I think that for the FL this drama will not only be about her learning to have compassion for others, but for herself as well.
It seems to me that she has never been the type to show kindness and compassion to herself, and that is in part why she struggles to do it for others as well.
I'm taking this as a moment of total irrationality in her thoughts brought on by her fear and her attempted avoidance…
In a way, I'm not surprised it took her so long to realize that her relationship with her past life ex was so toxic. There were so many red flags before the cheating/murder and yet these didn't make a difference. It feels like she is so used to only worrying about whether she's doing everything just so, in a way to please others, that she has forgotten that there are two people that need to be accountable in a relationship. And two treating it with importance. (As well as two people actually being an active part of , and wanting to be in the relationship in the first place).
Here's hoping the message now finally seeps into her skull (you'd think one murder-esque situation would be enough). I feel like she's only applied it to her situation though b/c it was so obviously intensely wrong . She hasn't realized her mindset is toxic for situations that aren't as obviously serious as hers was.
I'd like for this to become a moment of growth for her, where she finally entirely releases this toxic mindset. . . . That hey, cheating and murder do not have to be the only reason for it to be okay to break up even when one party isn't happy with it . . . because hey, it takes two to tango. Everyone needs to care, and everyone needs to be responsible for it to be done right and for the "dance" to truly be meaningful.
"No matter what the relationship is, once it's started, I don't think it's right for one person to end it one-sidedly."Unless…
I'm taking this as a moment of total irrationality in her thoughts brought on by her fear and her attempted avoidance of pain and of potentially becoming a "guilty" person. Hopefully she ends up finding out how awful Yu Ra was and understands that she was wrong to think that it needed to be "mutual".
Ahhh! Just caught up on this week's episodes! This drama is too good!! I can't believe I have to wait to see more episodes! I'm loving the soundtrack too! This drama is everything!!
It seems to me that she has never been the type to show kindness and compassion to herself, and that is in part why she struggles to do it for others as well.
Here's hoping the message now finally seeps into her skull (you'd think one murder-esque situation would be enough). I feel like she's only applied it to her situation though b/c it was so obviously intensely wrong . She hasn't realized her mindset is toxic for situations that aren't as obviously serious as hers was.
I'd like for this to become a moment of growth for her, where she finally entirely releases this toxic mindset. . . . That hey, cheating and murder do not have to be the only reason for it to be okay to break up even when one party isn't happy with it . . . because hey, it takes two to tango. Everyone needs to care, and everyone needs to be responsible for it to be done right and for the "dance" to truly be meaningful.