Xiang Liu and Xiao Yao’s Story and Romance

 HeadInTheClouds:

So I have read through that scene in Chapter 32. This was the one where Xiang Liu warned Xiao Yao about revealing his identity, right?  And as a warning he caused her to experience pain? Given the context, I think that it's possible that it was actual physical pain that Xiang Liu was inducing. I'm thinking about Xiang Liu saying that a powerful Voodoo master can control poisonous bugs to kill someone miles away. Given Xiang Liu's ability and the way that he's able to control their shared Bugs, I think it's possible for him to control it to cause physical pain. 

i think that pain differently. This is a pair of bug with equal strength ( male and female bug). It is not mother- child typed bug that the one who raised mother bug can control the child- bug thus influenced the host.

i don’t think XL could control her bug . He could only control his own bug. Thus, he had to suffer the same pain in order to make her hurt. 

How did he generate that heart pain? there are 2 options:

1. that is his own pain due to losing her. He normally blocked the pain transfer ( suppressed his bug to send signal to XY’s bug—> her bug re-generate the pain). But at that moment he did not do so.

2. He made the bug to  bite back by having thought of “changing heart, stop loving”

the pain that XY suffered is very similar to her pain and reaction when she heard of XL’s death, meaning losing him forever 

Lol I mean cut him some slack

 luv2bafangurl:

Having a partner who defer to you on every decision can look romantic at the beginning but it’ll going to be annoying in long term imo. Imagine having to constantly answering to questions like: what do you want to eat dear, what should we do now dear, where are we going now dear? Do you want to stay here longer or should we continue our journey tomorrow dear, etc =/. It’ll drive me bonkers in no time LOL.

I feel like Jing is the type of man that young girls/women with minimal experience, still highly romantic would find attractive. He can woo you with his zither playing (the ancient version of a guitar), poetry readings and all the gentlemanly "gallant" gestures like catching the candle wax for you while you sleep (just moved the damn candle, you fool). It's all very romantic, but all very impractical. They are definitely nice things to have, but they need to be part of something more substantial. Deferring to your wishes may seem highly considerate at first, but as the reality of day-to-day living creeps in, and all the decisions fall on you, it won't be so romantic anymore. If he doesn't have an opinion or won't make any decisions while you're dating; he won't miraculously develop these abilities after. Don't be fooled, ladies.

 luv2bafangurl:

And we haven‘t even dive onto how tiring and scary it can be psychologically to have your partner attaches/ties his whole existence and self worth on you. When you angry with him, it‘ll feel like you kick a puppy and you‘ll feel guilty, it‘ll mess up with your head in the long run as well, as you don‘t don‘t feel like you can be angry or dissatisfied with your partner when he‘s been so accommodating and self sacrificing.

For someone with Xiao Yao's issues, these things are probably really reassuring and wonderful. For other people, it's incredibly suffocating. The burden and responsibility of being someone's reason for being are immense. Their self-sacrificing martyrdom will leave you feeling horribly trapped and frustrated because as you point out, you feel that you can't be angry or dissatisfied with them. These things can easily turn into manipulation and control tactics.

 Kikinaki:

You guys are being too hard on Jing, don't you think?

Nah.

He’s a fool.

And he ain’t real. Just words on a page. Or rather, hanzi on a page.

Thank goodness.

Pity that Xiang Liu also isn’t real. Because if he was…

Dang.

@windiaaa041293 I think @H19279's translation should give you a good idea of the article.

 H19279:

In addition, the author clearly used black shaddow/reflection [1]

The text "晴为黛影 Qing is Dai's shadow/reflection" is a reference to Dream of the Red Chambers - a comparison between 晴雯 Qingwen (Jia Baoyu's maid) and 林黛玉 Lin Daiyu. There are several schools of thoughts. While Qingwen is said to be somewhat similar to Lin Daiyu in appearance, there are scholars who say that the comparison emphasises more on their dissimilarities and their unique traits. In addition, the author uses the writing technique of using one character to allude to another. For example Lin Daiyu's face changed when she read the lament about their lack of fate in the poem Jia Baoyu wrote in memory of Qingwen who died tragically. This would be a foreshadowing of Lin Daiyu's own fate, who would die of illness on the day Jia Baoyu was tricked into getting married to someone else. 

 Kikinaki:

You guys are being too hard on Jing, don't you think?

 Kikinaki:

Lol I mean cut him some slack

The Fox roasting is usually minimal in this thread.  The other one, however ....  O_O

 Kikinaki:

I know he cant compare to our white haired god , but still ...

Nothing compares to our Supreme Lord Xiang Liu, Hydra of Sexual Tension.  ;p

 Kokuto:

I don't know.  I don't think XL ever let go of his love for XY

with regard to the event in chapter 32 when he threatened her not to reveal he was FFB, he could trick the bug to bite back, creating heart attack to XY. When he stopped it (meaning thinking of "changing his heart"), the pain was over. At this point, he was determined that there was no future for both of them together. 

 Kokuto:

I don't know.  I don't think XL ever let go of his love for XY.  The only thing he let go is his chance to have a future WITH her.

Yes, I did not mean he let go of the love. He was being selfless and was letting XY go even when he still had love in his heart.