people, when it comes to compromise only 1 person gives in, always.
HFM and ZY, are cutest couple, and HFM has grown up after Ep. 18, like 360 degree change in attitude, and thinking. But she still can be found irrational sometime, which is like no problem.
They were having this big issue of moving, she wants to move back to her city, and he wants to stay in his city. Situation is very realistic, both are absolutely right in their place, she wants to go back to look after her dad, while he has everything in his city. They first fight and had problems, but HFM handles things maturely, there I am all good.
But the question lies, which one should compromise, if boy does that, then it was unfair, no matter how much love is involved. And if girl does that, she is not wrong, as it is not her city, she has to take care of her grieving father.
So how duck in? The girl writes this article, based on her seemingly doom relationship and the boy reads it, and go back to their memories how they started and in fear of losing her, he ends up going to shanghai. I don’t know if that was a slod reason.
HFM also reconsider, and tried to stay in Beijing for a time being, but when boy let her have it, they decide for Shanghai.
I am troubled actually, one had to scarifies, and in this couple relationship it was always boy who did that. I just unable to blame girl or boy for this decision, but I am troubled and at unease to what the solution could have been.
Love, sure solves things, but if you make too much sacrifices in name of love, love vanishes. I am just not happy for them to go to shanghai. It is not girls’ fault and it is not boys fault. I am just troubled by this.
It doesn't necessarily mean you will warm up to both of them. Personally even though I like the story of the ML…
I don't think it is based on book, rather it is influenced by it.
The book does talk about rejection of love, unacceptance, an people who never took him seriously, but the writer doesn't portray himself as angel.
In the novel, ML was not loved by his father, but in story it seems, he misses is father, also, his in influent member. Also, in book, ML is rich, and his depression and problems aren't stemmed from money or poverty.
They did use elements, but it is not enough to say it is based on book.
How ironic it is, because of someone having prejudice against the FL for not conceding to ML affection, are rating this show low - is a bad example of a "watcher". I mean you only watched this drama for FL to fall for ML? What about their journey, pain and growth? Other characters.
May be this series don't give nay life lesson, or philosophy on life, but it does leave you with a sense of satisfaction.
XJ above all is the most human character in this drama, who pursued her love, even knowing she will fail. And so did ML. No one was wrong, each three loved the person who couldn't love them back. But in the end they came where the belonged.
I can not fathom, what more she could have done to please all the naysayers.
But for me the girl is rapist. And nobody said a word. She did the same thing a cunning boy would do to a girl.…
If it was other way around everyone would have blamed boy.
You also have this in mind, he could have stopped her, because he is man and he is more powerful than her.
But thats not the case, masculinity can not overpowers vulnerability.
Rape is not ONLY a forced sex.
Rape is taking advantage of someone who is not ready or don't know anything.
She threw herself on him, kissed him, invited him with ulterior motives, and then she talked dirty, and pulled him to a room, and had SEX, not initiated by both but one person.
When you are growing sure you have all kind of urges, Qiqi, "was snot insane", I admit - but he was oblivious, she observed him in school, and she found her prey and hunted him. So yes it is a rape.
And that shameless women, told him to take care of their daughter, parents and even pathetic women asked him not to let anyone take advantage of him, as SHE DID.
And he could only say, "he did it because he wanted to" - no he didn't but he could not refuse anymore, the shame and all the pain he went through.
His parents in law giving him money all, doesn't cut the humiliation and pain he went through.
If things are bad for women, and we say all kind of things, but in rare cases when men are truly innocent, we don't voice for them. This I hate the most.
I know women has always suffered more than man, but it is not about men or women, it is about destroying someone live, no mater what the gender is.
16 tables is considered a lot for a wedding?? Gosh the weddings in China must be quite small!
It was for engagement anyway. That's why they considered it big. In East Asia for example China these days nobody do engagement stuff. Only rich people. Or some South Asian countries still do grand engagement parties such as India, or Pakistan etc.
I also attended a wedding of my close friend in Nanjing. Though it was small wedding but the table counting is just a number.
From what I've seen so far episode 7, the ex-fiancé seems to be really in love with the ML's sister, so it's…
but he still need to give her a fucking reason. you can't fucking say i stopped loving you thats why he ran off from engagement. and how the fuck he is in love with her. My ass. if he really stopped loving her, he is jerk and bastard. son of bitch and dog.
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I am talking about this couple. And in this couple, boy has carried their relationship. FL only grew after her tragic incident. Like I said both of them are not wrong. Had the boy was not compromising so much, It wouldn't have bothered me, but literally he is the one making sacrifices.
I am just looking for a right solution, but he ends up making sacrifice again.
Bai jiting also went back to his words with You Are My Hero.
But the QR thing was like godly. Even a photographic memory one can't pull that shit.
I like it. There is going to come a tragic turn for ML as his past truth will be revealed. And FL which he can only see in color will come to heal as well.
When two people are in relationship, and they love each other deeply. Their circumstances of relationship are optimal and they are match made perfect. However, those two people, when it comes to compromise only 1 person gives in, always.
HFM and ZY, are cutest couple, and HFM has grown up after Ep. 18, like 360 degree change in attitude, and thinking. But she still can be found irrational sometime, which is like no problem.
They were having this big issue of moving, she wants to move back to her city, and he wants to stay in his city. Situation is very realistic, both are absolutely right in their place, she wants to go back to look after her dad, while he has everything in his city. They first fight and had problems, but HFM handles things maturely, there I am all good.
But the question lies, which one should compromise, if boy does that, then it was unfair, no matter how much love is involved. And if girl does that, she is not wrong, as it is not her city, she has to take care of her grieving father.
So how duck in? The girl writes this article, based on her seemingly doom relationship and the boy reads it, and go back to their memories how they started and in fear of losing her, he ends up going to shanghai. I don’t know if that was a slod reason.
HFM also reconsider, and tried to stay in Beijing for a time being, but when boy let her have it, they decide for Shanghai.
I am troubled actually, one had to scarifies, and in this couple relationship it was always boy who did that. I just unable to blame girl or boy for this decision, but I am troubled and at unease to what the solution could have been.
Love, sure solves things, but if you make too much sacrifices in name of love, love vanishes. I am just not happy for them to go to shanghai. It is not girls’ fault and it is not boys fault. I am just troubled by this.
Please tell me how bad is the cheating involved. like sleeping with other husbands. and blood boil?
The book does talk about rejection of love, unacceptance, an people who never took him seriously, but the writer doesn't portray himself as angel.
In the novel, ML was not loved by his father, but in story it seems, he misses is father, also, his in influent member. Also, in book, ML is rich, and his depression and problems aren't stemmed from money or poverty.
They did use elements, but it is not enough to say it is based on book.
May be this series don't give nay life lesson, or philosophy on life, but it does leave you with a sense of satisfaction.
XJ above all is the most human character in this drama, who pursued her love, even knowing she will fail. And so did ML. No one was wrong, each three loved the person who couldn't love them back. But in the end they came where the belonged.
I can not fathom, what more she could have done to please all the naysayers.
You also have this in mind, he could have stopped her, because he is man and he is more powerful than her.
But thats not the case, masculinity can not overpowers vulnerability.
Rape is not ONLY a forced sex.
Rape is taking advantage of someone who is not ready or don't know anything.
She threw herself on him, kissed him, invited him with ulterior motives, and then she talked dirty, and pulled him to a room, and had SEX, not initiated by both but one person.
When you are growing sure you have all kind of urges, Qiqi, "was snot insane", I admit - but he was oblivious, she observed him in school, and she found her prey and hunted him. So yes it is a rape.
And that shameless women, told him to take care of their daughter, parents and even pathetic women asked him not to let anyone take advantage of him, as SHE DID.
And he could only say, "he did it because he wanted to" - no he didn't but he could not refuse anymore, the shame and all the pain he went through.
His parents in law giving him money all, doesn't cut the humiliation and pain he went through.
If things are bad for women, and we say all kind of things, but in rare cases when men are truly innocent, we don't voice for them. This I hate the most.
I know women has always suffered more than man, but it is not about men or women, it is about destroying someone live, no mater what the gender is.
I also attended a wedding of my close friend in Nanjing. Though it was small wedding but the table counting is just a number.