Don't think it's supposed to be funny. It's a story based on the author's true experience so they're probably…
Good for you! As I said, I was just curious about your perspective, and your reply was enough for me to understand it, though not necessarily agree. I’m not trying to argue with you, we’re just having a conversation. I’m simply sharing my own point of view, which happens to be different from yours. I think it’s wrong to assume that just because we enjoy watching series that include morally questionable behavior, it means we automatically normalize it, and I just wanted to point that out. I won’t bother you any further. Have a nice day!
Anyone know whats gonna happen next? and why did he refused to join as gang ?
Having read the novel, I honestly couldn’t predict what’s coming next, since the series has taken quite a different direction from it. As for why Chu San refuses to join the gang, I think it’s pretty obvious. He’s a very intelligent man who was raised by a father that discouraged him from getting involved with gangs from a young age. I think his character is portrayed quite clearly in the series, it would actually be stranger if he agreed to join one rather than the opposite.
Don't think it's supposed to be funny. It's a story based on the author's true experience so they're probably…
I see, thanks for your reply. My comment wasn't for challenge your opinion or perspective, I think I wsa clear about that. I get where you’re coming from, and I actually agree with part of your concern, media can influence how people think and what they consider acceptable. But I don’t think it’s as direct or one dimensional as what we normalize in fiction becomes normalized in real life. Fiction has always included exaggerated, flawed, or even problematic behavior, not necessarily to endorse it, but to reflect reality, create conflict, or explore dynamics that wouldn’t be acceptable in real life. People are generally capable of separating those two spaces. Watching something in a series doesn’t automatically mean someone approves of it or would behave that way outside of it. About the “it’s fictional” argument, I don’t think people use it to shut down discussion, at least not always, but to point out that fiction operates under different rules. That doesn’t mean criticism isn’t valid, but it also doesn’t mean every depiction equals endorsement. On the point about boys’ behavior, I agree that social reinforcement plays a role. But I don’t think it’s fair to say girls don’t make crude or inappropriate jokes. They do, maybe in different ways or spaces, and maybe it’s less visible or expressed differently due to social expectations. The difference often comes from how society reacts to each gender, not from one being inherently better. I guess where I disagree most is the idea that people like me as you said, who don’t mind certain content are normalizing harm. People engage with media differently. Some are more sensitive to certain themes, others less so, and both perspectives can coexist without one invalidating the other. I do think it’s important to call out things that make us uncomfortable, but I also think it’s important to leave room for nuance instead of assuming a straight line between fiction and real world behavior.
Don't think it's supposed to be funny. It's a story based on the author's true experience so they're probably…
No hate, I’m just genuinely trying to understand why so many women take certain scenes or lines from a show so personally, to the point of insulting the writers. I’m saying “many” because I see comments like yours pretty often. I’m a woman too, and I actually laughed at that scene. I didn’t feel offended, first because it’s fiction, and second because it felt very fitting and natural in the way it was delivered. Or are you saying you don’t know that boys at that age are generally pretty crude and say things like that? I’m not trying to argue with you, just so there’s no misunderstanding. Your opinion is completely valid, I’m just honestly curious.
Both have amazing cinematic kiss scenes. I might be a little biased about TMS since it's my absolute favourite BL series, but I wouldn’t compare them, I’d suggest watching it and see for yourself 😁
I can't figure it out, since nothing from episode 5 was on the novel 😅
They are, but they did not meet exactly like that (although they did have a one night stand). That meeting between the two of them and Xie Jia Hua’s father never actually happened. It was much more confusing in the series compared to the novel.
I can't figure it out, since nothing from episode 5 was on the novel 😅
I loved the novel, I’m actually on my way to reread it, but I also like the series, so I don’t mind the changes. As long as they give us a proper ending, I’m fine with how it’s going.
I haven't read the novel, but from the comments of people who did read it, there's way too much story for the…
I was thinking about what I went through with The Only One too, and also with the Chinese BL Stay With Me (or maybe bromance? I’m not sure, it feels like something in between). I’m already patiently waiting for any updates on the special for To My Shore, but I’m slowly starting to lose hope 😔 Still, as much as I loved the novel, I really enjoy the series so far, and I hope it keeps being this good until the end.
I haven't read the novel, but from the comments of people who did read it, there's way too much story for the…
I’ve recently finished the novel and, although I loved it so freaking much, I agree with you. The episodes aren’t enough to cover it. Not even 20 episodes could cover the novel imo. I don’t get my hopes up for a second season, especially from China, so I’d rather have a wholesome story, even if it takes a completely different direction from the novel.
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Fiction has always included exaggerated, flawed, or even problematic behavior, not necessarily to endorse it, but to reflect reality, create conflict, or explore dynamics that wouldn’t be acceptable in real life. People are generally capable of separating those two spaces. Watching something in a series doesn’t automatically mean someone approves of it or would behave that way outside of it.
About the “it’s fictional” argument, I don’t think people use it to shut down discussion, at least not always, but to point out that fiction operates under different rules. That doesn’t mean criticism isn’t valid, but it also doesn’t mean every depiction equals endorsement.
On the point about boys’ behavior, I agree that social reinforcement plays a role. But I don’t think it’s fair to say girls don’t make crude or inappropriate jokes. They do, maybe in different ways or spaces, and maybe it’s less visible or expressed differently due to social expectations. The difference often comes from how society reacts to each gender, not from one being inherently better.
I guess where I disagree most is the idea that people like me as you said, who don’t mind certain content are normalizing harm. People engage with media differently. Some are more sensitive to certain themes, others less so, and both perspectives can coexist without one invalidating the other.
I do think it’s important to call out things that make us uncomfortable, but I also think it’s important to leave room for nuance instead of assuming a straight line between fiction and real world behavior.
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Still, as much as I loved the novel, I really enjoy the series so far, and I hope it keeps being this good until the end.