Ode to My Father (2014)

"Put the family first!"

Cue the violins and bring out the box of tissues because Ode to My Father will shamelessly and successfully pull at your heartstrings. This film is not only an ode to one father, but two, as you follow a boy from childhood to old age selflessly working to provide for and keep his family together just as he had promised his father he would do.

The film follows Deok Su as a child in 1950 fleeing Hungnam as the Chinese were overrunning the city. His only task was to hold his little sister's hand as the family sought shelter on a US ship, the USS Meredith, accepting refugees. In the stampede to find a way onto the ship, his sister was lost. When his father turned back to find her, he tasked Deok Su to be the man of the family and always put the family first if he could not return. Deok Su took his promise seriously when they arrived at his aunt's shop in Busan. Accompanying him on his various entrepreneur ventures was his best friend, Dal Gu.

Deok Su would later go to Germany to be a coal miner, a dark and dangerous job, in order to pay for his brother and sister's schooling. There he would meet his future wife, a Korean woman studying to be a nurse, Young Ja. He and Dal Gu returned home when the Germans stopped renewing their work visas. After his aunt's death, his uncle wanted to sell the Kkotbun Shop. Once again, Deok Su stepped forward, this time taking Dal Gu with him to Vietnam to earn money as "technicians". The two friends would face the same choice the Americans did at the North Korean port when as they were fleeing Saigon women and children begged for them to let them onto their boat. In 1983 Deok Su and Dal Gu would go to Seoul in the hopes of finding his father and sister when the Korean Broadcasting Services showed families being reunited through their programs.

Deok Su's grown children cannot understand why he won't sell his shop or change the old-fashioned name. Deok Su who so easily sacrificed his own dreams and took dangerous jobs to provide for his family, privately confessed to his father's image how difficult the struggle had been. After promising his father he would always put the family first, the last words he heard his father speak were that he would meet them at the Kkotbun Shop. Never saying his purpose aloud, Deok Su kept the shop open in case his father survived so that he could find his way to them.

This was a nostalgic look back for older Koreans who after surviving the Japanese occupation were devastated by the Korean War. Their country divided and some families divided by the new boundaries, dealing with political and economic upheavals, mothers and fathers worked hard to feed and shelter their families among the continuing changes around them. The main character in this film shined shoes, dug coal, traveled to Vietnam during that war, and later ran the family shop. He did all this to make things easier for his family and children. In a letter to his wife, he told her how grateful he was that it was he that suffered and not his children. And of course, his children, as children are wont to do, did not fully understand the hardships and struggles their parents went through for them.

Lest you think it was all melodrama, fear not for there were gentle moments of humor that lightened the mood. As much as the film was about family and sacrifice it was also about friendship. It was heartwarming to watch Deok Su and Dal Gu stand by each other from childhood to old age.

A small historical note: The USS Meredith was credited with one of the largest humanitarian rescues when the ship dumped its cargo and took on 14,000 refugees in a ship designed for 12 passengers and 47 crew.

I am not a crier, but this movie moved me to tears on several occasions. I knew the director and music director were setting me up for the big emotional moments and did everything but present a cue card that said, "Cry now!" It didn't matter, the milestones in this film though far removed from my life still reminded me of the sacrifices and relentless hard work my parents and grandparents went through to make my life easier. And like the director, who made this film as a thank you to his father, it reminded me to say thank you to those who went before me. The desperation during times of political upheaval for people who have nowhere else to run is truly heartbreaking. I cried for the families around the world who have been separated by war, death, and poverty and felt gratitude for the ones left behind who have fought tenaciously to hold the survivors together and refused (and still refuse) to give up.

The film could swell emotionally and had an ambitious overview. It helped that the acting was on point and didn't boil over into being overwrought which kept the characters grounded. With all of the time jumps it could have been easy to become lost as we were given a personal tour by Deok Su through pivotal points in Korean history. Though the story covered decades and several countries, Ode to My Father was at its heart a simple and intimate story of a man keeping a promise to his father. Unabashedly melodramatic? At times. But this film was also inspiring and uplifting and a lesson in the power of tenacity. If you are looking for a movie to touch you, look no further.

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