Simply, XY isn't honest with her feeling like her mother, who chooses her soulmate (XY's biological father). XY…
ikrr exactly xy ain't honest to herself the she is relied on her motto of finding her companion who she can live peacefully her whole life LIKE WE ALL AINT DUMB WE CAN LITERALLY SEE XIAOYAO HAVE SOMETHING HIDDEN IN HER HEART FOR XIANGLIU ITS OBVIOUS but she is always denying it