I feel for sang yan. Drama portraits lot about Yifan struggles. It completely ignores Sang yans struggle. Obviously you can't compare what Yifan went through with sangyan. He went through worst possible heart break, blamed himself for years, even waited for her. When she finally came back, he did everything to get back with her. Despite that Yifan left him again without any explanation. Making his fears come true. And after all this, he can't complain because all he can do is to care about Yifan feelings. I hope Yifan understands him the way he did and put some efforts to makes him secure about their relationship.
My sister was sexually assaulted in school. She didn't tell that to anyone for 10 years. She couldn't trust any man after that. She couldn't trust even me (her brother). That's how difficult is to deal with sexual assault. She got job but left that because manager was interested in her. After her marriage ( obviously arrange marriage), thankfully my brother in law noticed her mental condition, took her in confidence, heard her story, took her to psychiatrist. Now she is completely out of mental trauma. She is happily living with her husband and two children. Seeing Yifan, it reminds me of situation my sister was in. I can tell one thing, you can't ran away from fear. I am not blaming Yifan. Neither she should be blamed. But as long as you ran away, that'll only make situation worse. Everyone around you will suffer including you. Sang yan knew she is suffering but he waited for her to tell herself. He could have took her in confidence. She would've definitely opened up to him. I also really hope that she goes back to nanwu herself, not sang yan comes to take her. That would be really positive message that she can face her problem head on.
Sang yan has no character growth. He is still stuck at high school. His whole life story is about wen yifan. I blame writer for not giving his character enough space. There is not space for his side story at all. He has no ambition in his life. Even he works because wen yifan likes it. Why do writers need make male lead character good for nothing pushover Whose life is nothing but to follow female lead. It's very irritating.
He went through worst possible heart break, blamed himself for years, even waited for her. When she finally came back, he did everything to get back with her. Despite that Yifan left him again without any explanation. Making his fears come true. And after all this, he can't complain because all he can do is to care about Yifan feelings. I hope Yifan understands him the way he did and put some efforts to makes him secure about their relationship.