Kinara

Well ML does not want a relationship- he has told her time and again that he cannot handle it. Has been very honest but he keeps coming back because she is keeps pulling him in . Gu Yi should not have provoked him like that if she was not ready to handle all the consequences. And now she is not happy with it . I blame her totally for the mess we are seeing now

Absolutely! She is a ticking time bomb and keeps blowing hot and cold . This is not at all healthy for him. At this point I do not think they should get together. He needs some one who is emotionally well adjusted and is empathetic enough to support him while he tries to do better. The FL is not that person if anything she will make him get worse where he may shut off completely. She is playing with him like a toy . And those friends of hers are all ridiculous as well. Not one person there who genuinely cares for him. Even her mom understands how fragile he is , but this FL she just keeps going on and on about herself- she should have thought about it carefully before going all in- what exactly did she think this was going to be?

Yep she is toxic . I am thinking of taking a break too. It’s getting a little much for me

Ok my verdict after ep 17. The FL is a complete whack job. She is a basket case. What the hell is she doing to him? I am truly scared for the ML if he is going to be with this woman . And then she goes to the extent of victimizing herself in front of everyone . she needs to stop obsessing over him before she messes him up further. She is just not normal at all. She is the one who wanted this relationship and now she is not happy with anything . She expects him to become normal overnight? Him admitting that he likes her itself must have been such a struggle for him. She does not understand or empathize with him - she is going to torture him to death if this goes on

Well this is abuse at this point. The ML given how fragile he is- I would not be surprised if he breaks apart. So far I also think that the FL also needs major therapy- she is a damaged person and has a huge victim complex. She definitely needs a lot of attention as well. That is why she gets on that stage and talks about herself like that.

All those dramas belong in the scary fairy tale realm🤣😂

💯. They are both too self absorbed

Well I am taking back what I said about the SFL- I think that was only for a fraction of a second

Well that’s a problem with editing - they do that in a lot of dramas and yes that is frustrating .
The ML/FL relationship there is a rollercoaster but that is because Bai Lu’s character is so conflicted between her mission and the fact that she is falling in love with him. That was done well actually . I consider TTEOM a masterpiece unlike none other

Yep

Yes but psychological / mental - not physical

There you go the actress herself feels that Gi Yi’s character is irrational and unreasonable and expects too much out of Liang Dawen

I stayed for 15 yrs

Let’s hope she realizes it

15 yrs

I know this too- me being the normal person not in that relationship anymore . It’s tough on both sides

For sure - she can date the SML and get all those Everest level expectations fulfilled. Why put herself through this if she cannot empathize with him?

The point is she did throw herself at him - but she does not understand his condition and is expecting everything to be like in a normal relationship. One has to be educated about these kinds of conditions. It is not easy to deal with something like this long term. His condition will get better but these things don’t go away completely - they will come back when there are triggers. They maybe right from their own perspectives but if they want to stay together then she needs to learn his perspective too- the reason I emphasize her is because she is emotionally in a much better place than him. And even with his condition I think he is doing a better job by thinking about her side. No one is expecting a lovey dovey romance. Even if it’s about healing. If certain things are not right - they are not right . It’s ok though if you do not agree. To each unto their own

True there is no room for something like this to happen in the US. That boss woman will be done for life. Unfortunately it is not the same in other places

Absolutely!