Kinara

Ok - yeah FL needs to grow up. I mean she is telling him that she is sad and hurt as though he is able to feel and understand these things.

lol shove a square peg into a round hole is right. I have been thinking the same - if she wants a normal emotional relationship then she should just date the SML because she will not get that from the ML - never. The therapist is a little too nonchalant about the whole thing. The SFL should not be butting in their relationship at all. She needs to go fix her stuff first

Actually for someone who is emotionally blind, he understands the situation much better than the FL. He knows full well that he can become a burden to her while she is behaving like an immature child and having too many expectations of him. She never once puts herself in his shoes or thinks from his perspective or tries to understand him😡. I am so frustrated at the end of ep 15

Let’s see- if they make it too easy my rating for this drama will go down . It is never easy in these situations.

You are right. I am watching the whole birthday party fiasco. Why would you plan something like that and that too after listening to the SFL? She clearly does not understand anything about his condition and that he may have certain triggers because of his trauma. If she wants to help him she needs to start by understanding his illness fully.. all she does is apply some useless bandaid. He needs a medical professional to help him and she should be working with that medical professional. This one sided thing is just going way out of hand.

Agree and so true. In a long term relationship she will have to do a lot of heavy lifting and it can be very taxing taxing both emotionally and physically

Not sure if we are watching the same show- this one is excellent and so was Till the End of the Moon. They are both quite deep as far as the story is concerned .

Yes - watching ep 15- that boss acts as though she owns him. And this guy he does not feel anything and cannot understand what is going on. The way she talks to Gu Yi at the beginning of 15 was just disgusting and ridiculous. This will definitely cause problems between the leads. She did not have the right to say any of that stuff. I wish the FL were a little more strong and spunky. She has confidence and self esteem issues too and feels she is not good enough - and that comes across. Shen Yue has played the role beautifully

Yep it’s very strange for sure. I usually don’t criticize women’s wardrobes but this one just seemed a little too much.

But corporate culture - at least dress code wise is similar across the world. And that is because a lot of them work with international clients etc

Well with his disorder/ illness romance and caring is never going to be easy. It will all be small shifts. We can’t expect him to be normal. He may improve emotionally and socially a little bit but there is no cure. Yeah viewers expecting a quick fix should go read up about alexithymia to understand it. GuYi will still have to do the heavy lifting even later in the relationship and yes it’s evident that she has some issues as well- her drinking and her attachment to a person like Dianwen and wanting to cure him shows that. It’s complex for sure and that is what is great about it

Yeah her drunken blackouts are in excess. She is an alcoholic. They try to make it look cute and endearing but having an alcohol problem is none of that. In fact they need to stop showing excess drinking on these shows. There is nothing good about alcohol - it just kills your health period!

That it definitely is - very unique drama

There you go!

Same here ! During my time in the workforce I have never seen this

You can dress conservatively and look good in it.

You don’t get my point. Cheap clothes can look good too. It’s not about money

I work in the corporate world and I have not seen anyone dress this badly even if they are in a lower paying job. Like I said finding better fitting clothes is easy - no one is asking for high fashion. She is working as an editor in a. magazine and goes to interview people etc. you can’t dress that way for that kind of a job. This should be a priority in her job. I don’t like that they show women like this - kind of unkempt sorry creatures .

It makes other people respect you too and increase your self esteem. You have to dress for the job - you can’t go in oversize jeans and an ill fitting oversized shirt. In which world is that ok? Thank you for understanding what I mean

You can dress well and be comfortable . All of this is an excuse. No one is asking to spend thousands of dollars but she is working in a professional space and aiming for a promotion. People tend to think appearances don’t matter but that is not true at all. It does and very much so at work. Anyway this is my opinion