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When I saw that comment I laughed so hard…some people are hilarious! Like seriously. The confidence with which that comment was posted! “I just came across a dossier or something about Xilun” like it was a top secret information that could affect the world or something. Even now I can’t help but laugh. Lol

This Dossier is it from the FBI? MSS (Guoanbu)? Coz I don’t know where this information is coming from. This is hilarious! Lol

I have never considered couples clicking at the beginning of a show boring, because I know I am not watching a movie but peoples real life interactions.

That is the number one reason I love Chinese dating shows so so much is how genuine they are, no one there is doing it for fame or brand-building.

If not for the stable couples that make me smile, I would have stopped watching the show a long time ago. I do not enjoy drama when I am watching real life interactions. Any show I watch where there is drama…my hand is almost always on the fast forward button.

I can see it from your point of view about XiLun. How about this point of view…Yue Er is the one to set boundaries, XiLun does all those things because she allows it.

What I find similar between Lui Lui and Yue Er was the crying part. They both cried while talking to the guy they liked and the shocking part is that they had done nothing to indicate to those guys they liked them. The only difference was that Hewen had told Yue Er he was going to focus on her whereas BK had no clue Lui Lui liked him. But I still find that scene very similar because the girls in question never made any effort to show those guys they liked them…so the crying was funny.

I excuse LuiLui because I believe she’s just inexperienced and kind of timid but Yue Er is aware and just wants the guys to chase her.

Do you want to know why I am extremely excited and happy they are together? The first episode they interacted where Bohan was siting in the middle in between them, I told my sister “I wish they will pick each other, they seem to connect so well”. And they did!!! I absolutely love them so much.

Yeah she does have Pretty Girl Privileges. She is an amazing girl but when it comes to guys, she literally doesn’t do anything…she just waits for them to come to her.

The other couples you see the girls buying the guys gifts, engaging them more even if no promises has been made and mind you some of these things started as early as the 3rd episode.

I agree. Yes this does happen in real life and in real life we also see couples like this and we also know that they are not good for each other.

At least in the house they get assistance from PDs and free time to date, the outside world is a lot less friendlier with lots of things demanding our time.

If in this house where things are supposed to be easier and they are not for Yue Er and Hewen, then they are not right for each other. Then again it’s just my opinion…maybe they can work…who knows.

The more reason why they are not suited for each other. They don’t balance each other out, if one person doesn’t approach, the other does…that’s what Xilun and Xiaoyu have been doing…they balance them out. But “the heart wants what it wants”

So let’s all watch and see how it ends.

All I can do is laugh, LOL! I have watched aloooooooooooot of dating shows, and honestly, they almost always follow the same pattern.

Two people who clearly like each other will keep going around in circles while dragging their second options along, only to end up hurting them in the end. Rarely, very rarely do we get that exception where the guy or girl simply decides to stop the drama and give their second option a real chance, especially when that second option is actually better for them.

It is the same reason I always skipped Lui Lui and Youling’s parts in Love Actually 5. And now, I find myself doing the same with Hewen and Yue Er. They are both wonderful people, but my goodness, I just can’t. Poor Xilun and Xiaoyu, I really hope they don’t get hurt at the end.

Thank God the two people I fell in love with from Day 1 (Kaiyi and Yiheng) are still going. And the twins too! Also Yu Yang and Ren Fang I absolutely love them. They are all my sunshine.

Okay thank you. Because I wasn’t sure, I use Express so we just get 2 episodes on Mondays and 2 episodes on Tuesdays.

VIP is not thesame with Express, VIP you will get one episode each from Monday-Thursday or it will be 2 episodes Tuesday and 2 episodes Thursday

I think it airs from Monday- Thursday. If you are paying Express then 2 episodes drops on Monday and 2 episodes drops on Tuesday.

I also think Xilun and Yue Er are right for each other…that is if she will pick him at the end. I pray she does. She wants princess treatment (or has pretty girl privilege) where everybody does everything for her and she just waits, Xilun gives her that assurance and security.

Hewen does have his flaw, and lacks communication skills but at least he was the first person to toss a coin to show his intention…what has she done to show she’s also interested? Kaiyi goes to work and comes back with a gift or cake for Yiheng…i cannot think of one thing she has done.

An opportunity came for a date XingXing quickly invited Bohan, Bohan hasn’t promised her anything but she knew what she wanted and that effort solidified their connection. I totally loved it. I am not saying she should do exactly that, all I am saying she should “do something” she hasn’t done anything.

If you noticed, the other couples are successful because both the girls and the boys actively make effort to show interest.

Oh I totally agree and love your take on Hewen, Xilun and Yue Er personalities.

Thank you for understanding, I really try to make my comments short but it’s not easy, since I have a lot to say…lol.

And I tried editing the post you wanted to reply to and mistakenly refreshed the page so I had to start everything from beginning and I forgot some of the things i wrote earlier. Typing long messages is not easy using a mobile phone

Love what you said about self-respect. People that respect their own feelings don’t put themselves in situations that will hurt them. And even if they initially do, they know when to back off. Especially when they are not getting any feedback. Same reason I respect BK and Meng Meng.

Truer words have never been spoken

I will keep saying XiLun is always around Yue Er because he is. He has an intense energy that can discourage others from getting close. Yes, I was frustrated in the last episode when he refused to give them space, but even then, I did not blame him. I only wished he had given them space that one time because the situation was awkward. Every other time, he has every right to pursue who he wants. If you still want to take that I am blaming him then there’s nothing I can do about that.

However, Yue Er also has a responsibility to manage the admirers around her, especially if she has a preference. If she likes no one, then may the best man win. But once you like someone, you also have a part to play in making it easier for them to approach you.

That is why I blame Yue Er. Hewen made a huge step by tossing the coin. What has she done? If Yue Er were Meng Meng or Kaiyi, they would have immediately gravitated towards the person they liked after such a clear gesture. But Yue Er does nothing and constantly waits.

Glad you brought Lui Lui and Youling’s relationship. I don’t even want to go in depth into that relationship because this is not about them. But she ended up with the guy she liked the least, I don’t consider that a win-win situation. I personally don’t like their relationship but they choose each other and they are happy that’s what matters, my opinion is not law. I will not use their relationship as a guide to talk about relationships.

There is only so much one can explain in comments, I try to keep mine short, but they always end up long

From my experience watching dating shows. The couples that create a lot of drama 98% of the time often end up together. And the person they kept on the side always suffers.

I don’t know why people do this, even amongst my friends, I tell them alot. You don’t need a back up boyfriend/girlfriend. If you don’t like someone enough, quickly let them know. It is okay to be single if you don’t get the guy/girl you like.

Instead they keep them around and wait for the person they like to reciprocate how they feel. Once they do that, then they tell the person that was always there “sorry I never liked you like that” it is not fair.

Doing this you always end up hurting people.