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Aishiteiru to Ittekure japanese drama review
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Aishiteiru to Ittekure
2 people found this review helpful
by Gigi
Feb 7, 2024
12 of 12 episodes seen
Completed
Overall 7.0
Story 7.0
Acting/Cast 8.0
Music 6.0
Rewatch Value 6.0
This review may contain spoilers
It seems like I'm the only one who didn't feel bad for the male lead, well to be quite fair I also didn't feel bad for the female lead, in the end I think both of them were better off without one another.

When it comes to the female lead, she was obviously ableist and very immature, and would cause more harm than good to the male lead, that became clear to me when she jumped to say very hurtful things about his disability when they fought. As a POC, I know very well what it's like to suffer from microaggressions even from the people you love, and in the long run maintaining a person like that in your life will slowly eat you up. I suppose that with the passage of time and the open ending we're supposed to accept that she changed, but I'd have preferred to actually see that development, and I don't think I saw much of it, considering that up until episode 11 she was still hang up on the fact that he couldn't/wouldn't speak.

As for the male lead, the one everyone feels sorry for, I do think this drama is a product of its time, watching this not long after watching Silent shows how far we've come in the portrayal of people with disabilities and interabled couples. I think the way the drama would sometimes made it seem like the male lead would be unable to find love was ableist in itself, and I say this based on the things his sister and ex-girlfriend said and how the break up made it seem like they were right in their assessments, so overall the writing was questionable.

But if I focus only on the characters and forget the world outside of them, I feel that the male lead also wasn't ready to be in a relationship, a lot of focus is put on the female lead's actions with her friend, both by the audience and the drama, but if I'm being honest I think the male lead's "situationship" with his ex-girlfriend was inappropriate, and showed how inconsiderate he was with his partner's feelings. The second the ex tried to kiss him, he should have cut her from his life, or at very least made clear there were lines she couldn't cross, but instead he became even more involved in her life, allowing her to be even more close to him despite her confessing to him multiple times, it was no surprise the female lead questioned their relationship, I think anyone would.

And then there's the slap....... again, forgetting the time period, forgetting the questionable writing, and thinking only about the characters and their actions, if you ask me, a man who commits an act of domestic violence gets the karma he deserves from the universe, and that's exactly what the male lead got.

So yeah, ultimately I don't think the break up is solely because of the female lead's actions, I guess that's where my opinion differs from others. And as for the open ending...... meh. If the drama had taken the time to show how they changed in those three years apart, then maybe I could see it, but since that didn't happen, I prefer to think that they just ran into each other and didn't get back together.
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