Xiang Liu and Xiao Yao’s Story and Romance

Re-read chapter 43 and it seems she didn't meet XL on her wedding night, but the night after. 

@solarlunareclipse

I thought she met XL on her wedding night, so 31 days didn't fit a full moon when she parted with jing, but I have re-read the chapter and she met XL the night after her wedding. I was getting confused, but I was just mistaken. She left looking for Jing on the night of her wedding, but she got there the second day, so the night she spent with XL was the night after the full moon. 

 blabla100:

I think your way of interpreting the moon is very valid too. Out of curiosity though, why do you think Jing wanted a full moon day to get married? 

Xiao Yao surmised it thus on the day of her intended wedding to Jing:

小夭走到窗前，看着天上的圆月。

望日是月满之日，璟选定这个日子成婚，应该想要他们的婚姻圆圆满满吧？可竟然是团圆月不照团圆人。

Xiao Yao walked over to the window and gazed at the full  moon in the sky.

The "gazing day"** is the day of the full moon. Jing's choice to get married on this day, should be in hopes that their marriage would be perfect and fulfilling. However, it turned out that the reunion moon (full moon) did not shine down on reunited people. 

-- Vol 3 Ch9  (Chapter 42)

** 望日 literally means "day of looking/gazing", and refers to the day of the full moon. According to the lunar calendar, a month could be either 30 days (大月 long month) or 29 days (小月 short month). So the day of a full moon is either the 15th day of the short month or the 16th day of the long month. 

I agree with Xiao Yao's surmise. The day of the full moon is an auspicious day, as a full moon symbolises perfection, the reunion of loved ones, and happiness of the family. The Mid-autumn moon in particular symbolises reunion, particularly for those who long for their loved ones from far away. So I believe Jing chose that day to represent an auspicious start to their marriage, which was perfectly understandable particularly considering all the hardships and obstacles that stood between them before he was finally free to marry her. 

@liddi,Looks like this is a continuation, I forgot that this Tonghua quote was in the thread I made.

but apparently he has never really stopped him...

A little thought floated from Baituo Mountain to Qingqiu. There are Jing, Hou and Yiying. I have been thinking that if during Gaoxin's Lantern Festival, the man rowing out on a pole of spring water and half a stream of flowers in the shadow of flowers was really Jing, not Hou, Yiying and Jing might also be a good couple. Although Yiying was planning every step of the way, when she heard the news of Jing's death, she put aside all her plans. Regardless of the opposition of her family and the eyes of the world, she put on her wedding dress, flew thousands of miles, and climbed Qingqiu Mountain alone. Her ambition was to kill Kill Hou to avenge Jing. It's just, just...the man who came with a lantern in the dim night. Oh it's you! >

 liddi:

Oh I see. Thank you for sharing. Can you also post the original text from the post for this section too?

Yiying as a character won my empathy after we finally understood what truly happened all those years ago, the reason she passionately determined she would live and die as a part of the Tushan family because of her love for someone she thought was her betrothed. She loved passionately and fearlessly, throwing herself in unreservedly. Her tragedy is that she gave her love to the wrong man, and by the time she knew, it was too late, and she could not, would not turn back, and so continued to make wrong decision after wrong decision, ruthless for the man she loved, ultimately bearing the terrible consequences of her actions. 

Liddi, you and I share the same sentiments for Yiying. If Hou had not pretended to be Jing, she and Jing would've married and the story would have ended differently for her. 

@liddi

3、关于涂山璟

<《长相思》里还有另外一个感触的产物。西毒欧阳锋，出身白驼山，是武林中最光华璀璨的人物。欧阳克是他和嫂子的孩子。这一点残影在王家卫的电影里变成了张曼玉的绝代风华，张国荣的醉生梦死。隔着江湖天涯，想忘也忘不了。但西毒的哥哥呢?那位白驼山的主人呢?没有人关心，连名字好像也没有。我听着《烬》，想的却是白驼山上这个名字都没有留下的欧阳氏男子。他娶了一个不爱他的女人，为什么呢?欧阳锋思念白驼山上的女子，却从没有想过去看自己的大哥,为什么呢?那个女子可以托人把一罐灌酒送到欧阳锋手里，可以生下欧阳锋的孩子，他在白驼山上，是白驼山主，可显然从没有真正阻止过......

一点思绪悠悠，从白驼山飘到了青丘。就有了璟、篌、意映。我一直在想，如果高辛的放灯节，一篙春水、半溪花影中荡舟而来的男子真的是璟，而不是篌，意映和璟也许也是佳偶。意映虽然步步算计，可当初听闻璟的死讯，她却放下了所有算计，不顾家族反对，不理世俗目光，穿上嫁衣，飞奔千里，独上青丘山，她立的志向是诛杀篌，为璟报仇。只不过，只不过......那阑珊夜色中，提灯而来的男子。原来是你！>

注：这段话讲了涂山璟、涂山篌、防风意映的由来，也表明了如果不是涂山篌的算计，涂山璟和防风意映也许是佳偶。书中在涂山璟求婚小夭时也明确写了在被涂山篌陷害前，母亲为他选的妻子就是他憧憬的样子。

<问：十七到底是哪一个地方开始发现小六是女子的啊？

桐华答：他之前就知道小六是幻化的形体了，但他当时万念俱灰，什么都不在意，直到小六看他洗澡脸红时，他......嗯......死了的心也跳了跳......>

注：这段表明了涂山璟为什么会离不开小夭——小夭让他找回了男人的自尊。

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#桐华# 很早前，曾经说过当年看《雪山飞狐》，虽然非常感动，可其实心里特不赞成胡一刀夫人的自尽。所以，有了表哥和他母亲。
表哥即使长大了，依旧逃不开他母亲刺死自己那一刀的阴影，他的人生永远在和那一刀的阴影搏斗。
作为妻子，与丈夫生死与共，是感人的选择。但作为母亲，既然生下了孩子，就要对孩子负责。

《长相思》里还有另外一个感触的产物。
西毒欧阳锋，出身白驼山，是武林中最光华璀璨的人物。欧阳克是他和嫂子的孩子。
这一点残影在王家卫的电影里变成了张曼玉的绝代风华，张国荣的醉生梦死。隔着江湖天涯，想忘也忘不了。
但西毒的哥哥呢？那位白驼山的主人呢？
没有人关心，连名字好像也没有。
我听着《烬》，想的却是白驼山上这个名字都没有留下的欧阳氏男子。
他娶了一个不爱他的女人，为什么呢？
欧阳锋思念白驼山上的女子，却从没有想过去看自己的大哥,为什么呢？
那个女子可以托人把一罐灌酒送到欧阳锋手里，可以生下欧阳锋的孩子，他在白驼山上，是白驼山主，可显然从没有真正阻止过......

一点思绪悠悠，从白驼山飘到了青丘。就有了璟、篌、意映。我一直在想，如果高辛的放灯节，一篙春水、半溪花影中荡舟而来的男子真的是璟，而不是篌，意映和璟也许也是佳偶。意映虽然步步算计，可当初听闻璟的死讯，她却放下了所有算计，不顾家族反对，不理世俗目光，穿上嫁衣，飞奔千里，独上青丘山，她立的志向是诛杀篌，为璟报仇。只不过，只不过......那阑珊夜色中，提灯而来的男子。原来是你！

Long ago, I once mentioned that when I read "Flying Fox on Snowy Mountain", although I was extremely moved, the truth is I especially could not condone Hu Yidao's wife's suicide. As such, we have [the scenario of] Older Cousin (Cang Xuan) and his mother.
Even after he grew up, Older Cousin was still haunted by the sight of his mother stabbing herself. He was always struggling with the shadow of that stab his entire life. 
As a wife, choosing to die with her husband was a moving choice. However, as a mother, since she gave birth to a child, she should have taken responsibility for her child.

There is another product of emotion in Lost You Forever.
Western Poison Ouyang Feng from Baituo Mountain, was the most outstanding figure in the pugilistic world. Ouyang Ke was his son with his sister-in-law.
This residual image was transformed into Maggie Cheung's unparalleled elegance, and Leslie Cheung's drunken haze in Wong Kar Wai's movie [东邪西毒 Ashes of Time]. The world kept them apart, but they could not forget each other even if they tried.
But what about Western Poison's older brother? The lord of Baituo Mountain?
No one cared, and it seemed he did not even have a name.
I listened to 烬 Embers (from the movie), but the one I thought of was the man from the Ouyang clan of Baituo Mountain who did not even have a name.
He married a woman who did not love him. Why?
Ouyang Feng missed the woman on Baituo Mountain, yet never thought of visiting his older brother. Why?
That woman could arrange for someone to deliver a jar of wine into Ouyang Feng's hands, and could give birth to his son. He was on Baituo mountain, was the lord of Baituo mountain, but... evidently never really intervened...

A little thought wandered from Baituo mountain to Qing Qiu. Then there was Jing, Hou, Yi Ying. I always wondered, if the man who rowed the boat on the spring waters amidst the shadows of flowers during Gao Xin's lantern festival was Jing, not Hou, Yi Ying and Jing might have been a good match too. Although Yi Ying was calculative every step of the way, the moment she heard of Jing's death, she set aside all her plans, disregarded her clan's opposition and the eyes of the world, put on her wedding dress and rushed thousands of miles all by herself to Qing Qiu mountain. She was determined to kill Hou and avenge Jing. Only, only... the man who came with a lantern that dim night. It was you after all!

-- 桐华tonghua @ Weibo, 4-10, 16:30  (year unknown)