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Is an outstanding woman just an average man?
I originally skipped this show when I back-wrote all my reviews, because I disliked it so much. But I’m feeling extra petty today, so here goes.
What bothers me most about this show is its casual sexism. It’s not the obvious kind that we can all agree to rage about; it’s a more subversive kind that quietly reinforces implicit biases and sends insidious messages about who is capable of what.
Here is a female lead who’s clearly supposed to be capable and strong. But, it turns out, she’s only capable FOR A GIRL. Whether it’s her technical abilities or skills in the game, she only stands out because of her gender- there are still a bunch of guys who are casually as good as or better than her.
As far as I remember, her technical abilities are limited to fixing a laptop at the beginning (btw I am an electrical engineer and that made me facepalm, like at least hand the girl a multimeter). Later she joins her boyfriend’s startup, but she doesn’t actually do anything real, whereas the rest of the company is full of genius dudes. I think it’s kind of telling that his career and professional successes are so central to the plot, whereas her story arcs mostly deal with love triangles.
As for the game, sure she’s pretty good, but obviously nowhere near the ML. His (male) friends are all pretty decent, yet most of the girls in the game seem to only be there to hit on guys. And what even is this game? At first I was excited at the premise because I’ve played quite a few MMORPGs, but it turns out this game is all about in-game marriages and couples quests. Errm, what? I’ve never played a MMORPG where the gender of the character is even relevant. And, just sayin, most of my guy friends like to play female characters.
Well, one thing the FL DOES stand out for, even above the ML, is... dundundun... her looks. What even is this college-wide beauty contest? Is this a real thing in Chinese universities? Surely I don’t need to go into why this is problematic. And yet they are all sooo into it.
As it turns out, looking pretty is her ticket to respect. It is abundantly clear in this show that women are judged heavily based on looks, the pretty ones get admiration and respect, and the less pretty ones get bullied. ...it's definitely annoying that beauty seems to be what matters most for women in this show. But actually this premise isn’t what bothered me the most, since it’s more a function of the society they’re portraying rather than the reality of the show.
It's just that the reality of the show is also problematic. The FL is good, the ML is better. The ML is amazing at everything and admired by everyone, always in control and always winning. He’s just somebody’s stereotype of a dreamboat guy, and I guess part of that is taking care of and saving the girl.
For the plot itself, I thought the first part of getting the couple together was alright, kind of cute. But then the plot moves on to things like the raging success of his underdog startup, and an endless stream of love triangles. The love triangles are no contest from the beginning, and seem meant instead to just highlight how amazing and desirable the leads are. It’s a whole bunch of whiny men and whiny women with ridiculous love brains.
Even if you don’t have a problem with the gender dynamics of this show, I still think the plot is not very interesting. I was at least mildly entertained at the beginning with all the game drama (my issues with the game nonetheless, I still liked watching a girl impress people), but they stop showing it, and then it’s just a bunch of petty real-life drama with resounding successes from our leads. I think the show relies a lot on you the viewer being proud of how amazing the leads are, and having fun watching them put everyone in their place. Clearly that didn’t work for me.
As for the acting, I was kind of annoyed by the FL’s voice actress making so many breathy little noises. Zheng Shuang is also creepy skinny, like ED (eating disorder)-trigger-level skinny. Yang Yang does an excellent job being too cool for school, as usual. It was probably more about his character, but sometimes I just wanted to smack that confident smirk off his face. Neither of them do that well in the in-game reenactments, which are particularly awkward.
Ok, so what did this show do well?
I like the friendships with the roommates, on both the ML and the FL side. These friendships are all really healthy and supportive, no backstabbing or cattiness or anything. I love how the girls laugh together at the ML's excessively confident courtship style and try to figure out the situation together, like gal pals would. I think anyone who’s lucky enough to have a pack of good friends like that would really appreciate their dynamics. The side stories about the friends are also not bad.
The other thing I really like is the flash of scenes as they approach college graduation. It's so nostalgic, I actually cried. Very on point and reminded me of my own last days of uni.
I saw somebody say, you have to understand that Bei Weiwei was still revolutionary for her time, because she was a strong FL that didn’t need saving. I admit I wasn’t watching Cdramas in 2016 so I don’t know what standards we’re comparing to here. But I almost think a FL who passes off as strong but, it turns out, only stands out because she can do all these things WHILE BEING FEMALE, is actually worse. This only reinforces the idea that the standards are different and we should expect less from our girls.
ENDING – READ AHEAD ONLY IF YOU WANT TO KNOW, CONTAINS SPOILERS
I’m still putting this section in, but I don’t think it’s much of a spoiler to say that everything goes well. The show is way too fluffy for anything else and it's not like anything in between failed. His company is a raging success, she is signed up to work for them after graduation, they get married and buy a condo, etc. Friends do well too.
What bothers me most about this show is its casual sexism. It’s not the obvious kind that we can all agree to rage about; it’s a more subversive kind that quietly reinforces implicit biases and sends insidious messages about who is capable of what.
Here is a female lead who’s clearly supposed to be capable and strong. But, it turns out, she’s only capable FOR A GIRL. Whether it’s her technical abilities or skills in the game, she only stands out because of her gender- there are still a bunch of guys who are casually as good as or better than her.
As far as I remember, her technical abilities are limited to fixing a laptop at the beginning (btw I am an electrical engineer and that made me facepalm, like at least hand the girl a multimeter). Later she joins her boyfriend’s startup, but she doesn’t actually do anything real, whereas the rest of the company is full of genius dudes. I think it’s kind of telling that his career and professional successes are so central to the plot, whereas her story arcs mostly deal with love triangles.
As for the game, sure she’s pretty good, but obviously nowhere near the ML. His (male) friends are all pretty decent, yet most of the girls in the game seem to only be there to hit on guys. And what even is this game? At first I was excited at the premise because I’ve played quite a few MMORPGs, but it turns out this game is all about in-game marriages and couples quests. Errm, what? I’ve never played a MMORPG where the gender of the character is even relevant. And, just sayin, most of my guy friends like to play female characters.
Well, one thing the FL DOES stand out for, even above the ML, is... dundundun... her looks. What even is this college-wide beauty contest? Is this a real thing in Chinese universities? Surely I don’t need to go into why this is problematic. And yet they are all sooo into it.
As it turns out, looking pretty is her ticket to respect. It is abundantly clear in this show that women are judged heavily based on looks, the pretty ones get admiration and respect, and the less pretty ones get bullied. ...it's definitely annoying that beauty seems to be what matters most for women in this show. But actually this premise isn’t what bothered me the most, since it’s more a function of the society they’re portraying rather than the reality of the show.
It's just that the reality of the show is also problematic. The FL is good, the ML is better. The ML is amazing at everything and admired by everyone, always in control and always winning. He’s just somebody’s stereotype of a dreamboat guy, and I guess part of that is taking care of and saving the girl.
For the plot itself, I thought the first part of getting the couple together was alright, kind of cute. But then the plot moves on to things like the raging success of his underdog startup, and an endless stream of love triangles. The love triangles are no contest from the beginning, and seem meant instead to just highlight how amazing and desirable the leads are. It’s a whole bunch of whiny men and whiny women with ridiculous love brains.
Even if you don’t have a problem with the gender dynamics of this show, I still think the plot is not very interesting. I was at least mildly entertained at the beginning with all the game drama (my issues with the game nonetheless, I still liked watching a girl impress people), but they stop showing it, and then it’s just a bunch of petty real-life drama with resounding successes from our leads. I think the show relies a lot on you the viewer being proud of how amazing the leads are, and having fun watching them put everyone in their place. Clearly that didn’t work for me.
As for the acting, I was kind of annoyed by the FL’s voice actress making so many breathy little noises. Zheng Shuang is also creepy skinny, like ED (eating disorder)-trigger-level skinny. Yang Yang does an excellent job being too cool for school, as usual. It was probably more about his character, but sometimes I just wanted to smack that confident smirk off his face. Neither of them do that well in the in-game reenactments, which are particularly awkward.
Ok, so what did this show do well?
I like the friendships with the roommates, on both the ML and the FL side. These friendships are all really healthy and supportive, no backstabbing or cattiness or anything. I love how the girls laugh together at the ML's excessively confident courtship style and try to figure out the situation together, like gal pals would. I think anyone who’s lucky enough to have a pack of good friends like that would really appreciate their dynamics. The side stories about the friends are also not bad.
The other thing I really like is the flash of scenes as they approach college graduation. It's so nostalgic, I actually cried. Very on point and reminded me of my own last days of uni.
I saw somebody say, you have to understand that Bei Weiwei was still revolutionary for her time, because she was a strong FL that didn’t need saving. I admit I wasn’t watching Cdramas in 2016 so I don’t know what standards we’re comparing to here. But I almost think a FL who passes off as strong but, it turns out, only stands out because she can do all these things WHILE BEING FEMALE, is actually worse. This only reinforces the idea that the standards are different and we should expect less from our girls.
ENDING – READ AHEAD ONLY IF YOU WANT TO KNOW, CONTAINS SPOILERS
I’m still putting this section in, but I don’t think it’s much of a spoiler to say that everything goes well. The show is way too fluffy for anything else and it's not like anything in between failed. His company is a raging success, she is signed up to work for them after graduation, they get married and buy a condo, etc. Friends do well too.
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