On Sorry Not Sorry • Dec 26, 2024
Title Sorry Not Sorry Spoiler
Children's behavior can be greatly affected by adults around them, be it parents or teachers. Ethan and Sia bring to mind two examples. I taught a number of preschool classes in a number of schools. When I was starting out with preschools students, I had a girl the just joined that would have conflict with other students. What I started to do was have each apologize to the other and then shake hands. When they shook hands. I would grab them and hug them together. That would end the tension. Conflicts were rare. With this girl, when they hugged, her face was upturned and she had the greatest smile. So I understood that the conflicts were her attempts to interact with her classmates. And once that 'ice'' had broken, so to speak, she was now had a friend. I never focused on who was right or who was wrong. Apologies were never one sided. At another preschool, the teachers, who happened to be women, would get the two and ask who did what and then have one apologize to the other. I believe that it built up the expectation that the aggrieved would get an apology. When I did it my way, there was less satisfaction on their faces. A few minutes later one child went to another teacher and pointed to a puncture in her hand and said the other child had did this. The conflict had not been resolved. I did wonder if it was self inflicted. It wasn't a bite mark, it wasn't a cut, but it looked like a scab had been torn off. It created quite a fuss. I think that it was the clash of two different conflict resolution strategies. I was the new comer so I stopped doing it my way
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