I'm starting to get really frustrated and heartbroken over XW's situation. It just shows how badly his parents failed to be the people he should rely on. Watching him shoulder everything on his own is painful, especially when even his mother—the one I've practically given up on—told him not to carry all the burdens by himself, yet he still insisted.
Then when QY offered to help by tutoring the new guy to contribute to their grandmother's hospital expenses, XW begged her not to. I feel like that could stem from two reasons, either he didn't want to place any burden on her or there was a hint of jealousy involved. Perhaps, both? To top it all off, he nearly gave up on his education, like he’s just at the end of it. It's honestly wild how one problem managed to snowball into something so much worse.
And don't even get me started on those bullies. They are absolutely awful, pathetic, insecure people—especially that one girl. The way she kept on trying to drag QY down pisses me off.
Nonetheless, no matter what happens, I'm never giving up on XW. His words, his actions, everything about him feels so genuine and pure. Sometimes, it feels like nobody deserves someone like him. Despite everything on his plate, he always makes sure QY is safe and happy.
And can we talk about that shower scene? Wow. Then that ending scene (almost) in Episode 16? I knew it. It gave off such a strong "that's my girl" energy. The moment XW told QY, "Run forward, catch up," I literally screamed.
“Every cloud has a silver lining”—meaning even the darkest situations can hide something hopeful.
PROS: I understand why some viewers felt that these episodes were a bit repetitive, and to some extent, I agree. However, I still enjoyed them because they gave us more insights about the characters and added depth to QY and XW's relationship.
What stood out to me the most was how the episodes highlighted QY's growth and personality as an individual. She did an amazing job during her task - when she had to speak in English, and also from that one instance, when two girls came up to her and I loved how she stood up for herself against those bullies. Indeed, she's clearly not someone who backs down when challenged. I also would like to add some of my favorite moments like the hair-washing scene, the self-defense lesson, and of course, the toy scene (iykyk), plus how XW followed her all the way to her school - boy, he immediately grabbed the chance as soon as she said about how he has to protect her.
Can we also talk about how straightforward QY is? One of my favorite things about her is that she's never afraid to say exactly what she's thinking 😂
Lastly, I have to mention this line:
"Even a paper plane can find a new way to stay in the air"
Such a simple sentence, yet it carries so much meaning. Definitely one of the most memorable lines from the episode.
CONS: As for XW's mom, I've always tried to view her character with some understanding. I gave her the benefit of the doubt because I never saw her as the typical antagonistic or villainous parent. Although I wasn't happy with some of her actions as a mother, her positive qualities often made me overlook her flaws. I kept trying to understand where she was coming from, seeing her as someone whose shortcomings were shaped by her struggles and past experiences. That's why I continued to empathize with her—at least from the previous episodes, not until this recent one. It's really dumb and it didn't make sense to me. QY had already expressed her concerns about adding the eyebrow tattoo services when they were promoting the business, pointing out that they should focus first on what they were ACTUALLY CAPABLE OF offering at the moment. Despite that, XW's mom pushed forward with the idea and worse, by PRACTICING it to a CUSTOMER, like c'mon. Why would you even do that? (I need to talk to the writers) Now, we all saw how that turned out. What frustrated me the most was that the whole situation felt avoidable from the very beginning. In my previous review, I mentioned that one of the things I appreciated about the drama was how its conflicts felt realistic and grounded. However, this one is really . . questionable.
Another thing that i've noticed was XW's school situation. He was absent for nearly two years, yet he was still enrolled and hadn't been dropped. Maybe there are schools where that kind of arrangement is possible, but from my country, it's impossible.
OVERALL: I have mixed feelings about the current episodes. It's already like halfway of the drama. The writers set the bar high from the beginning, and I hope they can wrap things up in a way that lives up to that strong start.
I'm so happy to see the rating climb from 7.9 to 8.3 and it even made its way to the top 10 'cause it really deserves the hype/recognition, like I honestly just can't get enough of it. I'm especially excited to see how QY and XW continue to grow closer and become more honest about what they truly feel for each other. Well, that final scene in Episode 12? It cracked me up—I had to replay it more than once.
On a more serious note, I want to talk about Xingwu's situation because, in some ways, I can relate to what he's going through. Not exactly the same circumstances, but the feeling of slowly losing your passion for something that once meant everything to you. I think the drama portrayed this reality incredibly well.
From an outside perspective, it's easy to say that Xingwu should simply go back to school and pursue what he loves. But life is rarely that simple. When you've gone through certain experiences and carry responsibilities that directly affect the people you care about, your own dreams often become secondary. You start prioritizing stability over passion, survival over fulfillment.
What makes Xingwu's story so heartbreaking is that his decision doesn't come from a lack of ambition or talent — it's rooted in love, responsibility, and sacrifice. When people depend on you, you sometimes convince yourself that giving up a piece of who you are is worth it if it means protecting their happiness and well-being. You tell yourself it's okay to endure the disappointment, the regret, and even the loss of your own identity because at least the people you love are okay.
That's why his character resonates with me so much. I don't think the drama romanticize his struggles, like dragging it just to gain sympathy or something. Instead, it shows how complicated it is to choose yourself when you've spent so long choosing everyone else. It captures the quiet grief of watching your dreams drift further away while continuing to move forward because you feel like you have no other choice.
More than anything, I'm hoping Xingwu eventually realizes that his happiness matters too. Sacrificing for the people you love is admirable, but there comes a point where constantly putting yourself last can leave you feeling empty. I hope he finds the courage to pursue his dreams again (which i believe will happen in the next few episodes) because he deserves the same happiness he's been giving to others.
Thank you. I felt the need to mention all of these because some viewers might hesitate to watch the drama due to the misconception that the main leads are cousins (by blood), which isn't true at all. This drama has so much to offer, and I genuinely believe that anyone who gives it a chance won't regret watching it.
Wrote a review 'cause they didn't release episodes today :((
I honestly don't understand why this drama only has a 7.9/10 rating. It's significantly better than most of the c-dramas i've watched, including the recent ones. It's been a long time since a c-drama had me so invested that I watched every episode as soon as it came out and eagerly waited for new ones to be released.
Usually, what draws me into a drama is the visual appeal and the chemistry between the leads. However, this one stands out because it excels in almost every aspect—characterization, chemistry, storyline, pacing, and overall execution. So far, it feels close to perfect and may even surpass some of the most popular c-dramas i've seen.
If I had to point out one minor flaw, it would be GXT's facial expressions in some of the scenes. Even then, she's still doing an excellent job portraying her character. As for LYR, whom I've previously seen in Blossom and a few guest roles from his other previous dramas, this is easily my favorite performance from him. His portrayal of Xingwu is incredibly charming, especially when he had the blonde hair (though sadly, it didn't last long). Combined with Xingwu's personality, it was impossible not to be captivated. Dang, I wish to find a man like him.
Another thing I appreciate is how refreshingly realistic the main characters are. The male lead isn't portrayed as unrealistically perfect; he's natural, flawed, and relatable in some way. The same goes for the female lead; used to be rich, picky, etc. but not to the point of being a b*tch. While I couldn't stand her during the first few episodes, her character growth and redemption arc gradually won me over. As the story progresses or as she learned from her experiences, adapted to her circumstances, and turned into a matured and reliable woman, I found myself becoming attached to her. Her growth felt earned rather than forced, and by the end, I was rooting for her wholeheartedly. Watching how Xingwu cares for her made me care for her too.
The supporting cast deserves praise as well. Instead of feeling like background decorations or plot devices, they actively contribute to the story and help strengthen the relationships between the characters. I also appreciate that the drama doesn't rely on over-the-top villains to create conflict. Most of the characters feel nuanced and believable rather than cartoonishly evil, like the man who stole her laptop, underwear, and personal belongings—though truth be told, that entire situation was genuinely unsettling and a bit difficult to watch but it happens.
Above all, I'm a fan of how straightforward this drama is. It doesn't get bogged down by excessive side plots, and the story develops at a satisfying pace with enough buildup to keep things engaging. And for anyone assuming this drama involves incest—it doesn't. The leads are not blood-related cousins. They're more like childhood friends whose mothers were extremely close and treated each other like sisters, hence, like a family.
This is a breath of fresh air from the recent k-dramas that have been released so far. It may not be the best, but it’s definitely living up to my expectations. I usually drop shows after one or two episodes if they don’t click with me, but this one actually keeps me wanting for more. I do get some of the criticisms in the comments — a storyline that falls a bit flat, a queen who has interest with the grand prince (the brother of his husband), so on and so forth . . though personally, I see huge potential and I feel like the more it progresses, the more I will see its worth. At the same time, I don’t see any issue(s) with IU and BYW’s acting, as they’re both doing justice to their characters just like in their previous dramas. Specifically, I really appreciated IU’s subtle or micro facial expressions—from her attempts at being playful and sassy to the quiet moments where her loneliness showed because of her father. Overall, based from the given episodes, this is a solid 9/10 for me.
The drama started off incredibly strong, but unfortunately it lost some of its momentum towards the end. Overall, there were so many aspects of the series that I genuinely loved—the characters were compelling, the acting performance was convincing, the storyline had a lot of promise, the cinematography was beautiful, and the chemistry between the leads was undeniable. However, despite these strengths, the drama still had noticeable flaws or it's lacking in some aspects, particularly in how the plot developed as the story moved forward.
The arc set in Lin’an was truly exceptional. The storytelling during that period felt engaging, emotionally layered, and well-paced. It was the point where the drama shined the most for me. However, once the story transitioned into the war camp setting, the narrative started to feel less grounded. Some events and character decisions came across as impulsive or unrealistic, which made certain moments harder to fully believe in or emotionally invest in.
One aspect that frustrated me was how the misunderstandings between the lead characters escalated. Instead of resolving issues through proper communication, their choices often made the situation spiral further out of control. This was particularly noticeable with Changyu. While I appreciate that she is written as a strong and independent character, I felt that she made too many critical decisions entirely on her own. Strength and independence are admirable traits, but in the context of warfare and strategy, acting purely on impulse without considering the larger consequences felt a bit out of place.
By the time the drama reached its finale, I couldn’t help but feel somewhat unsatisfied. The ending left me thinking, “Was that really it?” I expected more closure and especially more scenes between Xie Zheng and Changyu. Their relationship was such a central part of the story that it felt disappointing not to see it explored more deeply in the final scenes/parts of the drama.
While I do love the romantic scenes between Xie Zheng and Changyu but not gonna lie that Yu Qian Qian and Qi Min (Sui Yuan Huai) felt surprisingly more passionate and intense. Their kiss scenes, in particular, had a certain spontaneity and emotional depth that made them particularly captivating.
Despite these criticisms, I still think the drama is quite good overall and, in my opinion, it clearly managed to capture the very essence or the concept of what LOFTG was striving to show. Tian Xi Wei’s portrayal of Fan Changyu was one of the highlights of the series. She truly embodied the character so well that it’s hard to imagine anyone else playing Changyu as convincingly. Her performance added so much depth and authenticity to the role, and she absolutely delivered.
Out of all the men and women, I’d choose Mujin and Bonhee over and over again. Not just because they look adorable together, but because they’ve consistently shown the best attitudes. They’re both emotionally mature—not only with each other, but with the rest of the participants as well. What I appreciate most is that they entered the show with sincere and serious intention, genuinely looking for a relationship and with marriage in mind. The only thing that is concerning is the age gap which is pretty much understandable especially for Bonhee's perspective.
I’ve also seen people criticizing Mujin based on the latest preview, but isn’t that similar to what Bonhee did? She gave Sanghyeon a few opportunities to talk, and during those moments, he openly confessed his feelings, which naturally made her want to get to know him more. The same applies to Mujin and Sohyun. In that one conversation they shared, Mujin felt comfortable enough to open up about something deeply personal which also naturally made him a bit closer to her. He never said he was interested in her; he said he was curious, and there’s nothing wrong with that. That’s literally the point of the show. If anything, I’m glad that Mujin and Bonhee allowed themselves to be open to others because it helps to clarify whether their feelings for each other are genuine and strong.
As for the worst, I’d have to pick Jiyung and Yeeun. Both of them gave off narcissistic vibes to me. It may be related to their professions or something else, but it definitely seems tied to ego. There were several instances where they appeared to push narratives that benefited them. For example, during the exercise competition, Jiyung talked about being nervous while also claiming that he tried his best and gave his 120%, which felt unnecessary since the outcome was obvious from the start. It came across as something to brag about rather than being genuinely worried.
Another moment that stood out was when Sanghyeon tried to share his concern(s) after his date with Sohyun, but there he goes again, saying that he and Sohyun clicked better personality-wise which came off as bragging again. While the hosts found it cute, personally, it felt immature and insensitive. Like a kid who doesn't want to lose to his playmate or something.
With Yeeun, it was uncomfortable how she tried to rub it in Jiwon’s face that she and Sangwon had a better date. It was also unsettling when she confronted Sangwon, indirectly and directly questioning why he wasn’t approaching her more. Even Yeonkyung seemed intimidated by her approach. She's acting as if they were already in a relationship. To be fair, Sangwon did send mixed signals early on—and she did too—but even the hosts seemed confused since he often showed interest yet never chose her during the Love QR Code selections (please correct me if i'm wrong) Even so, I don’t think she has the right to be 'that' controlling towards him.
On the other hand, I’d like to commend Sohyun and the pair, Yeonkyung and Hyeonjun. Sohyun is incredibly charming—arguably the most charming of all. She may not be the most conventionally pretty, but the more you look at her, the more drawn you become, especially because of her outgoing and approachable personality, like someone you can easily talk to.
As for Yeonkyung and Hyeonjun, they’re the calmest couple. Watching them just makes me smile—they look great together and give off such a soft, comforting vibe. It’s unfortunate that a misunderstanding got in the way: Hyeonjun struggled to express his feelings clearly, which led Yeonkyung to think he wasn’t that interested to her. So when another guy (Jiyung) made a move—and she mistakenly thought it was Sanghyeon, whom she’d dated before—she decided to give it a chance. I’m glad they’ve mostly worked things out now, though it was frustrating that Sangwon interrupted moments when they could’ve talked more.
As for Jiwon, Sangwon, and Sanghyeon, my feelings are mixed. Jiwon’s personality is quite similar to Sohyun’s—kind and approachable—but she can sometimes come off as a pushover. That said, she’s still a great person. Physically, she appears the most mature among the women, but that doesn’t take away from her beauty or the fact that she’s very successful.
When it comes to Sangwon and Sanghyeon, there are moments—particularly on their dates with their partner—where their approach feels reassuring, yet there are also times when their intentions leave me disappointed.
I enjoyed LOTFG but we had to forgive some of the writing/logical lapses (like the scene where FL falls off the…
Okay, popping in again to say I finally began WDBTB! Yes, I’m a bit late—I barely had time for dramas last month but here we are. Initially, the start of the drama was a hard watch because the CGI and some aspects of it weren’t really my thing. I almost dropped it, but since you and so many others recommended it, I decided to push it. Now I'm on episode 11 and totally hooked with it.
I understand where you’re all coming from, but it’s Ajin whom we’re talking about—someone who gambles even her own life, to get what she wants. In that moment, she needed someone more powerful than her to fix the mess that was spiraling into her life, and Dohyuk fit that role perfectly. It may have felt out of place, but within the drama, I think it was the best choice for herself (even though it may end up being the worst one).
Still, it would’ve made more sense if the show had more episodes—enough to establish who Dohyuk is as a person, how cruel he can be, and to build up their relationship so viewers could actually see them as husband and wife. As it is, everything happened so fast that we were all left thinking, ‘What just happened?’ The same goes for Seunghee and how she suddenly managed to get into their house and climb her way to Ajin. Everything just felt rushed, giving us no time to process any of it.
And finally, the side characters were neglected—Lena just gives up, Junseo will probably move on with his life (?) and Jaeo with… nothing?
One of the best on-going k-dramas for sure. I love how the story is unfolding and that the characters are being explored more. I’m hoping that the master ends up being controlled by the prey instead. Hence, the title "the manipulated" like the saying goes "if you want to beat them, join them" and i think that's the direction we're going.
They are wrong audience. They expect romance between main lead but they didn't get it.
Indeed. I was like “are we even watching the same drama?” because countless times, she made it clear that everything she does is always for herself. Sure, there’s chemistry/tension between her and the guys but that’s just it.
Personally, among all the ongoing K-dramas I’ve been watching lately and the recently finished ones, this one stands out as my favorite. I honestly don’t understand why some people think it’s overhyped—it’s been a long time since a drama had given me chills like this. It is ‘that’ good. It actually reminds me of shows like "Pyramid Game", "The Celebrity", and "Bitch x Rich" but this one feels darker, more intense, and far more twisted. I’m genuinely impressed by Kim Yoo-jung’s performance—it’s definitely my favorite role of hers so far. Her character isn’t just driven by revenge; she’s cunning and manipulative, even towards good people, just to get what she wants. The drama also powerfully highlights how trauma can shape a person, but it shouldn't justify their actions—because in the end, every action, big or small, comes with its own consequences.
Although I’ve enjoyed watching this drama, however, I can’t help but feel that the quality has declined in the most recent episodes, especially with how they're rushing the ML's (Wooju and Meri) relationship. Like, i'm a fan of their chemistry and acting but now, it just felt off. Honestly, I find myself leaning more toward the SML (Jingyeong and Sanghyeon). Initially, it's unlikely to develop since she is head over heels with Wooju, but after the confrontation part/scene, the dynamic felt more natural/real with the two second lead/s. The way he looks out for her, even with that deadpan face, is oddly sweet.
On the other hand, I do understand Wooju’s perspective to some extent — his willingness to give up everything for Meri stems from her being that one person who made him feel truly safe, cared for, and understood. To him, she represents “home.” However, it’s disappointing that, as the grandson of a chairwoman, he fails to see the broader consequences of his actions — both for himself, his family, and even for Meri.
And Meri isn’t completely off the hook either; her desperation is somewhat understandable but still hard to justify. Then again, it is a K-drama. Lastly, can we talk about the ex and his family? They’re absolutely the worst. The manipulation and abuse they inflicted — and continue to inflict — on her are disgusting.
Just wanna say that this healed my "expectations vs reality" because it definitely gave the 'expectations' we deserved. From the moment i saw the fancams or shared videos during the filming in TikTok, especially that one scene wherein HMH devoured her lips, i already felt that it's going to be a great drama. . and it didn't fail me, it didn't fail us.
P.S. This is coming from someone who often drop dramas because i'm really picky and i tend to get bored easily but this drama was able to sustain its watch value, like to keep you seated and look forward to it despite it being on-going and even more that they only release one to two episodes per week.
Hopefully, there will be more dramas for these two as the main leads again.
Finally! A well-deserved ending for both leads and all the characters. I feel like the happiest knowing it was justified although for sure it could've been better without cutting/deleting some of the scenes. Plus, if SL didn't become an obsessed type of villain. Nonetheless, definitely one of my favorite Wuxia (please correct me if i'm wrong) Everything is just really in place ㅡ the characters, the chemistry of each and everyone, the storyline, the pacing, the osts/soundtrack.
Thank you to the director, scriptwriter, actors/actresses, and all the people behind this drama. Truly a masterpiece and a drama i won't forget. P.S. I never doubted LYX and HMH's acting because i've seen their previous works but still, this one really surprised me. It moved me so much to the point that i was able to experience different emotions while watching the drama. It made me happy/smile, sad/cried, disappointed, mad, etc.
I enjoyed LOTFG but we had to forgive some of the writing/logical lapses (like the scene where FL falls off the…
Indeed. I've seen those comment section/s from certain dramas and they were all fighting so even if I really love the drama, i didn't bother like giving my insights 'cause it was too scary. Nonetheless, thank you so so much for the recommendation.
I enjoyed LOTFG but we had to forgive some of the writing/logical lapses (like the scene where FL falls off the…
Oooh thank you. I've already added it to my watchlist (not here on MDL but on my personal notes) I'll probably start watching that one after this drama, LITC.
I feel like i've cried so much with all the things that happened from the recent episodes. It's such a big plot twist that all this time JBZ is MX and MX/MY is from the Bo Clan and the person who saved JBZ (sister of the mother of MY) is also the person who abandoned him (although i was able to sense it somehow but it's still surprising and gut-wrenching especially because of how they portrayed it) Honestly, i'm glad that this drama is getting the recognition that it deserves because not even LOTFG made me feel this way. Don't get me wrong, LOTFG was the most recent c-drama that i've watched and i couldn't help but to see similarities and differences. I, for one, loved that drama too because the casts, chemistry of the leads, etc. were exceptional but for some reason, there's something that is still 'lacking' and i couldn't pinpoint what it is. However, this drama, LITC is perfect, 10/10. It was well-written and well-portrayed by all of the casts. I feel like i will be having a hard time to move on from this. Also, I've had enough with the sad endings. Please be a good and happy one.
P.S. SL's villain arc might be a minus but i've decided not for it to affect my overall rating because i still love the drama as a whole.
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I'm starting to get really frustrated and heartbroken over XW's situation. It just shows how badly his parents failed to be the people he should rely on. Watching him shoulder everything on his own is painful, especially when even his mother—the one I've practically given up on—told him not to carry all the burdens by himself, yet he still insisted.
Then when QY offered to help by tutoring the new guy to contribute to their grandmother's hospital expenses, XW begged her not to. I feel like that could stem from two reasons, either he didn't want to place any burden on her or there was a hint of jealousy involved. Perhaps, both? To top it all off, he nearly gave up on his education, like he’s just at the end of it. It's honestly wild how one problem managed to snowball into something so much worse.
And don't even get me started on those bullies. They are absolutely awful, pathetic, insecure people—especially that one girl. The way she kept on trying to drag QY down pisses me off.
Nonetheless, no matter what happens, I'm never giving up on XW. His words, his actions, everything about him feels so genuine and pure. Sometimes, it feels like nobody deserves someone like him. Despite everything on his plate, he always makes sure QY is safe and happy.
And can we talk about that shower scene? Wow. Then that ending scene (almost) in Episode 16? I knew it. It gave off such a strong "that's my girl" energy. The moment XW told QY, "Run forward, catch up," I literally screamed.
“Every cloud has a silver lining”—meaning even the darkest situations can hide something hopeful.
GUYS, WE ARE SO BACK. FINALLY!
PROS:
I understand why some viewers felt that these episodes were a bit repetitive, and to some extent, I agree. However, I still enjoyed them because they gave us more insights about the characters and added depth to QY and XW's relationship.
What stood out to me the most was how the episodes highlighted QY's growth and personality as an individual. She did an amazing job during her task - when she had to speak in English, and also from that one instance, when two girls came up to her and I loved how she stood up for herself against those bullies. Indeed, she's clearly not someone who backs down when challenged. I also would like to add some of my favorite moments like the hair-washing scene, the self-defense lesson, and of course, the toy scene (iykyk), plus how XW followed her all the way to her school - boy, he immediately grabbed the chance as soon as she said about how he has to protect her.
Can we also talk about how straightforward QY is? One of my favorite things about her is that she's never afraid to say exactly what she's thinking 😂
Lastly, I have to mention this line:
"Even a paper plane can find a new way to stay in the air"
Such a simple sentence, yet it carries so much meaning. Definitely one of the most memorable lines from the episode.
CONS:
As for XW's mom, I've always tried to view her character with some understanding. I gave her the benefit of the doubt because I never saw her as the typical antagonistic or villainous parent. Although I wasn't happy with some of her actions as a mother, her positive qualities often made me overlook her flaws. I kept trying to understand where she was coming from, seeing her as someone whose shortcomings were shaped by her struggles and past experiences. That's why I continued to empathize with her—at least from the previous episodes, not until this recent one. It's really dumb and it didn't make sense to me. QY had already expressed her concerns about adding the eyebrow tattoo services when they were promoting the business, pointing out that they should focus first on what they were ACTUALLY CAPABLE OF offering at the moment. Despite that, XW's mom pushed forward with the idea and worse, by PRACTICING it to a CUSTOMER, like c'mon. Why would you even do that? (I need to talk to the writers) Now, we all saw how that turned out. What frustrated me the most was that the whole situation felt avoidable from the very beginning. In my previous review, I mentioned that one of the things I appreciated about the drama was how its conflicts felt realistic and grounded. However, this one is really . . questionable.
Another thing that i've noticed was XW's school situation. He was absent for nearly two years, yet he was still enrolled and hadn't been dropped. Maybe there are schools where that kind of arrangement is possible, but from my country, it's impossible.
OVERALL:
I have mixed feelings about the current episodes. It's already like halfway of the drama. The writers set the bar high from the beginning, and I hope they can wrap things up in a way that lives up to that strong start.
On a more serious note, I want to talk about Xingwu's situation because, in some ways, I can relate to what he's going through. Not exactly the same circumstances, but the feeling of slowly losing your passion for something that once meant everything to you. I think the drama portrayed this reality incredibly well.
From an outside perspective, it's easy to say that Xingwu should simply go back to school and pursue what he loves. But life is rarely that simple. When you've gone through certain experiences and carry responsibilities that directly affect the people you care about, your own dreams often become secondary. You start prioritizing stability over passion, survival over fulfillment.
What makes Xingwu's story so heartbreaking is that his decision doesn't come from a lack of ambition or talent — it's rooted in love, responsibility, and sacrifice. When people depend on you, you sometimes convince yourself that giving up a piece of who you are is worth it if it means protecting their happiness and well-being. You tell yourself it's okay to endure the disappointment, the regret, and even the loss of your own identity because at least the people you love are okay.
That's why his character resonates with me so much. I don't think the drama romanticize his struggles, like dragging it just to gain sympathy or something. Instead, it shows how complicated it is to choose yourself when you've spent so long choosing everyone else. It captures the quiet grief of watching your dreams drift further away while continuing to move forward because you feel like you have no other choice.
More than anything, I'm hoping Xingwu eventually realizes that his happiness matters too. Sacrificing for the people you love is admirable, but there comes a point where constantly putting yourself last can leave you feeling empty. I hope he finds the courage to pursue his dreams again (which i believe will happen in the next few episodes) because he deserves the same happiness he's been giving to others.
I honestly don't understand why this drama only has a 7.9/10 rating. It's significantly better than most of the c-dramas i've watched, including the recent ones. It's been a long time since a c-drama had me so invested that I watched every episode as soon as it came out and eagerly waited for new ones to be released.
Usually, what draws me into a drama is the visual appeal and the chemistry between the leads. However, this one stands out because it excels in almost every aspect—characterization, chemistry, storyline, pacing, and overall execution. So far, it feels close to perfect and may even surpass some of the most popular c-dramas i've seen.
If I had to point out one minor flaw, it would be GXT's facial expressions in some of the scenes. Even then, she's still doing an excellent job portraying her character. As for LYR, whom I've previously seen in Blossom and a few guest roles from his other previous dramas, this is easily my favorite performance from him. His portrayal of Xingwu is incredibly charming, especially when he had the blonde hair (though sadly, it didn't last long). Combined with Xingwu's personality, it was impossible not to be captivated. Dang, I wish to find a man like him.
Another thing I appreciate is how refreshingly realistic the main characters are. The male lead isn't portrayed as unrealistically perfect; he's natural, flawed, and relatable in some way. The same goes for the female lead; used to be rich, picky, etc. but not to the point of being a b*tch. While I couldn't stand her during the first few episodes, her character growth and redemption arc gradually won me over. As the story progresses or as she learned from her experiences, adapted to her circumstances, and turned into a matured and reliable woman, I found myself becoming attached to her. Her growth felt earned rather than forced, and by the end, I was rooting for her wholeheartedly. Watching how Xingwu cares for her made me care for her too.
The supporting cast deserves praise as well. Instead of feeling like background decorations or plot devices, they actively contribute to the story and help strengthen the relationships between the characters. I also appreciate that the drama doesn't rely on over-the-top villains to create conflict. Most of the characters feel nuanced and believable rather than cartoonishly evil, like the man who stole her laptop, underwear, and personal belongings—though truth be told, that entire situation was genuinely unsettling and a bit difficult to watch but it happens.
Above all, I'm a fan of how straightforward this drama is. It doesn't get bogged down by excessive side plots, and the story develops at a satisfying pace with enough buildup to keep things engaging. And for anyone assuming this drama involves incest—it doesn't. The leads are not blood-related cousins. They're more like childhood friends whose mothers were extremely close and treated each other like sisters, hence, like a family.
The drama started off incredibly strong, but unfortunately it lost some of its momentum towards the end. Overall, there were so many aspects of the series that I genuinely loved—the characters were compelling, the acting performance was convincing, the storyline had a lot of promise, the cinematography was beautiful, and the chemistry between the leads was undeniable. However, despite these strengths, the drama still had noticeable flaws or it's lacking in some aspects, particularly in how the plot developed as the story moved forward.
The arc set in Lin’an was truly exceptional. The storytelling during that period felt engaging, emotionally layered, and well-paced. It was the point where the drama shined the most for me. However, once the story transitioned into the war camp setting, the narrative started to feel less grounded. Some events and character decisions came across as impulsive or unrealistic, which made certain moments harder to fully believe in or emotionally invest in.
One aspect that frustrated me was how the misunderstandings between the lead characters escalated. Instead of resolving issues through proper communication, their choices often made the situation spiral further out of control. This was particularly noticeable with Changyu. While I appreciate that she is written as a strong and independent character, I felt that she made too many critical decisions entirely on her own. Strength and independence are admirable traits, but in the context of warfare and strategy, acting purely on impulse without considering the larger consequences felt a bit out of place.
By the time the drama reached its finale, I couldn’t help but feel somewhat unsatisfied. The ending left me thinking, “Was that really it?” I expected more closure and especially more scenes between Xie Zheng and Changyu. Their relationship was such a central part of the story that it felt disappointing not to see it explored more deeply in the final scenes/parts of the drama.
While I do love the romantic scenes between Xie Zheng and Changyu but not gonna lie that Yu Qian Qian and Qi Min (Sui Yuan Huai) felt surprisingly more passionate and intense. Their kiss scenes, in particular, had a certain spontaneity and emotional depth that made them particularly captivating.
Despite these criticisms, I still think the drama is quite good overall and, in my opinion, it clearly managed to capture the very essence or the concept of what LOFTG was striving to show. Tian Xi Wei’s portrayal of Fan Changyu was one of the highlights of the series. She truly embodied the character so well that it’s hard to imagine anyone else playing Changyu as convincingly. Her performance added so much depth and authenticity to the role, and she absolutely delivered.
I’ve also seen people criticizing Mujin based on the latest preview, but isn’t that similar to what Bonhee did? She gave Sanghyeon a few opportunities to talk, and during those moments, he openly confessed his feelings, which naturally made her want to get to know him more. The same applies to Mujin and Sohyun. In that one conversation they shared, Mujin felt comfortable enough to open up about something deeply personal which also naturally made him a bit closer to her. He never said he was interested in her; he said he was curious, and there’s nothing wrong with that. That’s literally the point of the show. If anything, I’m glad that Mujin and Bonhee allowed themselves to be open to others because it helps to clarify whether their feelings for each other are genuine and strong.
As for the worst, I’d have to pick Jiyung and Yeeun. Both of them gave off narcissistic vibes to me. It may be related to their professions or something else, but it definitely seems tied to ego. There were several instances where they appeared to push narratives that benefited them. For example, during the exercise competition, Jiyung talked about being nervous while also claiming that he tried his best and gave his 120%, which felt unnecessary since the outcome was obvious from the start. It came across as something to brag about rather than being genuinely worried.
Another moment that stood out was when Sanghyeon tried to share his concern(s) after his date with Sohyun, but there he goes again, saying that he and Sohyun clicked better personality-wise which came off as bragging again. While the hosts found it cute, personally, it felt immature and insensitive. Like a kid who doesn't want to lose to his playmate or something.
With Yeeun, it was uncomfortable how she tried to rub it in Jiwon’s face that she and Sangwon had a better date. It was also unsettling when she confronted Sangwon, indirectly and directly questioning why he wasn’t approaching her more. Even Yeonkyung seemed intimidated by her approach. She's acting as if they were already in a relationship. To be fair, Sangwon did send mixed signals early on—and she did too—but even the hosts seemed confused since he often showed interest yet never chose her during the Love QR Code selections (please correct me if i'm wrong) Even so, I don’t think she has the right to be 'that' controlling towards him.
On the other hand, I’d like to commend Sohyun and the pair, Yeonkyung and Hyeonjun. Sohyun is incredibly charming—arguably the most charming of all. She may not be the most conventionally pretty, but the more you look at her, the more drawn you become, especially because of her outgoing and approachable personality, like someone you can easily talk to.
As for Yeonkyung and Hyeonjun, they’re the calmest couple. Watching them just makes me smile—they look great together and give off such a soft, comforting vibe. It’s unfortunate that a misunderstanding got in the way: Hyeonjun struggled to express his feelings clearly, which led Yeonkyung to think he wasn’t that interested to her. So when another guy (Jiyung) made a move—and she mistakenly thought it was Sanghyeon, whom she’d dated before—she decided to give it a chance. I’m glad they’ve mostly worked things out now, though it was frustrating that Sangwon interrupted moments when they could’ve talked more.
As for Jiwon, Sangwon, and Sanghyeon, my feelings are mixed. Jiwon’s personality is quite similar to Sohyun’s—kind and approachable—but she can sometimes come off as a pushover. That said, she’s still a great person. Physically, she appears the most mature among the women, but that doesn’t take away from her beauty or the fact that she’s very successful.
When it comes to Sangwon and Sanghyeon, there are moments—particularly on their dates with their partner—where their approach feels reassuring, yet there are also times when their intentions leave me disappointed.
Still, it would’ve made more sense if the show had more episodes—enough to establish who Dohyuk is as a person, how cruel he can be, and to build up their relationship so viewers could actually see them as husband and wife. As it is, everything happened so fast that we were all left thinking, ‘What just happened?’ The same goes for Seunghee and how she suddenly managed to get into their house and climb her way to Ajin. Everything just felt rushed, giving us no time to process any of it.
And finally, the side characters were neglected—Lena just gives up, Junseo will probably move on with his life (?) and Jaeo with… nothing?
On the other hand, I do understand Wooju’s perspective to some extent — his willingness to give up everything for Meri stems from her being that one person who made him feel truly safe, cared for, and understood. To him, she represents “home.” However, it’s disappointing that, as the grandson of a chairwoman, he fails to see the broader consequences of his actions — both for himself, his family, and even for Meri.
And Meri isn’t completely off the hook either; her desperation is somewhat understandable but still hard to justify. Then again, it is a K-drama. Lastly, can we talk about the ex and his family? They’re absolutely the worst. The manipulation and abuse they inflicted — and continue to inflict — on her are disgusting.
P.S. This is coming from someone who often drop dramas because i'm really picky and i tend to get bored easily but this drama was able to sustain its watch value, like to keep you seated and look forward to it despite it being on-going and even more that they only release one to two episodes per week.
Hopefully, there will be more dramas for these two as the main leads again.
Thank you to the director, scriptwriter, actors/actresses, and all the people behind this drama. Truly a masterpiece and a drama i won't forget.
P.S. I never doubted LYX and HMH's acting because i've seen their previous works but still, this one really surprised me. It moved me so much to the point that i was able to experience different emotions while watching the drama. It made me happy/smile, sad/cried, disappointed, mad, etc.
P.S. SL's villain arc might be a minus but i've decided not for it to affect my overall rating because i still love the drama as a whole.