Noy

Ep 29 - kisses

https://www.instagram.com/tv/CbvC0aggYR8/?utm_medium=copy_link

Yes....it rare but it happens

I went into this drama...knowing the storyline will be like this

But they didn't linger the conflicts which is good

They did well in making it charming.....the interactions /chemistry
between the
Leads make us grin and smile

Yes i skip some of the side characters nonsense....since it don't bring me entertainment and joy

As long as the drama brings us joy....

I'm not either...

But many times...it has surprised me and worked in certain drama and scripts....

I have kept an open mind

That is true....it is always 100% to certain characters

The world and characters is a shade of grey

I agree many Female characters is not written well

This one has it's obvious flaws and some good ones. I feel there is some tiny progression

I watched many dramas and i seen worse

I guess my mindset is different...being in the Psychology field

I laugh when it happens...

Sometimes it is at the end

But i usually know what type of drama I'm going into

I never said you had to be....nor did i say...i thought it is ok...

I feel you're passionate about it...which is great...

But is misconstruing...what is written


I never once disagreed with you. I gave added content and another point of view

As people we need to be more open and compassionate to other's perspective or lack there of it. I'm talking about the characters

It is obviously said in sarcasm and a joke....i.e...i added in waiting for amnesia

Also...i find that not being open to the othet perspectives doesn't help us...

The world is a shade of grey....not just black and white.

I like to look at it objectively from both sides

Unfortunately...i seen many cases like this in real life

And yes many ppl in those type of relationship stayed together for awhile.

Heck...i am guilty of those mistakes....which i learned from

When my ex and i talked...months later....i thank him. I know i had immature moments.....but so did him....

But what i gain is experienced and knowing how ro handle the situation better next time.

It was a roller-coaster ride...but i lived a sheltered life...i thought as long as we keep trying..learn...improve...to keep going...

I learned...level up...

I thank him. I learned a lot. I don't blame him or myself. Going through that made me grow up


He has grown....apologize to me...i told him i don't blame anyone.

He said he regret doing certain things and wish he grew up.



I find blaming and keep faulting people/other is toxic and. pointless

The world is grey and we need to try to be more passionate and emphasize....put ourself in their shoes/mind

Instead of just going at it and talking at a person...have a discussion and...be open to theirs

Do you see the parallel here....i do

You have 1 set of thoughts... you expressed it and blame the FL...not really taking in the context/perspective the other ppl are saying...taking in different perspectives....your thougts and thinking is the only way...black and white....

Isn't that what the FL is also doing ...same as here...black and white...not taking in the other perspectives

You can see more than 2 points... you don't have to agree with it...but to have that understanding

"I don't agree with what you're saying....but i can see your point"

No...

The person who did wrong should apologize...

But we need to make sure...that we are discussing and talking about the same thing

It is always...this person said this

This other person heard and interrupt it as something in their head.

So therefore....they are both talking about different things

I been there and done all of those mistakes hahaha....

It is important to be able to call each other out...challenge each other and grow from it

I disagree...she has her moments

These are her mature moments

Many times...while he was busy at work...she waited patiently for him....she tried to be understanding and not put pressure....she didn't want to bother him

- couple shirt. She didn't force him to wear it

-explaining right away with out him having to ask...about her being late and phone died

- did not lead 2ml on....

- is aware of him being jealous and wanting to ease that insecurities

Does she have lots of immature moments. Heck ya. Again look at her relationship with her dad. It is like 2 kids yelling at each other.

Again the issues is communications.

As a partner... you want to be informed....and be part of their issues.
We are partners...ehy should i dig for it or find it online.

Gw don't fully need to get into detail...but in a relationship we need to fill our partner in and share/lean on each other.

I.e.
M.L
I'm suspended from work because of this. I don't want to fulmy discuss it now. I need time.

FL - take in what he said. Let him know she is there for him and just support and give him time

This is a better functional communication and interactions

But again...typical chinese drama..plot devices...amnesia probably next 🤣



I been there done that in my early 20s.

I'm waiting for an amnesia....in the nxt few ep hahaha

I'm not surprised...look at her family. All they do is yell at each other. Her dad ran away like a child. Her mom hits her dad for running away....ect...

FL leads by emotions, irrational, rash.....she reacts for the moment...just like her dad

So no it is not only her age...it is how she was brought up. She lack love from her dad, he locks her up at home...no exposure

I'm not saying that is an excuse....but I'm pointing out what contributed

Also...plot point for Writers for conflicts


That one of my pet peeves. Lack of understanding and communications.

I thought the ML ...did ok in explaining.

The issues in relationships. They don't address the issues....we should be able to call them out/challenge it and explain the reasoning...

These men...allow that to happen....they don't fully challenge it...discuss it...then it become a bigger problem...then the other person become spoiled....the other is resentful

Where did i say he is wrong and she is right?

This is the issue...ppl read what they want to.

I gave examples of certain flaws
...from both..

I highlight his more because you already highlight hers.

They both don't have good functional communications

They love unnecessarily drama and conflicts


That is why i can't watch a drama that is more than 24....dragged storyline...

If i somewhat like the leads ans story...i do it on Fwd mode

I don't know many ppl being mature in their early twenties

Biologically...our frontal cortex...the judgement part isn't fully developed until 25...

I know very few ppl in their 20s who is matured...

Even then...it also based on life experiences and environment

FL lived in a sheltered world...her parents don't allow her to leave her house after 6pm (after she ran away). She's wicked inexperienced....she doesn't learn conflict resolution from her parents...look at her and her dad....they don't talk to each other but at each other...

I think that is the point

They are highlighting the age differences.

Just like what his parents said.

To me the point is how are these 2 individual people going to handle this situation....

In order for a relationship to be functional to work...we need to learn from our flaws and mistake to move on

I.e. Her father....he as a old man...ran away from his family

They are two different characters....

FL - all she wants to do is discuss and talk about it
-21 impulsive and irrational...she reacts with her emotions.
-like she said..shes a liberal art major

ML- he is closed up like his introvert self.
-he is logic and facts


You have 2 different factors here trying to learn. I don't want my character perfect...with superior EQ and know how to be in a relationship.

I want characters to grow...learn...improve and to be able to teach us a lesson

I sympathize and emphasize with him....while i emphasize with her.

We excuse/acknowledged ML behaviors...well he is a introvert and he is struggling...so it is ok to shut down and be that way...don't communicate because he is an introvert

FL is an extrovert and immature in age....so it is bad she her to react with her rash emotions..

I don't agree with her reactions....but why can't wr emphasize with both?

I don't fault him...but we seek to understand him better but not the FL.

I find fault in both...they lack the experience for better functional communication

She's good in school 2017 too

She's good in school 2017 too

They were with her parents when it occurs

Those questions aren't far fetch

She is insecure... I'm ugly... I'm fat...

He knows she is....insecure

In her mind.....did i do something wrong...was it my parent...ect

We have to look at both besides...

I'm not on either one of their sides....but i feel the issues is we need to put ourselves in other ppl shoes as much as possible.

Both characters needs to...

Neither have good functional communication.... they have stories in their head instead of clarifying

Many of us do that in real life too.... I'm guilty and learned from it


I.e. the FL did a good job clarifying in this scene.
She was late to meet the ML. She practiced with the guy. As soon as she saw him. She showered him with love and clarify why she was late practicing and her phone died.

-she knew he probably is concerned and want to clear his possible jealousy

This is what many ppl want. That communication to ease ones concern...to share your thoughts and concern with me as your S.o

I'm glad they don't linger on the angst...

Angst isn't necessarily bad...when it lingers...that is the issue

I'm not surprised....it seems so...