Wifi Society: Gray Secret (2015)

The drama deals with one of Life's hefty moral dilemmas. It handles the material sensitively, thoughtfully and intelligently as well as explores what unconditional love between two friends looks like. I always enjoy watching shows like this because I come away with strategies on how to handle difficult circumstances should I find myself in a similar situation. For me, the moral of this drama is that each person is responsible for his or her own happiness while they walk on Earth and that happiness comes wrapped in different shapes and sizes for each individual. So whether or not person one approves of person two's decision does not mean that person two's decision is wrong.

SPOILER ALERT... do not read any further if you wish to avoid spoilers.

The drama revolves around the best-friend friendship of two male 20/21 year olds -- Frame and Earth -- and the same-sex relationship between Earth and Non. Non is 22 years older than Earth. Frame learns an uncomfortable truth regarding Non's background and, from that moment on, Frame is torn between doing what he believes is right for his best friend Earth and knowing that if he exposes the truth he will potentially be wrecking happy lives. Frames wrestles with the notion that once words like this truth are spoken, the hurt and damage can be far reaching. For this reason, Frame is cautious.

It is a fact of life that people do things of which others may or may not approve. The question is, though, Does our 'not approving' of these things mean that those involved have to live their lives according to our wishes? This drama explores the point of view that individuals have the right to make their own decisions whether or not they are good or bad decisions.

In many ways, I saw this presentation through the lens of a gay guy coming out to his family. His family may want life to be completely different for their son but if his parents truly believe in unconditional love, they will accept their son without any drama or fuss. Such an unspoken belief is also something with which Frame wrestles. If his friendship with Earth is truly based on unconditional love, he will simply state his views and leave Earth’s life-choices to Earth without judging him.

I encourage everyone to watch this drama and pay attention to the comments that Frame makes on his Instagram documentary. They are thought-provoking and there are valuable lessons to be learnt.

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Other people's secrets....

...are not ours to tell! The moral of the story! Do not force your world view on others! It can seriously backfire!

Frame and Earth are close university friends. Earth is dating a 42 yr old man, Non, who is helping him finance his university expenses. The three of them often eat and drink together with Frame often taking faceless photos of the couple celebrating their love. Until one day Frame discovers that Earth's boyfriend is one of his university friend's father. He wants to tell it to Earth because he fears he'd be really hurt. Eventually, Frame realizes that Earth knows the truth already and is OK with it.

WiFi Society is a 2015 anthology series by GMM one and consisting of 27 different stories. There are unfortunately only two I managed to find subbed (in french) and they are BLs.

This story deals with secrets. Everyone seems to be keeping secrets from everyone else: closeted father, sugar daddy role, righteous conceited Frame, profiteering Earth. Secrets are meant not to be told because secrets can seriously hurt people. The father is keeping his homosexuality a secret from his family by dating a guy half his age. Earth does not care about his boyfriend's secrets as long as he continues helping him. Frame feels that the father's family is too big a secret to be kept from Earth not realizing that his friend is very much down to earth and realistic person: get what you can, when you can!

When you have secrets that can change your life if they are known, you have to accept the consequences of those secrets. Because, as we all know, secrets never stay secret for very long and there is always a "kind" soul willing to "help" by telling the secret out loud at the most inopportune moment of course. What Non is doing, leading a double life like he is, is bound to come out eventually and if he does nothing to sort it out beforehand, his whole life risks to be radically changed. Or maybe not! We never know how a person will react once they find the secret out: close their eyes and pretend they did not hear it or go ballistic!

Nous ne pouvons pas attendre que tout se passe comme nous le voulons. La seule chose que nous pouvons contrôler est notre esprit. Parfois la seule chose à faire, c'est arrêter de forcer. Et que les choses doivent rester comme elles sont censées être. Lâcher ne signifie pas que nous devons cesser de nous inquieter. Mais c'est comme ça que nous commençons à comprendre. Certaines vérités ne sont pas bonnes à dire, elles nous blessent quand nous les savons. Certaines vérités sont bonnes à dire, elles nous donnent de leçons quand nous les découvrons. Et certaines vérités ne sont ni bonnes ni mauvaises, elles sont si nuancées qu'elles doivent être gardées comme un...secret.

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