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So you projecting your own , standard it’s ok
but others it is not. It sound peculiar to not see that different usage, culture impact judgement. That right and wrong-doing are the same pending on where you live and beliefs.
You are also very certain that every person voicing or a hint of questioning is a man. You are also certain that all
concerns are coming from misogynistic reasons. You are also very certain that you interpreted correctly every intentions of the author. So I let you to your certainties.

I know 1995 Outbreak with Ebola virus there is another one?
2011 Contagion can be another source of inspiration it was good.

I don’t fancy his look but acting should not solely be connected to looks, very good actors are bad looking, romances should portray also regular looking people. I have seen beautiful romances with less pretty actors and it make the story more realistic, authentic, raw and genuine. Having just pretty faces despite of talent make dramas shallow , empty or even fake.
Based upon Korean standards for male leads in a romance, the idleness of writers and directors, fan’s expectations, his inability to give the best on that genre he doesn’t have everything needed.

We are prone to judge based upon our culture, beliefs and own experiences. People are reacting when things are unfamiliar or contrary to their own values.
Many people that watch KDramas can come from traditional countries or can have traditional values and so have different expectations for what women and men can do.
And others lately are coming from more modern countries and have more modern values.
In my attempt to explain that dating culture varies strongly from place to place. I never said it would have been better if the man was the one going on several dates. When I mentioned imbalanced it was to say one has decided to pursue the other one to venture elsewhere. That imbalance can be one of the reasons people raise disappointment.
It is not how it works in many countries.
Concerning Korea based on what Korean
teachers have shared decision is made on
first date to pursue or not. Basically you have to close one door before opening another one if you are not a player. They are not going on several
dates at the same time, pursuing several
persons at the same time. Koreans are way too jealous for that. Here as he shown interest and was not seeing other people he is on the back burner waiting for his fate, waiting to get pick by someone. That isn’t an agreeable position, nobody wants that seat. Waiting to be compared to others. In his position I would never have give her a minute of my time or accept someone that comes back after weighing other options.
Accepting the date itself like in many place it’s already the promise, a sign of interest itself. “Casual dating” doesn’t even have a translation in many languages and is not something everybody do.
You meet once you decide to see again or not, if yes you try the relationship if it’s failed you go to someone else.

Thanks. I am more about trying to understand cultural differences and how they impact our take on life

I don’t know about Japan but yeah in Korea and China people give money as a sign of appreciation. During weddings they collect money for the couple and you are really judged if you don’t give something substantial. In China there is an app red envelope to give money to friend, girlfriend, family. Relationship with money is very different than in Europe. In KDramas when they say all the time “It was expensive” we should translated more it’s valuable / quality because the word carry both senses for them.
Not every part of the wedding here is for everybody ; dinner the night before really close family is mostly done now as everyone is coming from far away. The day of the wedding if your just an acquaintance you are invited for church/city hall and a drinks, friends and family you
add the dinner and party. The next day again it’s for close relatives. Yes guests can leave early if they feel like it.
Where are you from?

On Bilibili with English subtitles

In my country it’s around 3 days, between dinner the night before, the ceremony is usually a Saturday afternoon, followed by a cocktail, a seated dinner, a party until earlythe next morning, following day another casual gathering for lunch picnic, barbecue…the full event is for sure more expensive than one hour rental and a buffet.
I think something guests have to pay for their lunch ticket but I am not sure how many do it in Korea. Guests have also to pay 2 times once for the couple and another time just for the bride as apparently husband’s family as they are keeping the register and collecting the money sometimes keep the money so an envelope for just the bride is a safety that can be apply.

On Instagram several Koreans made videos of them going in and out from weddings. Apparently it’s for efficiency. Most weddings aren’t on weekdays and hotels give very little slot for the event so ppalli ppalli 😄

The joke of the year I am the same generation he is. I am not speaking about my personal taste or expectations about who should be leading dramas. Observing the Korean industry I see the kind of
opportunities actors in their 40s get vs actors in their 20s.
Only huge stars are going to have a few opportunities to be lead men in romance after 40.
Most actors in their 40 are supporting actors. Romance is the genre that feature the most young people so it isn’t a good call for someone his age.

Koreans go to wedding during theirs lunch breaks: 30-minute ceremonies, you give money- you get an hotel lunch buffet and it’s over, no party, no dance…we discussed about that with my Korean teacher. It’s very boring, he said he is so unhappy to spend so much on gift/wedding donation for so short events.

That’s true love 🤣

This drama makes me feel so dumb and humble …the pace isn’t crazy, there isn’t that much characters but I have absolutely no idea after 7 episodes what’s going on, who is who, what are their motives, who is dead who is alive. But I keep watching 🤣🤣🤣
Did someone swapped my brain while I was sleeping?

Never mentioned difference of standard between men and women. He would have done the same audience would have raised even more concerns. Again you go on casual dating/vs dating which doesn’t exist in most countries. It’s s a very American thing. So what might look normal to you or clear and the way to proceed isn’t for others. In most place people don’t do that. American way isn’t the international standard.

Hi. When I said the good guy I was thinking about personality of the character portrayed not only the good guy in romance genre. He might not want to be on that category but there are many villain parts in KDramas so I think it still gonna give him many opportunities.
You mentioned action, thriller …there are not type of roles but drama genre…there are also many villains in those. Koreans are making more and more dramas on a darker side too. Aside Dont’t dare to dream I truly don’t recall any drama where he played the nice one and he was recognized for it. There are dramas where he was on and I can even remember him clearly (The dark knight who guard me…)
Yes villains don’t have a huge fandom in Korea but have a more peaceful personal life (which is priceless) but one he is already like 40, he is more a supporting an actor than a lead. I don’t recall him being praised one of his soft part. He is a good guy in Squid game? I have seen it. There is also plenty of guys in his category who have more experience, more success and more recognition. At this age he might not get loads of romance, slight of slice offers to play the main guy.
For me he is clearly an actor that doesn’t know his strength and weaknesses and therefore cannot position himself correctly on the game. I might sound mean but actors are like product they have to make their SWOT.

They regularly do dirty to a women between 40-55 making them act like mothers of actors that are so close in age
Backstreet rookie they slide several jokes in the drama about the age-gap (9 years)

He is not very engaging. He looks weird, uncomfortable to me and does not share most chemistry with his female partners. I feel also when he tries playing the good guy he lacks sparks and looks bored and sleepy. His kiss scenes look also dry to me and not sincere.
He is more passionate, expressive and lively when he plays villains

I agree on many aspects. You might be North American or English, in many countries even in Europe people don’t date like in US and see several persons at the same time. Even though they had no agreement after their first encounter some people might have felt discomfort as normally if one wants to start a relationship or confess interest and the other to venture somewhere else you cut tie. You cannot expect someone to wait for you, only players keep someone on the back burner.
For Korea the dating they portrayed is for sure not the norm. Basically after 3 meetings they are a couple, after a month or two share
bank accounts, 100 days celebration…
For me the show would have been more balanced and funnier if both of them were still going on sogaetin (arranged meeting)

I disagree, the young guy wasn’t fit for the part for me. I felt like they confused being tall and having gravitas and authority. After watching this drama I wish Park Sung Hoon could have played that mean king. He was better fitted for the role especially next to a 35-year old woman.

I was expecting fun, after seeing several trailers early this year but I had unfortunately zero fun watching this drama.
I was not convinced or charmed by anything.
The love story was so bland, the main characters very boring, overall story not very interesting. I didn’t like how the main character was portrayed as a woman.
I don’t think the writer had anything special to say about dating, love, romance in late 30s. Never felt one minute those two felt in love, they happen to cross paths and they were convenient to each other that all.
The subplots were weak and didn’t balance the main story line. Many characters were just there but fully useless. They forget to close the mean guy’s story as he played out such a part on her deciding to date, that choice was weird for me because they missed an interesting life lesson when the last episode was so shallow with an abundance of unnecessary flashbacks, out of blue last minute mediocre romances…Editing of that episode is blatant of a director who has nothing to say and try to fill as much possible with whatever he has just to maintain the 12-episode slot. The sudden romance at the park at the 11th hour was so useless and corny. The puppy romance at the factory, there were a few gazes on episodes 10-11 but not enough elements to make it believable or necessary.
Probably very unpopular opinion but Park Sung Hoon should stop right now trying to play good guys that is not for him, he always ends up looking weird, uncomfortable, just drowsy like droopy (Into the ring, Not others). Villains is his
calling (the Glory, Queen of tears…)
Don’t dare to dream seems so far away and he has definitely lost the spark he had back then.
This drama is going immediately on the pile of 2026 deceptions, I had too much expectations for this one!