@Antinh85
The point that they were trying to make that Jing's behavior of stalking her, hurting her, failing to keep up his promises, and not doing much is far worse than XL being abusive to her in the past. I don't even know how they can come up with that conclusion. All of the men are equally flawed to me. XL changed alot because he realized his feelings but what is to say that he will never harm XY again when he gets mad? That is why it hard for me to root for them a couple. Like the time after her coronation ceremony, he purposely seek out her sister to cause harm to her. Then he was going to rescue her but then Jing came. So if he did rescue her, that made everything ok for what he did?
I guess alot of people see Jing a "simp". He does come off that way. In society, those men are frown upon as they are seen as week and less of a man. guess that is why people were put off about his character.
By what XL did, it definetly falls into what we call "abusive". Because those who use physical force exist in our society and women who chose them. Never good outcome. Lol Im repeating this quite a lot here. This impression never left me I guess. There's no escaping that. And even later on, when he clearly loves her, he still had this control and dominating behaviour. I don't get why he had to be rough in front of her and too determined she must get rid of good feelings for him to the very end. I know he had good intention. Nevertheless, I still feel its sadist. He is a fancinating romantic character but not as love interest. Nope...that is so true with CX character too although CX doesn't sound as much abusive, although he loves her and care for her, he's still dominating and control, but it doesn't showb much in season 1 but second half of the novel, which is why CX lost XY in the end.
Actually it would be wrong to say like society view simp like Jing as weak and useless. But I dont know which society you are coming from. So I cant tell. But men like Tushan Jing are mostly considered "DECENT" men by our society standard. There are many men who will only be simp for their gf and no other. Jing embody that well. They only show their caring as well as being silly only in front of their romantic partner because they are at ease. I see a lot of my guy friends become like this with their GF. So I like how TH portray Jing in such a way. LYF is melodrama in which Jing would join XY in death and will stalk because he missed her. Even their sweet scenes while he's engaged doesnt felt wrong here because it felt more like his family is doing wrong to him. But it also shows high realistic aespect of real life love especially when couples are still in dating status. All their shyness, jealousy, being possessiveness. I am no surprise if there are ladies saying o"hh it bring back those memories with my now hubby back then" . And the way he is so considerate of her is also important for real life romantic life partner. I think its only with Jing that Xiao Yao feel she is equal . And remembered also that Jing is considered intelligent and refine by society in story. But some audiences view Jing as weak and usless because only they are not seeing what they want to see and what they want it to be. For example, we would like to see him get rid of Hou and YiYang by caughting them being adultary . But not being able to do so is not equal to Jing being weak. Because we only get to know certain things at certain times. XL fans complain Jing is not back bone because he is giving into his granny. Jing being calm in handling situations and his tie with his family and granny, not to aware of what his granny would do to him at certain time, doesn't make him a weak person. But its a plot to make XY heart break , and other consequences afterwards. Its just funny how some viewers make such a big deal of it. My another long comment. .??