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A drama that gives us a look at Autism in relationship
If you don't understand, Hira is autistic. This might help you understand his character and behavior better. I see a lot of the reviews call this relationship toxic and I know they are completely missing the complexity of being in a relationship with someone autistic. Dramas with autistic characters are rare. This one did a beautiful job showing us the realities being autistic and being in relationship with someone autistic.
I'm trying to bring awareness to the fact that Kiyoi has no idea how to be in a relationship with someone autistic and how hard it can be. Especially if you don't understand that your partner is autistic - which Kiyoi doesn't. On top of that, Kiyoi is extremely emotionally sensitive and doesn't know how to navigate and express his own feelings well. Their combo is a bomb waiting to go off. Season 2 is where we see them maturing a bit and figuring each other out a little more and learning how to navigate the relationship in a healthier way. lol though it's still slow progress. And I do concede that Kiyoi lashes out and being a kid and highly emotionally sensitive isn't an excuse. I definitely think the tsundere character type walks the line of toxicity.
The drama wants us to understand they are both problematic. We've got two teenagers with their own issue experiencing emotions they've never had before and facing future obstacles like college and work. One is autistic and the other is highly emotional sensitive and neither of them are that great at understanding each other or expressing themselves. What is beautiful is that they keep forgiving and keep trying to get better at this, because despite each other's flaws they just love each other.
I think I wrote this post from this place of seeing Kiyoi do something I wish my partners could have done and having a lot of forgiveness for his faults. I cried in the first episode of season 2 when Kiyoi says to Hira 'don't live in your own world. We live in this one'. I'm autistic and understand personally how difficult navigating relationships are and being understood is. Watching Hira get lost down all these what if worlds in his mind is just so relatable to me. I often have a hard time knowing which world is real because I create so many. And Kiyoi just cut through it as easy as butter and called him back to living in their shared reality.
I'm trying to bring awareness to the fact that Kiyoi has no idea how to be in a relationship with someone autistic and how hard it can be. Especially if you don't understand that your partner is autistic - which Kiyoi doesn't. On top of that, Kiyoi is extremely emotionally sensitive and doesn't know how to navigate and express his own feelings well. Their combo is a bomb waiting to go off. Season 2 is where we see them maturing a bit and figuring each other out a little more and learning how to navigate the relationship in a healthier way. lol though it's still slow progress. And I do concede that Kiyoi lashes out and being a kid and highly emotionally sensitive isn't an excuse. I definitely think the tsundere character type walks the line of toxicity.
The drama wants us to understand they are both problematic. We've got two teenagers with their own issue experiencing emotions they've never had before and facing future obstacles like college and work. One is autistic and the other is highly emotional sensitive and neither of them are that great at understanding each other or expressing themselves. What is beautiful is that they keep forgiving and keep trying to get better at this, because despite each other's flaws they just love each other.
I think I wrote this post from this place of seeing Kiyoi do something I wish my partners could have done and having a lot of forgiveness for his faults. I cried in the first episode of season 2 when Kiyoi says to Hira 'don't live in your own world. We live in this one'. I'm autistic and understand personally how difficult navigating relationships are and being understood is. Watching Hira get lost down all these what if worlds in his mind is just so relatable to me. I often have a hard time knowing which world is real because I create so many. And Kiyoi just cut through it as easy as butter and called him back to living in their shared reality.
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