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At What Point Is Enough Enough?

This movie, overall was a great watch.
I enjoyed the music, the scenes, you name it, I loved it. But I found myself struggling to like the FL. NOT the actress, I think she did great, but the character. The character goes through a lot of hardships and you see how it impacts her relationships; she keeps her distance, doesn't believe she deserves goodness, doesn't share much about herself, and doesn't trust others. My question to that is at what point is enough enough? There has to be a decision to move forward and not let the past dictate your life. She does make that choice but at the signs of trouble, she falls right back into old habits and disappears.
I believe the FL lives her life with the mindset of "I don't want to inconvenience anyone, I don't deserve to be an inconveience anyone" but she never ASKS IF she's an inconvenience to anyone, she never ASKS her friends if they're ok, and she never offers to TELL her friends if she's how she's doing and if she's ok. She's already made the decision that she's an inconvenience and therefore the best thing for those around her is if SHE makes the decision for ALL of them by removing herself out of their lives.
That isn't love.
You can't say "I love you, so I'll make this decision without talking to you first, without getting your input first, and without thinking of how it'll affect you first. But because I love you, trust me, it's for the best." That's very selfish and self-centered. That isn't love.

I also found myself getting frustrated with the ML. Loving someone doesn't mean you have no boundaries with them. He has no boundaries of proper treatment from the woman he says he loves. He has boundaries with friends, coworkers, etc, but not her. That was annoying because the FL treats him how she BELIEVES is the best way to tram him. She genuinely believes she's doing the right thing and because he has no boundaries with her, he doesn't correct her; instead just coddles her and enables her selfish tendencies. That isn't love either.

I believe a person can be a victim and still be selfish outside of that victimhood.

Both FL and ML seem trauma bonded, trying to relive missed opportunities which is never good.
Overall, it was a beautiful watch- the cinematography of it all- I wouldn't watch it again (simply because once is enough for me with most shows/movies), but it was hard to witness this type of relationship.

Maybe I was too invested in the realism of it all ?

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Terrible Acting from Actor

SPOILERS.

I finished watching this entire show.
The female lead (FL) gave a really good performance. All the women actors did a really good job. Some of the male actors also did well. The male lead (ML), however, was a terrible actor. So terrible we skipped almost all of his scenes because we couldn’t stomach watching him act so terribly. His facial expressions didn’t make sense, the delivery of lines didn’t make sense, during tense/serious scenes he acted as if he was…. pretending, it was tough to watch. He over performed in scenes and was overdramatic.
I understand being a young actor starting out in a career, I don’t understand why they chose him for this role. It made the show really bad and his acting made it hard to watch the show because we got secondhand embarrassment from watching him act terribly.

Also, the second ML - the guy who was number one at the host bar also did a terrible acting job. I mean the scene where he claims the FL’s bff wanted to sleep with him, so he “threw” her on the couch and tried to pin her down… wtf was that???? So embarrassing! Even when he acted his scenes in the host bar they were cringe. The background actor guys in the host bar were cringe. It was all cringe!

I would say maybe it’s a cultural thing the way they were acting, maybe affection in tv doesn’t happen often, but I can’t just blame culture because we’ve (my sister and I) watched other Japanese dramas and enjoyed them with/without romance! Plus, I really enjoyed the dad’s performance! I really enjoyed the male fiancé‘s performance, I really liked the Assistant teacher guys performance. So it’s not culture, it’s just bad acting and terrible actor choices on the directors part.

The ML, the second ML host, and the friend of the ML host were too much and too overdramatized, and it became annoying. At one point, my sister who was watching the show with me said “should this have been an anime, they’re acting very animated and ridiculous”.

I wish they had chosen a different ML. Heck the FL even had better connection with the bar OWNER than the ML.
Maybe the Fl and ML just couldnt find that artistic connection because the couple in the show didn’t even make sense either… You look at them and you know they won’t last. She made more sense with the fiancé than with the ML. They could’ve had her former relationship with the owner of the host bar and it would’ve made more sense.The ML was incredibly immature and she would’ve been the one taking care of him if they ended up together. Like his mom. Spoiler they end up together and it makes no sense when they do either… I cannot get past his terrible acting. I’m just glad he wasnt a high schooler.. I’m sick of seeing that in the shows.
The FL was very good! Even her scenes with the fiancé, with the dad, with the Assistant teacher, they were all good scenes, so it was not her, and it was not the writing, and it was not the script.

We know what it was..

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