Few weeks back, I read a comment here, stating the drama is mostly from the FL’s perspective, so we don’t…
You misunderstood—I didn’t mean it that way. The story focuses on Yifan’s struggles, how she copes, and tries to overcome them. We see glimpses of ML’s life and growth too, just not as much. But we can’t deny that his world revolves around her—that’s the core of the story. He’s her safe space, doing everything in his power to make her feel secure and happy.
This drama is written in which the ML has no character development too dependent on the FL and is just over simping…
Few weeks back, I read a comment here, stating the drama is mostly from the FL’s perspective, so we don’t see much of his outside life and that’s why everything revolves around her. It’s like watching through her lens. After reading that it made some sense, because all we see him is with, mostly FL.
After reading the comments about the deviation from the novel, I understand why some are disappointed. The original storyline was unique and refreshing, unlike typical drama plots. Since I haven’t read the novel, I found the FL’s decision to run away understandable.
Most people don’t confront trauma head-on; they rely on coping mechanisms, just like she did. It’s not just running away but a psychological response. But from this deviation, at least Sang Yan got to know how she was living and can empathize with her more.
Now that I know the novel’s original direction, I see why some of y’all are upset.
it's really sad to see people blaming fl for her actions. they are pitying towards him, but what about fl? why…
it's heartbreaking how, in reality, victims of assault are often ignored, doubted, and judged by society. instead of receiving support, they are forced to live in silence while the predator walks freely, without consequences. people are quick to question the victim—blaming them, scrutinizing their actions, and making them feel responsible for the trauma inflicted upon them.
it's really sad to see people blaming fl for her actions. they are pitying towards him, but what about fl? why don't they try putting themselves in her shoes and try to empathise with her? she's in a state of complete burnout, emotionally and physically. for years she has been in survival mode- completing fighting the trauma and betrayal alone. she never had a single safe place where she could try to heal. her coming into a relationship doesn't completely heal her and move on.
"why doesn't she tell him everything?" talking about trauma is not just words. it's reliving everything. it's re-opening the wounds she tried hard to ignore. it's like forcing her to walk through the same nightmare, knowing that there's always a chance- no matter how small- that she won't be judged.
she loves him, but that doesn't erase her trauma. love doesn't magically heal wounds, it will take time. her leaving him shows her love for him- she doesn't want him to suffer along with her. isn't this a basic human nature? no matter how much pain we are in, we won't tell and try to hide from our loved ones.
it's not that I don't feel bad for ml, i do. i applaud his patience with her— something which is difficult to be seen in real life. it may also be emotionally exhausting for him, but that doesn't mean fl should be blamed. there's no right or wrong. his pain is different from hers.
that's why her choice, though painful, is completely understandable.
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Most people don’t confront trauma head-on; they rely on coping mechanisms, just like she did. It’s not just running away but a psychological response. But from this deviation, at least Sang Yan got to know how she was living and can empathize with her more.
Now that I know the novel’s original direction, I see why some of y’all are upset.
"why doesn't she tell him everything?" talking about trauma is not just words. it's reliving everything. it's re-opening the wounds she tried hard to ignore. it's like forcing her to walk through the same nightmare, knowing that there's always a chance- no matter how small- that she won't be judged.
she loves him, but that doesn't erase her trauma. love doesn't magically heal wounds, it will take time. her leaving him shows her love for him- she doesn't want him to suffer along with her. isn't this a basic human nature? no matter how much pain we are in, we won't tell and try to hide from our loved ones.
it's not that I don't feel bad for ml, i do. i applaud his patience with her— something which is difficult to be seen in real life. it may also be emotionally exhausting for him, but that doesn't mean fl should be blamed. there's no right or wrong. his pain is different from hers.
that's why her choice, though painful, is completely understandable.
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