@Eclipse02
Regarding The Promise of Chang An, I think Ming Yu was under a spell that made she thought that her son was this smart boy deserved to be an emperor. She thought that his child was the best and deserved everything. No wonder Qi Yuan grew up to be a spoiled and spiteful child who had no regard of everyone else. She was a failure as mother.
Ming Yu character made me as a female re-think a lot about motherhood. Is it really something that could make you this heartless and entitled? In my mind, motherhood is the biggest responsibility that could ever be given to a woman (and to parents in bigger picture). You are responsible in developing someone so that he/she grows up to be a wise person who contribute to society positively. If your child ever does wrong, then it will be your responsibility to punish and set him/her straight. Before someone else can have a chance to discipline your child, you must do it first yourself.
But here, watching Ming Yu, motherhood in her mouth sounded like a curse to everyone else. She refused to discipline her son. The most she did was only a slap which did nothing at all. And then she just gave up. She only strategized, manipulated people to help her son had what he wanted. But she never once thought what her son would become as person in the future. If Cheng Xu didn't die and finally snapped something inside Qi Yuan head, I am sure this boy will grow up to become a cruel emperor. For Ming Yu to unable to foresee this, she was truly live on her own fantasy.