Can agree why some people might dislike Seol Ah. Not sure why the ex husband deserves better, a cheat, throws…
Blame is based on perspective. They are both to blame in my opinion but by "I don't blame him" I mean I empathize with his choice, and I don't like her treatment of him (or her family) is just my feelings about people who are that selfishly superficial and motivated solely by things like wealth and status. She had to have it taken away to evolve as a character. The affair was, in my opinion, necessary for all of that to happen.
And I'm not over-inflating love at all. It's just logical that if a person is longing for something that they can't get in their relationship they are probably going to jump at the chance if it's offered elsewhere. She didn't think he would be capable of that and that was foolish. To me, it's human nature. Even in arranged marriages or other marriages of convenience, the arrangement can't override human emotions. It's the same as "I have a lover" where his wife checked out of the relationship emotionally. We are not emotionless creatures (although Seol Ah, in the beginning, had sociopath adjacent tendencies). Seol Ah bet on keeping their superficial relationship going, but her calculations were off as far as how tolerant her husband would be with their heavily one-sided relationship. It's obvious to viewers tho... that 's what makes it drama.
Can agree why some people might dislike Seol Ah. Not sure why the ex husband deserves better, a cheat, throws…
And to be clear again you don’t know anything about me so spare me on your “obligation” to help people who may be hurt by me. Lol. You are assuming way too much about my real life based on my opinions on a show.
It would be best for you moving forward to not respond to posts like this making those kind of assumptions and making these posts personal.
As far as a written character, my favorite lines coming from Seol Ah are when she's on the radio commenting about…
Even though I’m not a fan of her character I totally agree. I admit her radio segments are the best parts for her character and I was probably too annoyed by her to take in what she was saying on the air.
I also think your point about them breathing in a shared space and not understanding each other, and having a relationship for appearances sake, is spot on. My empathy for her ex doesn’t mean I see no fault in what he did as well, it’s just the consequences of two people leaping into a relationship for the wrong reasons.
And I also wish that the writer made Seol Ah’s character more about Independent personal growth and less about which man she will eventually be with. I guess there have been aspects of that , and maybe there will be more, but I think this may be why this story frustrates me to watch. I still want to see more growth from her more than I want to see her in any relationship.
The way you broke this down however did give me some things to consider as far as being more sympathetic to her character as I continue to watch. I may have a total change of heart about her in the upcoming episodes, who knows? Right now it was just a struggle for me to see her appeal at all but I can see from your post what can be likeable about her (beyond the constant sulking lol). Thx.
Can agree why some people might dislike Seol Ah. Not sure why the ex husband deserves better, a cheat, throws…
W are not going to agree on this. To feel you should be owed love and not give any in return is a selfish act. She is a selfish character for expecting it and it backfired. There’s no morality lesson here as far as I’m concerned. It seems you fault him for not having blind devotion “forever” no matter how he’s treated in his return and to me that is simply not realistic. I don’t want to keep repeating the same points. We don’t agree.
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I'm struggling to make it through this last episode.
And so much screaming lol
I Just looked up and something really "dramatic" happened and I still don't care. I may not even make it to the end of this episode.
And I'm not over-inflating love at all. It's just logical that if a person is longing for something that they can't get in their relationship they are probably going to jump at the chance if it's offered elsewhere. She didn't think he would be capable of that and that was foolish. To me, it's human nature. Even in arranged marriages or other marriages of convenience, the arrangement can't override human emotions. It's the same as "I have a lover" where his wife checked out of the relationship emotionally. We are not emotionless creatures (although Seol Ah, in the beginning, had sociopath adjacent tendencies). Seol Ah bet on keeping their superficial relationship going, but her calculations were off as far as how tolerant her husband would be with their heavily one-sided relationship. It's obvious to viewers tho... that 's what makes it drama.
It would be best for you moving forward to not respond to posts like this making those kind of assumptions and making these posts personal.
I also think your point about them breathing in a shared space and not understanding each other, and having a relationship for appearances sake, is spot on. My empathy for her ex doesn’t mean I see no fault in what he did as well, it’s just the consequences of two people leaping into a relationship for the wrong reasons.
And I also wish that the writer made Seol Ah’s character more about Independent personal growth and less about which man she will eventually be with. I guess there have been aspects of that , and maybe there will be more, but I think this may be why this story frustrates me to watch. I still want to see more growth from her more than I want to see her in any relationship.
The way you broke this down however did give me some things to consider as far as being more sympathetic to her character as I continue to watch. I may have a total change of heart about her in the upcoming episodes, who knows? Right now it was just a struggle for me to see her appeal at all but I can see from your post what can be likeable about her (beyond the constant sulking lol). Thx.