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Faarian
Canada, Vancouver
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Mom Hating Her Own Daughter!
The premise seems weird and creepy: The mom (Yuriku) sees her daughter (Rika) as an iguana, an ugly lizard, but this premise captures their relationship well: Rika is a remainder & reminder of the mother's traumatic ugly past, so she hates her daughter to the point of killing her and committing suicide herself. She wants to get rid of her past, but the daughter's existence doesn't let her do so. At the same time, she needs the daughter always beside herself, because by abusing her, she can deal with her uncontrollable anger; this is her revenge for her past. She's addicted to her victim-daughter.
The dorama also shows well how destructive the relationship is on the daughter: Soon Rika starts to see herself as an iguana too; she's worthless, only adding pain to the world, better to not exist. Besides, the self-hatred makes her a good target for bullies & people who need to project their anger on others and so on and so forth.
On the other hand, there are things that lessen the tragedy: First, it's the father who equally loves his wife and his daughter, so can bring some hope & positivity to the family, however, because he doesn't acknowledge her wife's hatred toward Rika, he can't play an active role in resolving the issue. His denial strategy fails big time. The little sister also later joins her father to make things better, but maybe the real saviour of Rika is her angel-like friend, Nobuko, who acts as a mediator between Rika and the world she's lost connection for a long time.
My biggest problem with the story is something that's common in J-dorama: Showing sympathy when it's not called for. It's true that the mother is a big victim herself, but in any case, she hurts and ruins Rika's life. She needs to be stopped in one way or another, but the drama and the last episode, in particular, kind of normalize her toxic relationship with her daughter, as though no direct solution to the problem was needed.
The dorama's very old, so you should expect many (unpleasant?) things common in that era, but it's Gold! If I consider its production year, I'll give it 10/10, but based on our time rating criteria, 8.5/10 would be my choice!
The dorama also shows well how destructive the relationship is on the daughter: Soon Rika starts to see herself as an iguana too; she's worthless, only adding pain to the world, better to not exist. Besides, the self-hatred makes her a good target for bullies & people who need to project their anger on others and so on and so forth.
On the other hand, there are things that lessen the tragedy: First, it's the father who equally loves his wife and his daughter, so can bring some hope & positivity to the family, however, because he doesn't acknowledge her wife's hatred toward Rika, he can't play an active role in resolving the issue. His denial strategy fails big time. The little sister also later joins her father to make things better, but maybe the real saviour of Rika is her angel-like friend, Nobuko, who acts as a mediator between Rika and the world she's lost connection for a long time.
My biggest problem with the story is something that's common in J-dorama: Showing sympathy when it's not called for. It's true that the mother is a big victim herself, but in any case, she hurts and ruins Rika's life. She needs to be stopped in one way or another, but the drama and the last episode, in particular, kind of normalize her toxic relationship with her daughter, as though no direct solution to the problem was needed.
The dorama's very old, so you should expect many (unpleasant?) things common in that era, but it's Gold! If I consider its production year, I'll give it 10/10, but based on our time rating criteria, 8.5/10 would be my choice!
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