Kinara

Cruising: look up the synonym: wandering, drifting, floating (staying afloat) - that is really what the FL is doing . She is removed from reality and people and relationships don’t mean much to her after she has been constantly hurt . And she has left unresolved stuff with the ML. Not sure why this word is a trigger .

Yep the poem is very apt for the drama

Yes they seem to be very insensitive and oblivious to what she went through. That has bothered me a lot

Agreed on this assessment

Yes let go is the key word . She does not want any of that in her life. It does not have any effect on her . But yes except for the trauma which looms large in her life

lol! That is why it is subjective . We all see what we want to see. And no I am out of whatever happened and am happy now. It has been a while

Hmmmm

You need to stop attacking people . And be a little bit open to people ‘s views . It seem like you think that you are the guru of all of this. But mental illness is complex. And some of these people do cruise through life without letting anything affect them because they don’t want to go through any more pain than they have . This is a known fact. It is a coping mechanism. Not sure why that phrase irritates you so much . And you are here making such a big deal of it .

I never blamed the FL. I am sorry if it came across like that but that was not my intention

How did you get the south Indian part now I am curious . I can see that my wording may have pissed people off- because it does come across sarcastic .but no that is not what I meant

This is not insensitive at all. It is a realistic look at a person who has been through trauma. And I have met with several people with mental illness and lived with one for a while and had kids with them. . So yeah don’t make judgments about people you don’t know

Well I stood by someone through mental illness as well and did not leave them . But could not forgive them after they cheated. That was the bottom line for me. I don’t hold their mental illness against them but some things are a bottom line for me

I think it is pretty obvious to him that she is not alright . There have been changes in her personality since they knew each other in high school. I am aware that Wen Yifan is completely oblivious to people’s intentions around her . But it is not that hard to figure out - if you really want to you can . But in her case she is not interested - she does not need any of that right now in her life especially after what she has been through . And if you read what I have written here- I make it clear that relationships need more than just love and yes patience is one of them but communication is the other important aspect . And so is trust . The ML is doing all of this to build that but he can also see how distant she is . I am not putting down the FL here. This was just a comment about the state of their relationship/ interactions so far .

Sweet!

Subconscious hug and kiss. BTW is that Punjabi? And yes there should be no expectations in love but there should be reciprocations . One sided actions can last only for so long in reality. And I never said that he should just leave . He’s standing by her during hard times and that is what you need . But the person who is doing all this also needs some warmth and acknowledgment from the other person. Otherwise it will turn into hurt

Yep that will add a different dimension to the story 😂🤣. And extrapolate on the trauma she has experienced because in all serial killer stories there is always some psychological trauma involved . If you know what I mean. But I better keep quiet because people may not understand the humor in h this!! And misunderstand my intentions again!

Hope she communicates that to them ML better because the ML is suffering right now because he feels that anything he does is not enough . Obviously if you don’t love a person you can t put up with all of this. And it is not her fault for being the way she is - sexual assault and her family being the way they are all a lot to deal with . But if she really loves and cares about the ML she should talk to him about all of it regardless of whether their relationship progresses or not.

I have not watched 10 yet so no spoilers . I am also stating things as they are too. And my point is also the same - that communication and her opening up is going to be important . The reason Sang Yan has not made his intentions clear is because of the way she is . He does not know how to approach her and close the gap. He has to maintain a delicate distance and walk on egg shells even though he loves her deeply. And it is because he knows that she is mentally unwell . He is making all these efforts but he still does not know if there is a future with her and that is what he wants .

Exactly my point . Relationships are hard and require a lot more than just love. The normal people who stay with mentally ill people also have a very difficult time because they have to deal with a lot

I think people are taking my comments the wrong way. All I said was that one needs a lot of patience to deal with someone who cannot open up. And that does not mean that he does not love her- and yes I like that he pampers her and cares for her deeply. All I am saying is that it must be hard to do so without reciprocation . And yeah she is trying g to save his money -but really from his side -is that what he wants? I understand that she has been through hell and there is trauma and mental illness there . I don’t think she is taking care of herself either . She is a victim with her own coping mechanisms and she was forced into taking him as her room mate. But is he aware of all her issues? No. The fact that he loves her deeply helps . But if you look at this situation realistically how long can you maintain this delicate balance when you don’t know where it is going ?