Shiro

I find it hard to see how it would not be, and think my standard answer to those who do would be something like: okay, we have different ways of understanding this however for people who may have or will be subjected to this behavior without being okay with it that their opinion is valid and that it is okay to seek help and leave this type of relationship.

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Thank you for your comment, I see that I really should have written more about the physical stuff, definitely a potential follow up if I can get it approved 😉 Moonlight absolutely has a lot of issues, that is why it is mentioned under both jealousy and light stalking (very bad combination of words sorry) to be honest the only reason it is praised is for calling out the behavior especially the drunk kiss, I was shocked to see that conversation in a c-drama. Also interesting about the j-drama kabedon, always happy to learn new things.

Thank you for your comment. I have noticed that (scroll to the bottom), but I would not use those words... I found Addicted a very interesting watch this was my review of it if you are interested, interesting watch just not something to put up as relationship goals. I probably used it a lot more than it deserved because I watched it while writing this but there was just so much that fit in what I wanted to write about. https://mydramalist.com/profile/Shirioink/review/146115

Thank you for reading and commenting 🤗 This happens to be one of my favorite issues. I do not think I have seen sweet first love, but I tried to choose common tropes that go beyond my choice of dramas ( I have seen a lot of dramas since I wrote this and would have included other ones if it was written today), I agree that the behavior is being called out more and more and I always enjoy it when it does eve if it as you say gets forgotten by the next episode. Aggression is absolutely a part of control and maybe I should have written more about it, Could also be the topic for another article if they will approve it, part 2 will however be about "some of K-dramalands most patient, sweet, and/or deceitful men while also getting close to the women who try to break loose from harmful relationships. Topped of with some of K-drmalands most interesting kisses." (summery in editing) I hope you will want to read that one too.

ok, we have different definitions of this, thank you for sharing your way of thinking. I do however hope that those who find themselves in this type of situation and do not find it seductive feel that they are not alone and can seek the right help.

Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts ❤

Thank you for the title of the book and kind words😀

Thank you for your comment, to be honest i had forgotten about that part in Go Ahead before some one reminded me of it, I guess I was focused on the other parts instead, and I agree watching jealousy can be fun, but not experiencing it

Thank you for sharing. I grew up in the 90s with allot if these missconseptions about romance from every outlet ithout it being discussed at all, I think times are changing and that people talk about this more often now and I hope this can be of help.

No, it was me who missread it, and figuredit was best to be clear(I got too little sleep 😉 here it is morning) but I guess Ill say goodnight 😴

Since your review includes spoilers I will save it for later but add it to my ptw

Thank you for your thoughts, no I am definitely not asking them to be censoured (in case I gave any one that impression) , but am a HUGE fan of calling out this behaviour 👌😉

This will be my last reply to your comments (unless you change your tone) I think you need to learn about the difference between calling out a behavior and railing out about a drama as I wrote very clearly both in the beginningand end of this article but about: Addicted: " In Addicted Heroin, Luo Yin fights back on every single assault, eventually leading Gu Hai to say, "Why did I forget he is moved by tenderness, not aggression" yet still lives by "the more you hit me, the more I get excited" showing Luo Yin that fighting back is pointless. But even if it is pointless, it is called out, and that counts for a lot. "

Thank you for your comment, I have seen a trend lately where more and more of this behavior is called out in the drama but I understand if you don't want to watch too.

Thank you for commenting, I don’t spend so much time in the comment section but am often on feeds. I love discussing these things and dramas are great at creating opportunities for this but it would be nice to see consequences.

Thank you ❤

Thank you, part 2 is in editing but my next article is about crossdressing (from a equity point of view) it will be on homepage the 20th you can read about it now if you want https://mydramalist.com/article/crossdressing-in-k-dramas-revealing-inequality-or-just-another-punchline

Thank you for your thoughts. Part 2 is about K-dramas but I am sorry to say that is not included, but if I were to write about different types of violence in dramas I probably would.

Thank you so much, I probably will share it whenever this discussion comes up 😉 or write an updated version part is in editing so there is more to come.