Hi guys! I just started watching this series and I have a question. In the first episode, the main couple is watching another show — do you know if that show actually exists? If it does, could you tell me the name of it, please? Thank you very much in advance for your help!
ok, and where is the vamp- ok, ok, i liked it too. I missed a proper Dracula, proper biting, proper hunting, proper protction scene/s, but aside from that, and lack of loodlust, i was veeeery nice series. tysm :)
Okay, so I am a complex human being and I do complain about shows I love. I critically see them and I assess them…
Thank you. I am only learning to love uncritically too consciously. I have a long history of loving but critiising anyways without having a "say" if i want to or not criticise. And basically, the critical approach all comes from school too, hopefully all over the world. So I am surprised someone would insist on "no complains" rule seriously.
I'm confused, why can't people complain about shows they love?? Can someone explain like I'm 5 because I don't…
Okay, so I am a complex human being and I do complain about shows I love. I critically see them and I assess them as such. There are definitely things I have a blind spot about, and there are definitely things I see way more clearly than other people. But my tough love is definitely my passionate, relaxing tough love. Since I see that many people are more straightforward on a certain line and, when they love, they only say praise about what they see and like, I don't know if they know or see the shortcomings. Sometimes I feel like they might not, or they might intentionally avoid them — to the point where they would argue and hate you if you are the one who speaks up, even in a good way, meaning well.
From that point, I always try to make sure people know that I do it out of professionalism. I am gonna say the negative things I think about it, but my standpoint is supporting the boy love genre and supporting the actors who portray characters in it. I am not a fan of anyone anymore for personal reasons. But I am more lenient toward the genre that is my favorite than I would be if it was a genre that I despise or hate or don't like, or see and perceive as a normal person.
And so the problem you are hitting on, I believe, is that sometimes on the internet we stop seeing the signs of doing something too much or to too big of an extent. So sometimes those who actually mean well but start to only criticize — and they are too much into criticizing — kind of, without even their own will, start to be the haters. And sometimes those who just like the shows might be perceived by the outside world as fans, even though they might not be.
Overall, I would say that in these circumstances we are in now, people try to support the projects, and because of that they try to limit or eliminate negative things about them — because it's part of the presentation of the project. And because we are in big competition, and because there are always going to be people who mean not well but bad, wrong, and are actual haters and try to take revenge over something through something else. And then it gets all over the place and over-emotional and starts to get problematic in all the wrong places. So the gatekeepers of the positive image of the projects start to be very strict — like, you can only praise and say good things about the project. Otherwise, you are a hater. Because that dual black-and-white mentality is way easier and more easily recognizable for a “normal” person who doesn’t have time to decipher who means what, but only takes for granted what is written. It’s just easier if you say and see good things about the project.
So we polarized insanely. We either hate or love, and there is nothing in between. There is nothing in between. That is why, I believe, people come to think that you can’t complain about shows you love. But they absolutely can complain about shows they love. They can complain about actors they love. They can complain about characters they love. It’s not about that — it’s about the positive picture. Like, the internet these days and the people who participate in it are extreme, extremists even, and start to behave like a nation of marketing gatekeepers to these projects.
And then, of course, comes all the stuff about people starting to complain before the time — which means they don’t first watch the episodes and start to complain right away, which just sours the experience for everyone. And it’s not a good approach. But then again, if you’re an impatient type of person or if you have impatience in yourself, it’s understandable that you have your opinions on things. But from the other side, it’s very tiring seeing complaints all the time about stuff that isn’t finished yet. And it sometimes starts to look as if you are from the camp of haters who don’t do it because they dislike the episode or the series, but because they want to praise something else — and they’re doing it through hatred of the project that is airing.
And then when it starts to be middlemen over middlemen over middlemen, it starts to be very confusing for everyone. And people again try to simplify stuff around it. So that’s definitely another part of the equation.
And so there is this difference between your emotions, self-presentation, and presentation of your thoughts, ideas, and emotions. And that is where all these strange notions about love and complaints not coexisting come from. Like, I don’t know — I am not a flat personality. I can’t only love or only hate. It’s a very strange concept for me that someone these days would believe something like that.
And if what is being answered to you this whole time was true, then criticism or critics would not exist. You usually don’t start to be a critic of someone or something without first loving someone or something. In short, you need to be interested in it first. And you have to have some experience and not see it one-dimensionally to be able to do that.
By the way, I am both. If I want something uncritical, I don’t even read the comment section. Like, if I love something and I know I love it and I need to use it, for example, for writing, I’m not gonna go into criticism. But if I am moderately enough controlled, I have a grip on myself, and I want to explore this area of criticism — what can be criticized, what is to be assessed and valued and rated — I’m gonna, if I want to, of course, check out what people have problems with. But I try these days to avoid doing it with things I love uncritically. Because if you love something uncritically, there is no space for you to do this. And you shouldn’t, to be honest. You should have some safe spaces, too.
But it does not mean exclusively having only those. Sometimes you need to criticize something because you don’t only get praise from the outside world — you also get feedback and bad things said about you. And to be able to evolve from that feedback, you shouldn’t base it on hatred or despising yourself. You should base it on the things you know are strong about you. Because if you go down and down and down, you can’t go any lower.
So criticism out of love, I don’t feel, is a bad thing. But criticism out of hatred just shows that you are down on your self-preservation and self-defense. Because inevitably, if you are doing it from a low place, it starts to be nasty and not honest. The good thing about criticism should be that you are being honest — with yourself and with other people. And it’s not saying that you hate it. And it’s not saying that you don’t love it. It’s saying that you see room for improvements. And I believe that is the basis of creativity. If you don’t have that, it’s understandable that you wouldn’t understand how creating new things even works.
And for those who claim the nonsense about not criticizing or not complaining about something — do you really think even this series would exist without being able and free to complain about something? Because it’s part of being complex and it’s part of creative being. The fact that you just can’t pick and find out where it was complaining and what it was complaining about just shows that you were not watching it critically. Because usually, if there is no criticism and no complaints in the whole thing, then it’s total nonsense you can’t even digest to watch. And this is not that type of series. So just go back and search for it again.
I mean, usually if you want to pass as a good person, then you do it through, !spoiler alert!, villains in the stories — and it’s complaints all the time about the stuff that you don’t like. There is nothing without complaints in this world. Or, to put it another way, you can complain about anything and everything and criticize it too. So perceiving it as a bad thing is just not a good approach.
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Thank you very much in advance for your help!
Since I see that many people are more straightforward on a certain line and, when they love, they only say praise about what they see and like, I don't know if they know or see the shortcomings. Sometimes I feel like they might not, or they might intentionally avoid them — to the point where they would argue and hate you if you are the one who speaks up, even in a good way, meaning well.
From that point, I always try to make sure people know that I do it out of professionalism. I am gonna say the negative things I think about it, but my standpoint is supporting the boy love genre and supporting the actors who portray characters in it. I am not a fan of anyone anymore for personal reasons. But I am more lenient toward the genre that is my favorite than I would be if it was a genre that I despise or hate or don't like, or see and perceive as a normal person.
And so the problem you are hitting on, I believe, is that sometimes on the internet we stop seeing the signs of doing something too much or to too big of an extent. So sometimes those who actually mean well but start to only criticize — and they are too much into criticizing — kind of, without even their own will, start to be the haters. And sometimes those who just like the shows might be perceived by the outside world as fans, even though they might not be.
Overall, I would say that in these circumstances we are in now, people try to support the projects, and because of that they try to limit or eliminate negative things about them — because it's part of the presentation of the project. And because we are in big competition, and because there are always going to be people who mean not well but bad, wrong, and are actual haters and try to take revenge over something through something else. And then it gets all over the place and over-emotional and starts to get problematic in all the wrong places. So the gatekeepers of the positive image of the projects start to be very strict — like, you can only praise and say good things about the project. Otherwise, you are a hater. Because that dual black-and-white mentality is way easier and more easily recognizable for a “normal” person who doesn’t have time to decipher who means what, but only takes for granted what is written. It’s just easier if you say and see good things about the project.
So we polarized insanely. We either hate or love, and there is nothing in between. There is nothing in between. That is why, I believe, people come to think that you can’t complain about shows you love. But they absolutely can complain about shows they love. They can complain about actors they love. They can complain about characters they love. It’s not about that — it’s about the positive picture. Like, the internet these days and the people who participate in it are extreme, extremists even, and start to behave like a nation of marketing gatekeepers to these projects.
And then, of course, comes all the stuff about people starting to complain before the time — which means they don’t first watch the episodes and start to complain right away, which just sours the experience for everyone. And it’s not a good approach. But then again, if you’re an impatient type of person or if you have impatience in yourself, it’s understandable that you have your opinions on things. But from the other side, it’s very tiring seeing complaints all the time about stuff that isn’t finished yet. And it sometimes starts to look as if you are from the camp of haters who don’t do it because they dislike the episode or the series, but because they want to praise something else — and they’re doing it through hatred of the project that is airing.
And then when it starts to be middlemen over middlemen over middlemen, it starts to be very confusing for everyone. And people again try to simplify stuff around it. So that’s definitely another part of the equation.
And so there is this difference between your emotions, self-presentation, and presentation of your thoughts, ideas, and emotions. And that is where all these strange notions about love and complaints not coexisting come from. Like, I don’t know — I am not a flat personality. I can’t only love or only hate. It’s a very strange concept for me that someone these days would believe something like that.
And if what is being answered to you this whole time was true, then criticism or critics would not exist. You usually don’t start to be a critic of someone or something without first loving someone or something. In short, you need to be interested in it first. And you have to have some experience and not see it one-dimensionally to be able to do that.
By the way, I am both. If I want something uncritical, I don’t even read the comment section. Like, if I love something and I know I love it and I need to use it, for example, for writing, I’m not gonna go into criticism. But if I am moderately enough controlled, I have a grip on myself, and I want to explore this area of criticism — what can be criticized, what is to be assessed and valued and rated — I’m gonna, if I want to, of course, check out what people have problems with. But I try these days to avoid doing it with things I love uncritically. Because if you love something uncritically, there is no space for you to do this. And you shouldn’t, to be honest. You should have some safe spaces, too.
But it does not mean exclusively having only those. Sometimes you need to criticize something because you don’t only get praise from the outside world — you also get feedback and bad things said about you. And to be able to evolve from that feedback, you shouldn’t base it on hatred or despising yourself. You should base it on the things you know are strong about you. Because if you go down and down and down, you can’t go any lower.
So criticism out of love, I don’t feel, is a bad thing. But criticism out of hatred just shows that you are down on your self-preservation and self-defense. Because inevitably, if you are doing it from a low place, it starts to be nasty and not honest. The good thing about criticism should be that you are being honest — with yourself and with other people. And it’s not saying that you hate it. And it’s not saying that you don’t love it. It’s saying that you see room for improvements. And I believe that is the basis of creativity. If you don’t have that, it’s understandable that you wouldn’t understand how creating new things even works.
And for those who claim the nonsense about not criticizing or not complaining about something — do you really think even this series would exist without being able and free to complain about something? Because it’s part of being complex and it’s part of creative being. The fact that you just can’t pick and find out where it was complaining and what it was complaining about just shows that you were not watching it critically. Because usually, if there is no criticism and no complaints in the whole thing, then it’s total nonsense you can’t even digest to watch. And this is not that type of series. So just go back and search for it again.
I mean, usually if you want to pass as a good person, then you do it through, !spoiler alert!, villains in the stories — and it’s complaints all the time about the stuff that you don’t like. There is nothing without complaints in this world. Or, to put it another way, you can complain about anything and everything and criticize it too. So perceiving it as a bad thing is just not a good approach.