It triggered all my trauma
(I’m not a native English speaker so I’m sorry for everything and anything)
IF YOU’RE SENSITIVE: this drama is not for you unless you treat it like a guide on how not to end up in abusive relationship
Let’s start by saying - I couldn’t watch it anymore. After 6ep I stopped for the sake of my mental health.
I’ve been in the abusive relationship for ab 2 years.
It took everything to get out and the consequences are with me EVERY DAY.
As a survivor I humbly ask you: DO NOT romanticise ANY of the behaviours in the drama.
I don’t usually comment or review but I saw a few comments that I need to kinda…respond
This drama is highly traumatising, highly harmful and on top of that incredibly realistic
Not many people realise that abusive relationship is not only the abuser is abusing and the victim does nothing.
The kind of abuse that we see in the drama works in cycles.
First let’s say the abuser hurts his partner.
The moment he realises that he didn’t mean the things he’s done or said or realises the person might hate him or leave him, he apologises, but not just saying “I apologise”, no, he will do and say everything and I mean EVERYTHING to show how bad he feels about what he’s done.
Then in our cycle the victim is the one pushing it forward. I don’t think anyone who has never experienced it realise how devastating psychologically it actually is. The victim will gradually feel some kind of pressure, like something will happen but nothing is happening. Believe me or not but it’s happening so unconsciously I didn’t realise it for a long time. The victim will provoke.
It takes just a few times for victim to stuck in this cycle.
It takes just a few abuse - apologise - abuse - apologise
To evolve into - abuse - apologise - provoke - abuse - apologise - provoke
(I am not trying to justify any of the actions Im just simply explaining what is actually happening on the screen and what many victims experience in their everyday life)
What I needed to say is that this drama is so high quality I had flashbacks, the kind of flashbacks that I couldn’t put myself back together for a few days.
IF YOU’RE SENSITIVE: this drama is not for you unless you treat it like a guide on how not to end up in abusive relationship
Let’s start by saying - I couldn’t watch it anymore. After 6ep I stopped for the sake of my mental health.
I’ve been in the abusive relationship for ab 2 years.
It took everything to get out and the consequences are with me EVERY DAY.
As a survivor I humbly ask you: DO NOT romanticise ANY of the behaviours in the drama.
I don’t usually comment or review but I saw a few comments that I need to kinda…respond
This drama is highly traumatising, highly harmful and on top of that incredibly realistic
Not many people realise that abusive relationship is not only the abuser is abusing and the victim does nothing.
The kind of abuse that we see in the drama works in cycles.
First let’s say the abuser hurts his partner.
The moment he realises that he didn’t mean the things he’s done or said or realises the person might hate him or leave him, he apologises, but not just saying “I apologise”, no, he will do and say everything and I mean EVERYTHING to show how bad he feels about what he’s done.
Then in our cycle the victim is the one pushing it forward. I don’t think anyone who has never experienced it realise how devastating psychologically it actually is. The victim will gradually feel some kind of pressure, like something will happen but nothing is happening. Believe me or not but it’s happening so unconsciously I didn’t realise it for a long time. The victim will provoke.
It takes just a few times for victim to stuck in this cycle.
It takes just a few abuse - apologise - abuse - apologise
To evolve into - abuse - apologise - provoke - abuse - apologise - provoke
(I am not trying to justify any of the actions Im just simply explaining what is actually happening on the screen and what many victims experience in their everyday life)
What I needed to say is that this drama is so high quality I had flashbacks, the kind of flashbacks that I couldn’t put myself back together for a few days.
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