Okay, I really love this drama but i think that it’s toxic for the ML to pursue FL this hard. She can just not…
Yeah, insistence from an unwilling party is tricky. I think in rom-coms and novels you can get away with one party repeating their advances to the other who's unwilling (it's usually done in comedies, for the humorous effect) and it works, but in real life I don't think it does, for the most part.
For two reasons: 1) If a person says no, you should respect their no. 2) If a person says no, they should mean it, and not say no to play games and act "hard to get" (that's disingenuous and leading someone on).
Maybe guys get this idea from rom-coms that girls that say no are playing with them and don't REALLY mean it (kind of like what Pride and Prejudice makes fun of when Mr. Collins can't take Lizzy's "no" as an answer), or maybe it's because they can't imagine someone not liking them (achem, Mr. Collins), but I've come across several guys who pushed back on my "no" and ticked the heck out of me because they saw it as being romantic and "persistent."
If a guy can completely keep the boundaries a girl has set up after saying no to him, then I think it's fine. This is why making sure it's crystal clear where each person is coming from is so important. Are they uninterested? Just hesitant because they're new to all this? Shy? Scared? The reasons matter, and how someone responds to them is an important way to respect their dignity.
Not gonna lie, though, this response gives me flashbacks of the 90's Swan Princess when the prince, Derek, and…
Yes, being honest is always the best policy! 😉
The more PR Kdrama version of "what else is there?" is "I love you just because you're you." I also think that's lame--like really, you have no reasons at all? 😅
I love how ML said “i kissed you because looked pretty” , no pretense, just raw honesty!🥹and when FL went…
Not gonna lie, though, this response gives me flashbacks of the 90's Swan Princess when the prince, Derek, and princess, Odette, start romancing each other and Derek says:
"You're beautiful! You're all I've ever wanted!"
Odette, suspicious of this surface-level declaration of love, says, "And?... What else?"
He echoes, confused, "What else?"
Concerned, and not letting him off the hook, Odette leans in, "Is beauty all that matters to you?"
There's an awkward pause, and Derek, stumbling for what to say to that (as he has nothing), eeks out, "I, uh... w-what else IS there?"
Oh, the cringe! 😅 I think I internalized right there and then as a child watching that that a man who says he loves you (in this case kisses you) because you're beautiful is... not a good answer. 😉
Fun and cute! Pretty basic plot and reveals, but with great dynamics between the team (Korea DOES do funny so well; it took me a while to get into the humor when I started watching Korean stuff years ago, but now I find it hilarious.). A fun watch, with a lot of actors you'll recognize if you watch a lot of Kdramas.
My friends and I used to joke that the BBC uses all the same actors for their shows, and so we'd all say that they got actors from the "BBC Manor House." Maybe we can say the "Kdrama Hanok House" for Korean actors because once you've seen the "Hanok House" roster, you'll basically recognize anyone in a drama (and maybe movie?). 😅
Director talking about the kiss in ep 4!Director: Normally, a kiss happens after both parties have confirmed their…
This does make it feel more "western," as another viewer described this show as.
I kind of dislike the western way first kisses are often done, though, which is fly at each other like wild animals and kiss madly because of some intangible spark/chemistry even though you barely know each other (instinct is definitely another good way of describing this). Most think that makes it "adult" but I usually think that makes it actually feel more superficial (the fact that it's compared to a drunk kiss...). But it also largely depends on how they deal with the aftermath. 🤷♀️
I'm finally watching BoF and I'm on ep 9. Some thoughts so far: The first few episodes were truly insane and some…
"I wasn't sure I'd be able to make it through 25 episodes, but I can't seem to look away."
Perfect description. 😅 When I showed it to my sister I prefaced that it had issues but she had to see it. When she finished, she summed it up similar to you: "I liked it a lot, but I feel like I shouldn't have." 😆
For two reasons: 1) If a person says no, you should respect their no. 2) If a person says no, they should mean it, and not say no to play games and act "hard to get" (that's disingenuous and leading someone on).
Maybe guys get this idea from rom-coms that girls that say no are playing with them and don't REALLY mean it (kind of like what Pride and Prejudice makes fun of when Mr. Collins can't take Lizzy's "no" as an answer), or maybe it's because they can't imagine someone not liking them (achem, Mr. Collins), but I've come across several guys who pushed back on my "no" and ticked the heck out of me because they saw it as being romantic and "persistent."
If a guy can completely keep the boundaries a girl has set up after saying no to him, then I think it's fine. This is why making sure it's crystal clear where each person is coming from is so important. Are they uninterested? Just hesitant because they're new to all this? Shy? Scared? The reasons matter, and how someone responds to them is an important way to respect their dignity.
The more PR Kdrama version of "what else is there?" is "I love you just because you're you." I also think that's lame--like really, you have no reasons at all? 😅
"You're beautiful! You're all I've ever wanted!"
Odette, suspicious of this surface-level declaration of love, says, "And?... What else?"
He echoes, confused, "What else?"
Concerned, and not letting him off the hook, Odette leans in, "Is beauty all that matters to you?"
There's an awkward pause, and Derek, stumbling for what to say to that (as he has nothing), eeks out, "I, uh... w-what else IS there?"
Oh, the cringe! 😅 I think I internalized right there and then as a child watching that that a man who says he loves you (in this case kisses you) because you're beautiful is... not a good answer. 😉
My friends and I used to joke that the BBC uses all the same actors for their shows, and so we'd all say that they got actors from the "BBC Manor House." Maybe we can say the "Kdrama Hanok House" for Korean actors because once you've seen the "Hanok House" roster, you'll basically recognize anyone in a drama (and maybe movie?). 😅
Does it feel "Meet Yourself"-esque for those who have seen it? Cause I loved that drama. 🥰
P.S. Also, an 8 episode Cdrama?! On what planet? 😅 The shortest thing I've seen was 15 episodes, but 8 is concise, haha.
I kind of dislike the western way first kisses are often done, though, which is fly at each other like wild animals and kiss madly because of some intangible spark/chemistry even though you barely know each other (instinct is definitely another good way of describing this). Most think that makes it "adult" but I usually think that makes it actually feel more superficial (the fact that it's compared to a drunk kiss...). But it also largely depends on how they deal with the aftermath. 🤷♀️
Perfect description. 😅 When I showed it to my sister I prefaced that it had issues but she had to see it. When she finished, she summed it up similar to you: "I liked it a lot, but I feel like I shouldn't have." 😆