ohh FFS! I was sooo getting into this drama til this body swapping crap, my most hated trope! 🤬🤬🤬
And NJH really needs to learn that restraint in her expressions would prove more convincing than her facials giving away her every thought & judgement! Dropped.
Re the hopt, you gotta remember she's a young lady. Women are all victims of their feelings due to a plethora…
don't forget, he had time to deal with it... she just found out... her tone was accusatory because she thought they were on tbe same page, that their relationship whatever it was was clear... both had been transparent, he had been direct and straightforward with her from the beginning but the he changed, switched... who wouldn't ask ques and be hurt?! and moreover she was asking questions so she could understand him more and why he did it
So I'm almost through with this drama and while I enjoyed it generally, I'd also say some parts I felt could have…
Re the hopt, you gotta remember she's a young lady. Women are all victims of their feelings due to a plethora of reasons... insecurity, jealousy, pride etc... this time she reacted due to insecurity. You gotta allow that, then you can see how she grows in late eps. As to her still questioning the ML after the letters, she's allowed to feel how she feels and react tge wsy she reacts, it's everyone's right. It's easier to say she may have been unreasonable in retrospect. She still asked thise ques because she was hurt that he woukd think she could do such things. If someone let alone a stranger questioned your integrity, wouldn't you have some kind of reaction?
Am at episode 7, I finally understand why this drama keeps raising questions for me.
If we examine the FL’s actions objectively, she repeatedly inserts herself emotionally into the male lead’s life, she over-interprets neutral signals, refuses to accept the distance and boundaries he clearly sets, and derives confidence from imagined intimacy rather than reality.If the roles were reversed and the ML behaved this way, there would be immediate backlash.
Yet viewers are expected to excuse this behaviour because it comes from a FL. We tend to be more forgiving when women violate boundaries emotionally — but that double standard shouldn’t exist.
A recent comparison is Zhuang Xu in Shine On Me, whose similar persistence was widely criticised. The contrast highlights how differently the same behaviour is judged depending on gender.
Talking about what really matters here, I don't get why GYJ's eyebrows are bleached, is it supposed to make her…
I noticed that from her first drama I watched and the effect I think is to give her a slight softer, gentle and approachable look. To me, it looks unnatural so it's distracting, that also includes the over pouted lips with too much gloss... all tropes but I'm getting visual fatigue. I'm liking how the ML is here around ep 7, he's mirroring my annoyance 😆
ep 5 - what song is playing while she's bawling? I think I've heard it in another drama... at this stage, I don't feel empathy for her. Good on him for telling her off. What right does she think she has to tell him how to behave around his crush?!
Finally completely finished the show... and I've changed my views on Zhuang Xu. I was one of the very first viewers to condemn his rudeness and abruptness, rightly so though :) So in this instance, I think credit is due to the actor, Lai Wei Ming, whom I haven't really noticed in other dramas before.
He portrayed ZX with such quiet depth. The restraint in his performance, especially in the moments where he says very little, made the character feel grounded and painfully real. A genuinely moving portrayal.
After his outburst in maybe ep 29 or 30, I could understand all ZX had gone through and his thoughts. May not have been the right way for Xi Guang but he never meant her any harm and all his doing was a product of his own environment and how he grew up, how he portrayed love actually was. I also then appreciated how well Lai Wei Ming portrayed him when he chose restraint over being loud.
In the series (drama age) they met when she was 18, an adult. Irl she was 25 during filming and he was 33. At…
This isn’t about whether she’s old enough to date. It’s about whether he’s professional enough not to! It's interesting how ‘respecting a woman’s age’ always seems to mean excusing the man with power.
I usually would agree but they did have feelings for each other when she was underage and he was a safe adult…
Even if she was 18, the teacher’s authority and power imbalance can still make the relationship illegal under other protections against abuse and exploitation.
After finishing watching, I can say this drama hooked me from episode 3 onwards, but let me down in the second…
same!!! I wish they didn't include a romance between the leads, just be partners in their lil revenge plot... the chemistry between her and the husband was electric, I totally rewatch their moments together 😆
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And NJH really needs to learn that restraint in her expressions would prove more convincing than her facials giving away her every thought & judgement! Dropped.
If we examine the FL’s actions objectively, she repeatedly inserts herself emotionally into the male lead’s life, she over-interprets neutral signals, refuses to accept the distance and boundaries he clearly sets, and derives confidence from imagined intimacy rather than reality.If the roles were reversed and the ML behaved this way, there would be immediate backlash.
Yet viewers are expected to excuse this behaviour because it comes from a FL. We tend to be more forgiving when women violate boundaries emotionally — but that double standard shouldn’t exist.
A recent comparison is Zhuang Xu in Shine On Me, whose similar persistence was widely criticised. The contrast highlights how differently the same behaviour is judged depending on gender.
In her mind, choosing a path where she is not allowed to stand beside him = abandonment. And she could never forgive him for that.
He portrayed ZX with such quiet depth. The restraint in his performance, especially in the moments where he says very little, made the character feel grounded and painfully real. A genuinely moving portrayal.
After his outburst in maybe ep 29 or 30, I could understand all ZX had gone through and his thoughts. May not have been the right way for Xi Guang but he never meant her any harm and all his doing was a product of his own environment and how he grew up, how he portrayed love actually was. I also then appreciated how well Lai Wei Ming portrayed him when he chose restraint over being loud.