First question: "Why are people shipping Cang Xuan and Xiao Yao aren't they just cousins from the same grandmother…
I completely understand where you're coming from, and yes, if we look at it realistically and with our 2023 views, it's difficult to wrap our heads around this. But I try to separate myself from our modern reality and get completely immersed in the fantasy and in the world building. I remember I wrote a whole essay down in the comments (unfortunately, it will now be impossible for me to find it 😅), but basically it's more or less like this: XL is not a man. He's a literal monster ("a venomous nine-headed snake monster that brings floods and destruction in Chinese mythology"), a very important part of Chinese culture, much like the Loch Ness monster, or the many Greek mythological creatures. He takes on this human form but that's not what he really is. So expecting him to behave like a "normal" good person is already the wrong approach.
I could go on, but, to sum it up, the fact that we almost involuntarily try to project on his character our modern notions of morality end up sort of ruining the viewing experience. As you said it yourself, you can't understand why people find him appealing. So maybe if you could remove that modern approach, it would perhaps make a bit more sense.
Apologies if I sounded rude before, it really was not my intention. It's just that I feel protective of the character because he's much more than simply the "abusive bad guy". I dare say he's not a bad guy at all. He's just been treated with the same amount of violence. The irony is that the one person who ends up getting hurt the most by his own actions is himself. 😔
Why do people ship CX and XY? CX and XY are cousins in the novel, yes. They may nor may not be cousins in the…
I may have exaggerated for dramatic purposes. I started watching LYF because of Deng Wei, yes. And I liked him for about three episodes or so. But then the platinum hair appeared on my screen and BOOM, it all became Love You Forever 😭🤣
First question: "Why are people shipping Cang Xuan and Xiao Yao aren't they just cousins from the same grandmother…
The "fantasizing abuse" part. I've had to waste so much time and brain cells trying to explain to people with this same mentality how horrible it is to say things like "XL fans support abusive relationships". That's not even remotely true and it's borderline criminal to say such things. Who in their right mind would support such a thing? Who would even consider that this particular character is appealing because of the "abuse" aspect? It's insulting in so many ways.
So yeah, I usually am a very good sport, but when I read things like these, being thrown at people you don't even know, I have to become a bad sport. There's no supporting abuse around here. I hope I made that clear enough.
If I had the money, instead of buying Twitter, and after dealing with world hunger, I'd be putting one of these on every billboard available, from here to Mars 🙈
If even one paragraph, no, one word in my 5 Xiang Liu threads gets deleted I'll be pissed. And I promise that MDL most certainly won't want to see me pissed. 😹😂
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I could go on, but, to sum it up, the fact that we almost involuntarily try to project on his character our modern notions of morality end up sort of ruining the viewing experience. As you said it yourself, you can't understand why people find him appealing. So maybe if you could remove that modern approach, it would perhaps make a bit more sense.
Apologies if I sounded rude before, it really was not my intention. It's just that I feel protective of the character because he's much more than simply the "abusive bad guy". I dare say he's not a bad guy at all. He's just been treated with the same amount of violence. The irony is that the one person who ends up getting hurt the most by his own actions is himself. 😔
So yeah, I usually am a very good sport, but when I read things like these, being thrown at people you don't even know, I have to become a bad sport. There's no supporting abuse around here. I hope I made that clear enough.
Ahhh thank you 🥰
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If even one paragraph, no, one word in my 5 Xiang Liu threads gets deleted I'll be pissed. And I promise that MDL most certainly won't want to see me pissed. 😹😂
Your dad sounds like the perfect kind of bad boy :) And he's absolutely right!