Good Grief

Sure, we can say that this is what's happening in his psychology.

The crux of my frustration lies in this: It's one thing to love someone. It's another to actually show it in constructive, healthy ways. If someone cannot show their love in healthy ways, is it really love? My Asian mother constantly criticizes my body because she says that this is how she shows love. Men control women all the time under the pretense of "love." The list goes on.

Shen Hao Ming, as of ep. 22, has not shown me that his actions match his supposed love. Over and over again, he undermines and disrespects her. Respect is the foundation of love. Ladies, let's not gaslight ourselves into believing that a man loves us without seeing the actions to match.

1. I am so over MLs acting emotionally immature as a way to "get the FL back." This is not a high school story or a story of 20-somethings. Shen Haoming is a grown ass man. Instead of communicating and acting in earnest ways to win her back, he is effectively a grown man pulling a grown woman's pigtails - it's disrespectful to her and mind-numbingly immature. Ladies, are we seriously finding this kind of immaturity acceptable or, God forbid, cute? You know what would've been so refreshing to see on camera? Shen Haoming respecting her wishes for a divorce instead of using childish tactics to drag it out; they get divorced and then he earnestly reflects on himself and how to win her back from ground zero. THAT is the drama I want to see. Not this middle school shit.

2. Ep. 22 - WTF. Fang Lei needs to go. And then her "bodyguard/Shen Haoming's lawyer" kissing her when she's drunk and vulnerable? And then she goes along with it? So effed up on so many levels.

3. At ep. 22, I still have no solid sense that Shen Haoming actually loves Yan Yan. It's just all ego, games, manipulation, petty jealousy, and head-to-toe immaturity from his end at this point still. BLARGHHH.

“He is tired of walking to so many countries in one day.” 😂😂

So many dislikeable characters in this drama...hey
Anyway, at least SHM's mom reflected on her bad deeds and showed regret...but then, hmmm she needs to apologise to the right person. The rest of these parents are clowns, like for real. Especially XY's parents...really disgusting. At this point I only like Xu Yan, Hao Chen, granny (also other granny with dementia) and the doctor. The rest, either I don't care or don't like.
So we see Lawyer has turned to the dark side after having some Feng Lei koochie...wow, this gal is dangerous.
For the life of me, I will never understand anyone who will want their dead sister's ex-boyfriend. Just imagine, your sister's boyfriend's pipi went into her vivi and here produced a child. And you still want him....that's disgusting....like eeek.
Can I just ship Xu Yan with herself cause at this point, noone seem to really love her the way I think she deserves....

I’m laughing at the thought of the pipi entering your sister’s vivi. Hilarious. 😆

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The bickering in the car in ep 21 is so awesome!!

That was hilarious especially when he asked his assistant to edit the pictures. Then he looked so smug with his sunglasses walking out the door only to undo all his hard work in a split second 😂

I think grandma can do the trick! He needs to go and have a honest humble conversation with her. Grandma will talk about her past and I believe it will bring out his vulnerability, emotions and repentance.

It's funny to see people bickering just because of a TV series whose storyline is already fixed and whose actors have finished filming. There are also those who try to force the story to be a certain way, demanding it has to be this, it has to be that. Why not just enjoy the plot as it is? Getting all worked up and fighting won't change the story anyway.
​Plus, they even blame the characters who were clearly written to be that way in the script. Why must we force a character to be as good or perfect as we imagine them to be? We're just the audience we didn't write the scenario. Unless you want to give a comment or a review, but aren't reviews usually done after the film or series is finished, anyway?"

SHM throwing money at XY is not even about her at this point. This is about him not being ready to be vulnerable, to let go. He needs to first accept that he wants a relationship of mutual feelings with her, and not something "safe" like a business relationship.
He desperately wants her back, but he also wants the control. He hasn't truly broken yet. He hasn't let go of his arrogance yet.
But the trailers show that this will happen soon lol. He actually just needs to have an honest conversation, lay himself bare and actually sincerely woo her for the right reasons. Their conversation in ep 20 was just perfect. Like this is what should have happened when they were dating. This unguardedness and sincerity.

ep 19 felt like a filler atp

When he covered her with his jacket.....😂

She talks about overcoming problems, about troubles left behind, and that's the best part.
I think it's a lovely message of positivity and encouragement for his fans too, like a new starting point. What's more, double congratulations because, from what I've been told on several occasions, removal is "really" painful.
Talented and beautifu,l with or without tattoos!