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That's exactly how I saw it too. I don't mind age gaps, as long as they make sense together, and the way they meet and grow together is healthy. In this case there was a big power imbalance and they never grew out of the dynamic kid-guardian, she was making all the calls, she never apologized when she hurt him. Even when she was in the wrong, he ended up apologizing. The actors were excellent and it was an engaging watch, but I'm not comfortable with their relationship.

Not really true. There's so many dramas with with a big age gap where the man is older and there were no pitchforks.

Yes, it's from 2021.

There have been dramas like this. Jerry Yan with Shen Yue in Count Your Lucky Stars. Nobody had a meltdown.

And then you just gotta love this when some people with the excuse "but this is satire!!!".

The funniest part is that you keep talking about projection while projecting constantly. You accuse other commenters of being triggered, too emotionally invested in the ML, unable to handle opinions, and obsessed with your review, all because they disagreed with you about a fictional character. Kinara disagreed with your interpretation. You responded by inventing things about her preferences, emotions, and motives. The irony is that you're accusing everyone else of invalidating opinions while repeatedly trying to invalidate the people holding those opinions with personal attacks. Look at how disproportional and emotional your responses are. See ya, wouldn't wanna be ya!

Etiquette lessons from someone as that behaves like you, haha. I was not triggered in the slightest by your opinion. I was not a big fan of the ML. Feel free to see him as emasculated. I responded to your bully ways and how you responded to that other person responding to you. You were not obligated in the slightest to watch till the end. The fact that you forced yourself just because of positive reviews, that's on you. Delulu is not the solulu.

And what a villain he was, one of the worst kind!

I really liked them together too but c-dramas never let villains live happy endings.

Nobody forced you to waste 40 hour for an "emasculated boy". Then you go on a tirade in the comments section and get buthurt someone dared to disagree with you. Don't dish it if you can't take it.

As much as I complained about the toxicity portrayed in this series, the actors' talent, the chemistry, the soundtrack really made this one of the most memorable series I've ever seen. At the end of the day as much as I huffed and puffed that I would stop watching it, I couldn't.

Why does Lin Xia deserve kindness? She needs to disappear, I can't stand seeing her.

I don't care for it. I've seen women's lives ruined by jealous men that don't listen to reason and just fester in their insecurities. Some of those women even end up dead. Reactions like that are usually just the start or worse and worse behavior to come. He blew everything out of proportion because it was more important for him to believe in the words of another man, than try to communicate with his wife and find out what exactly happened. Even when he knew, his feelings were more important than her. She would have lived her best life without being married to any of those men, being with her family and growing her businesses. And of course it's fiction, and those were different times, but I don't like what his character symbolizes and that's my prerogative.

Ye Xian was an unstable guy, ofc people were scared of his reactions. CYY was supposedly the "better" man. Yes, he was jealous of Ye Xian. He got just as jealous when Ye Xian went with that painting before their wedding and CYY threw him in the rain on top of the painting . He already knew Jin Zhao loved him, chose him, yet he still need to act all alpha with these other guys and it wasn't to protect her, it was because his pride was hurt. Only insecure guys act like this.

I wasn't talking about the marriage news. She kept it a secret from CYY that she had a crush on his nephew years ago and that he went crazy over her after that, causing trouble. She didn't trust CYY would react well, she didn't trust him, and for good reason.

No, she didn't, she held on to secret until it could not longer be hidden. The ML stated himself he couldn't stand knowing she loved another man before him, that he wasn't the first. Yuck. Simping after men just because they're handsome and manly when they have such low EQ is so overrated. These ML characters always have hoards of defenders while the FL always get the short stick. Misogyny at it's finest.

Yet despite being afraid she kept trying to reach him for days to let him know.

Man, this took such a nose dive after episode 30, what a disappointment. It just proved Jin Zhao first instinct to not want to get married to CYY was right. His jealousy was so disgusting, he acted like manosphere chads that treat a woman like a possession. She had a crush on Xuan Qing when she was 15 and she saw him like 3 times!!! It wasn't even a first love. Just because that maniac was obsessed with her doesn't make it true. The fact that she doesn't trust CYY enough to tell him what's going on is proof enough she doesn't feel safe enough with him. And weirdly enough, despite his many flaws, she would have told Ye Xian. But all in all CYY had no right to treat her like that, it wasn't her fault.

I didn't say To My Shore is rainbows and puppies in general. It is compared this this show. At least for me. Because there, despite the horrible gaslighting, the ML didn't kidnap, repeatedly violate, strangle, torture the MC.

Fantastic acting! But may this kind of love never find me!
From the obsessive, violent, manipulative, grapist, psycho Lu Feng (regardless of his love-sick status) who really doesn't know to let go, to the horrible controlling, manipulative parents not giving a shit about their kids, to the obsessive, controlling, manipulative didi, to the self-esteem into the abyss Yi Chen that is just a leaf in the wind, letting other people abuse and walk all over him, to him being an indecisive lover who can't stand up to him family, to the sickly/incesty relationship he has with his didi, it's so fucking weird. Not waking up from a coma would have been the better outcome for him. I'd rather die than have to be around those people.

Everybody in his life just makes him do as they please. There's something really broken inside of him, he wouldn't recognize healthy even if it hit him in the face. He'll never get away.