Looking for dramas where the female lead is grumpy and reluctant to do anything unless someone pulls her along. 

I'm not sure if these will be quite what you're looking for, but these FLs start out in their dramas as someone who has built up a a prickly personality, is jaded, is a bit self-centred, isolated and / or a workaholic, and generally wouldn't go (or let anyone drag her) anywhere she didn't want to be:

https://mydramalist.com/23442-the-happy-loner 2eps. She's a loner and he's like a lost puppy. 

https://mydramalist.com/17219-beautiful-gong-shim I think she was a bit gloomy due to her insecurities, whereas he is totally comfortable in his skin and helps her blossom. 

https://mydramalist.com/8246-lets-eat