Where the FL isn't too obviously feministic. And marries a guy to survive or similar and isn't so darn negative about him or basically looks for help from every guy except the ML so that the plot can have the ML being constantly jealous or similar. 

I guess I want a more down to earth true to the times romance. 

The Story of Ming Lan  - has everything you wish. A very realistic portray of the time and also a very realistic version of romance for this specific time as well