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Idk man, what he just displayed is a classic shame reaction. People who haven't dealt with their guilt and shame tend to lash out with it at others and push others away, esp if he can also convince himself she's better off without him or he's better off alone. I usually hate noble idiocy but it actually makes sense given both their backgrounds, and I've seen people who seem to have it all together act just like he did when their deep unresolved shame was triggered, it's really tough to deal with.

I'm still mad at him and it really hurt to hear him be harsh with her, but until he deals with his guilt/shame he can't be a truly good partner to anyone.

No way, it was worse when it was 16 episodes cause instead of one unnecessary break up it like 2 and then like a 5 year time skip and amnesia and then they still just got together in the last 10 mins of the show. At least now it's only like an ep or two of angst instead of 5.

If you've been lucky enough to not feel guilty for something that isn't actually your fault then you are quite blessed. It is extremely common, esp for people who were raised by parents (ahem, like Yejin's mom) who never took responsibility for their actions and even actively blamed their kids for anything that went wrong. So.. maybe for you it feels dumb, but for me this story resonates really deeply with my own experience of life.

I encourage you to go and learn about this, maybe you will be able to understand and have more compassion for the characters in this story and be able to enjoy it more.

I don't think this was his premeditated plan to get her to go back, it was a combo of him wanting her to go back to work but also even more genuinely was how he felt with everything coming out. Shame is a pretty powerful emotion, and when it's triggered it can cause people to devolve and lash out pretty quickly. When he said he felt suffocated he was being dead honest, but not because he didn't like her or want to be with her or his feelings weren't true, he just cannot forgive himself for what happened and so can't feel comfortable being happy or letting someone else care for him, since he imagines he has to ignore his own needs and take care of everyone else to make up for what he's done.

In that lens it makes perfect sense why he went this route and took the opportunity to push her away rather than do the more challenging work of dealing with his shame. It's still dumb and I'm still mad at him, and I don't think Yejin believes him regardless, but she has every right to feel hurt

This is actually good for them, tho, it's necessary. This is what happens when you run away to the countryside and don't deal with your demons. Both of them gotta face their own shame, and I am with you that I hope they come back together much sooner than later and work through the stuff that's between them, but there are things they need to face on their own, too.

Yeah it's a HUGE double standard. She is just using this to try and separate them because she likes Mechoori. She's awful

This kind of stuff happens all the time, no test is perfect, scientists make mistakes, they are human too, esp if he was just out of school. And corporations can cut corners or do other things that are neglectful, or can just make mistakes also. SO many products are recalled every year. Literally thousands.

And he's growing mushrooms because he can't create creams anymore, it actually makes perfect sense. He has a bio degree and is passionate about it, but feels too guilty to do the actual development work of the products, so he instead is growing one of the key ingredients which then gets incorporated and tested by others so he isn't the one responsible if something goes wrong. In the years between he's sold the mushrooms to a lot of different companies and it's been fine.

Genuinely feel like a lot of people (not just you) are being really nitpicky with details like this when they actually just don't really know anything about the subject at hand.

I was actually thinking that Eric has actually felt like a real character finally the past couple weeks, I'm glad he's got some sort of development.

Freakin heck that was painful to watch. But this is one time where it feels like this kind of development actually makes sense with where the characters were at. It was inevitable. Both of them were treating the symptoms without treating the cause. Neither of them have really addressed their deeper issues so they both just shut down.

Mechoori feels suffocated by having someone care about him because he refuses to forgive himself. He is never gonna earn absolution by ignoring his own happiness to take care of everyone else, he can only give that to himself, and he needs to realize and accept that.

Yejin needs to come to terms with what happened with her parents and stop blaming herself or her dad for her mom abandoning them.

I really want them to work through this together but honestly when two people have their deepest shame triggered it's almost impossible to open up right away and work through it esp if it's with someone you feel very guilty towards like Mechoori does towards Yejin. I think a little time apart will help them gain some clarity, and then I hope they come back together and are able to actually talk through it like adults, or something will force them to have to make a choice one way or the other. PLEASE don't stretch this out over an entire week, like an episode is enough, thanks.

This review was more entertaining than the drama itself. You captured a lot of truths here, I feel sooo similarly about everything you said but couldn't put it into words. Please watch to the end and update this review I must read your final thoughts.

I get the feeling LJW picks roles entirely based on the premise and character description, cause on paper his character in last summer (twins with a dark secret) and impossible heir (one half of a broken revenge bromance) seem interesting and challenging. But lord this man needs to read the entire script before committing.

Luckily the director is good, which can make an okay script turn into a good show.

Omg I love music dramas, we don't get enough of them. Really looking forward to this

yeah the description feels like about 10 dramas that have come out in the past year but everyone is saying the source material is great so I'm more excited now.

I remember how much I missed SIG seeing him in boyfriend on demand, he's so talented and charismatic, happy to see him in another role so soon.

I like him in roles like this, this is what suits him best

This was my fav ep so far-- all the funny village moments and random love pairings, I laughed so hard when Mechoori screamed about her lips in charades. I really appreciated how organic the last scene felt, no big dramatic confessions, just the two of them trying to find the courage to express how they really feel.

I'm loving Ye Jin's character arc. Chae Won Bin has been very charming in this role and I've been rooting from her from the start. You really understand how much she needed someone like Mechoori in her life, and him bringing her to his little village and creating a grounded and peaceful space for her knowing it was what could heal her is just so quietly loving.

I feel bad for Eric. He always has that smile on his face, even when he's upset, and now seeing how much of a b--- his sister is I just want him to find happiness for himself. He has this fantasy of him and YeJin he can't let go of and he's just going to keep getting hurt.

This is the nice part of the drama before the inevitable fallout before the final week so I'mma try and enjoy it while it lasts lol

Honestly, just block them. I used to get all riled up when I saw hater comments cause it's frustrating when people come to a show just to say the same criticisms over and over again, and I'd feel like I needed to respond and defend the show, but now I just block negative people like that and it's more peaceful.

What makes Ki Jun so charming is that he is both earnest and self-assured. There's nothing cringier than a clingy insecure dude who who can't leave the FL alone, but this is not that at all. He knows what he feels, and he can read how she feels, and is going to honor that truth and act accordingly. The kiss, him deciding to see if there's more between them, admitting he was jealous, saying he likes her, trying to find out if she wants the same thing --this is what a sensitive, confident man looks like.

The 2FL is useless. Not only pining after a married man who doesn't like her and bringing it up awkwardly to him at every possibility, she also tried to mark her territory on Ji Kun when she doesn't even like him anymore and he's being nice enough to let her stay at his place? She is genuinely trash and I really don't understand why she's even in this drama.

The 2ML doesn't make sense as a character. The entire drama he's shown a high level of respect and self control towards every single person, even people he hates, even people who have treated him terribly, except he suddenly turns into a controlling, physically dominating asshole just for the FL? I could totally see him showing more passion or emotion or anger around her, being more animated, etc, but breaking things, grabbing her against her will, the violence and possessiveness just reads as poor writing and trying to fit him into the jealous, toxic ex trope and somehow make his feeling seem more "real" or something to add drama. It's dumb.

I would love if this show focused wayyy less or not at all on the second leads, there's already enough conflict between the leads with the 800 foot walls In Ah has up. I am only watching this for them and the audit team, I love all their interactions.

Jae wook is one of my favs, but am I the only one who doesn't feel him and the FL have any chemistry here? I think it's because they're both cold, detached types, idk I just don't feel it.

That's just the patriarchy talking hon. A man who doesn't deny how he feels and is confident enough to put his heart on the line? that's what we call a real man