ashesinthewind

You hit the nail in the head with everything you said. Shulang literally has no one. No family, no friends, his first lover dropped him for someone more exciting, and the "right" person he thought he'd found turned out to be a liar and a horrible person who'd rather forcefully trap him with his obssessive, destructive love than let him take his time, think about it and eventually forgive him. Even Fan Xiao at least has his faithful bestie Shi Lihua, poor Shulang is not even given that mercy. The people around him are, at best, acquaintances, who like him well enough, but don't care about him, with the notable exception of, ironically, Fan Xiao, who has no idea that this isn't the way to show him his love. It's a truly depressing situation, so it's no wonder Shulang starts to lose his will to keep on living like that.

"One lunatic in my life is plenty. I'm not stupid enough to pick up a second."

"I can't breathe with all these boys hanging around me".

Shulang is learning to recognize them, the hard way. I love him so much.

Fan Xiao really thought he could force Shulang to come back to him by destroying his life and threatning people around him and then it would be the same as before. I don't know whether to call him naive, stupid, delusional or just completely deranged. Maybe it's a little bit of everything, plus the fact that he has no idea that this isn't how you show your love to a person and has to learn the hard way.

I didn't dare to rewatch episode 10 earlier, because it shattered me, but I did today. What a brilliant episode and the acting was so on point, I got goosebumps in every single scene.

Wow, this looks amazing, I can't wait!

I'm not that much on social media so it might be that I'm ignorant, but at least on Facebook, the only social media I use, the show seems to be popular enough, the posts have ten of thousands of likes. Based on that, I was under the impression that it's doing well enough given the lack of promotion, especially on YouTube.

I don't know if I was YunYi, I would've liked what happened to the actors of Revenged Love. Just my personal opinion; of course, it might be completely wrong. A very big part of the hype for Revenged Love was the very heavy and constant promotion on YouTube.

It's normal that if more than one streaming plattforms are supposed to air a show worldwide, that they devide the territories among themselves. In this case, Gaga got only the streaming rights for Southeast Asia and Viki for the rest of the world, except Japan and South Korea, which have their own plattforms.

Personally, I was not happy about it at all, because I don't have Viki and like you, I can't understand why Gaga got the rights for every single Chinese BL that aired this year worldwide, but not for To My Shore. All of the others aired on Gaga worldwide, no exception, only the best one (in my humble opinion) is so restricted. Thankfully, I have VPN and still can watch there.

I have no idea how well it's performing on Viki, maybe someone who watches it there can say. My point was that it's obvious why it's not on Gaga's list if they've excluded North and South America, Europe, all of Asia except Southeast Asia and Australia from watching it there. It's not because the show isn't liked or good. It's also a new show that people who prefer to binge a series haven't even started yet.

The show is very geo-restricted on Gaga, it's available only for Southeast Asia, the rest of the world should watch on Viki. If I didn't have VPN, I wouldn't be able to watch it there. You cannot compare it with shows that are available on Gaga only, worldwide, like the Japanese BLs. Also, it only came out a month ago.

I use Malaysia and it works for me, but I think any country in Southeast Asia should work.

I think it's a little deliberate on their part in order to avoid the craziness of some fans like it happened with Revenged Love and ABO Desire. There was no big promotion. The three YouTube videos on their channel have no subtitles and they never posted anything after the trailer. Also, they have not toned Fan Xiao's character down in order to make him more popular, which might lose some watchers along the way. I'm not on social media that much, but from what I've seen on Facebook, the series is still popular enough. Personally, it's my favourite BL series this year, even if it's not finished yet. Everyone who would give it a chance would see that it's way better than ABO Desire.

The talk about the leads' looks are crazy, because as someone who's read the book, I can see that they've put a lot of effort to cast the right type - the charming, attractive, very impressive Fan Xiao and the elegant, handsome, graceful You Shulang.

He deserves real consequences, like jail time or something equally severe, and he needs to genuinely learn his lesson before I could even BEGIN to see him as redeemable.

Spoiler: (extra space if you don't want it so you can skip):













In this case, you should keep watching, you might get your wish. ;)

We've entered the era I barely managed to go through in the book, i.e. Fan Xiao at his worst in the open. Somehow, he was colder, more detached from what he was doing and ever more horrible in the adaptation than I remember.

I've seen all episodes at least three times so far, but I don't think I'll be rewatching episodes 10 and 11 and probably 12, depending on when this will be ending. Today's episode was for me, as someone who adores You Shulang to pieces, simply torturous to watch.

Zhang Chen is still the character whom I hate the most, by far. One of my most proudest times in regards to Shulang was when he finally broke off all bridges with him. BTW, this is the first big change they've made from the book - making Zhang Chen threaten to jump off a bridge instead of a building. Very good analogy here, even if it wasn't deliberate on their part.

I'm afraid they will, there are no enough episodes to cover the extras. I think it will end at chapter 106, where the official book ends.

It was so satisfying to see one of my favourite scenes from the book on screen, I've been waiting for it since the confession scene.

My love for You Shulang has no boundaries, and if you want to know why he's the best, this is the episode to pay attention to. <3

That comes later, this is why I marked my comment as a spoiler.

Yes, it's remarkable how loyal of a friend he was. When he thought Fan Xiao wanted to play with Shulang, he supported him. When he realized Fan Xiao was in love with Shulang, he also supported him. Whatever Fan Xiao wants, Shi Lihua would help.

There were very few times when I felt sorry for Fan Xiao and the jail time wasn't it (also, let's not forget that his horrible family went down with him, and they deserved it as much and he was happy about it), but the accident with the motorcycle and Shulang's non-reaction was indeed one of them. However, he did tell him later to stop driving said motorcycle, so he still cared, only showed it differently.

The time skip was necessary, there's no way they could've reconciled otherwise. Shulang had to find out by himself that he still loved Fan Xiao, and given the circumstances, he needed the time.

I absolutely support both actors, they are amazing! I'm so happy they've kept the adaptation so close to the source material!

But Fan Xiao was never poor, he went to work and earn his own money on his own. It was his own wish. His money was still there. He never complained about having to work, on the contrary, he was proud of achieving something on his own. How is that a bad thing and why should You Shulang be blamed for it?

The jail time was deserved, and Fan Xiao was the one who practially sent the e-mail by using You Shulang's hand. You Shulang wouldn't have done it on his own. He had the possibility to do it way earlier and never did. I wouldn't have blamed him even if he had, with the way Fan Xiao had him trapped.

Fan Xiao had good reasons being the way he is, but unfortunately, another person had to suffer because of it, a lot. Fortunately, You Shulang is strong and clever and could deal with it and fight against it. Exactly this is what makes the story so different and so much better than all comparable stories in which one of the characters is a red flag. I woud've never accepted them as a couple if You Shulang hadn't been as strong as he is and made Fan Xiao pay. It's so great to finally have a MC who won't just take the bad guy back with just a slap on his hand.

What else was You Shulang supposed to do? Accept him back just like that?

You Shulang did absolutely the right thing by not taking him back without making him realize how horrible he's been.

Episode 3.

Yes, You Shulang helps him one last time with that female client, and then he'll ask Lu Zhen to show him the pieces of the portrait Fan Xiao painted of him in order to see what Fan Xiao wrote on it. After that, Lu Zhen is just gone from the narrative. He is shortly mentioned in the very last extra of the novel, but this is it for him. He acknowledges his mistakes and never tries to get Shulang back, because he feels he doesn't deserve him.

To be honest, I don't understand why Lu Zhen and Shi Lihua are listed as mains. They aren't. There are two main characters, the rest are supporting ones.