Ceki

Wait, is this long like.... 15 minutes or?

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As I already said numerous times, I've explained what needed to be explained. I won't respond to hysterical and nonsensical comments of people who are obviously overacting. Get over it.

It shall be preached, yes sir ;p :D

The only offensive thing here is your post and comparison to gay people that does not make any sense whatsoever and which does not have any relation to my own comparison.

Actually, no, it is not misleading. In that scene he went for her hair, grabbed and yanked it forcefully. At first he didn't even know it was her (but even if he did, that is not excusable).
In most countries you can get your butt kicked for even touching someone in a similar manner.

I won't tell you to stop overacting and telling people that your opinion is the only one that is right, but I will tell you that I'll ignore your hysterical comments from this point on if you continue in a similar manner.

You simply cannot tell me "change your opinion and words", because you have no right to and I don't care how appalled you are. The article reflects my opinions and thoughts, and I don't care how many people agree with them. There are also people who think that wrist grabs and slaps should not be called abuse, I guess I should think about rephrasing that too. Not.

The article may be on this site, but the words and thoughts belong only to me and nobody besides me and without my permission has any right to change them because then they would not be my words anymore. I think I've made myself clear. Period.

Amen! And fans still love him: http://www.koreaboo.com/featured/kim-hyun-joongs-unbelievable-messages-towards-ex-girlfriend-miss-choi/

And yes, I must add sth about HYD - it's good that you mentioned it, fans tend to forget that the main male character (in all adaptations) ordered and paid some thugs to rape the main girl at the beginning. No matter how kind he gets in the end.... is it really forgivable?

Firstly, I'm glad you have something that inspires you and makes you happy, most MDL users are like that too, otherwise they wouldn't waste their time here. It is the same with me.
Secondly, I have a feeling that you are very young, which means as you grow up in every sense you will notice some things in a different way. My intent with this article was not to bash Asian dramas, I have even left a note saying that this is not restricted to Asian culture only. However, what is predominant in Asian dramas is that they romanticize the things that should not be normal ever. It is one aspect of their entertainment that can be very dangerous, but it does not mean that their dramas should be banned completely.
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Thank you for your comment! I must say that I also noticed that bodice-rippers from the 80s and 90s have many rape scenes which I hate... and I am a huge historical romance fan and reader.

About the else, no, I am not going to phrase differently anything unless I think I should do it, and I have already said why I wrote it that way and those who do not agree will have to get over it because this is after all my article and it mostly expresses my opinions and the way I experience things and people around me. There is a reason why the article has a warning stated at the top.;)

@sindhu55 Your post makes no sense whatsoever...

Why do you think that cutting someone's hair does not leave lasting emotional wounds? Just because you did not have a bad experience? And it is not the same when a classmate plays a prank on you and someone punishes you deliberately (however, both can be traumatic). The severity of a sexual assault surely cannot be the same as the hair act, but it can be matched to some aspects of it - you get a part of your body degraded and you also get hurt emotionally. And that is the point of the comparison.

Itazura na Kiss, Que Sera Sera, Secret, Que Sera Sera

It is coming across like that only to someone who takes it personally, obviously. If someone were to cut off my hair forcefully, I'd definitely feel raped and I know many women who feel the same, dunno about you.

KMR, you are still missing the point. It is not important whether your hair will grow back or not (and it will take a lot of time to do so anyway), the point is that the forced cutting should not have happened in the first place and you're doing the thing that you are accusing me of - belittling the act itself by saying "the hair grows back, so what?"

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Someone who may have experienced hardcore abuse might come in and say "Oh wrist grabs? How dare you, you have not experienced the real abuse like me!" I mean, it was not my intent to belittle the act, just to show in a symbolic way that it is damaging in a both physical and emotional way because it is robbing you off not only your will but also another part of your body. Even if someone doesn't care about having hair, he/she would still feel raped after having it chopped off or shaved by someone. It might not have an impact like the sexual intercourse, but it would still be traumatic.

Of course not, but if you put it that way, then that means that the act of cutting someone's hair is not such a big deal (no matter whether it is short or long; when it comes to chemo patients, they are disturbed by the loss of hair too), but it is.

I must disagree. The definition of rape varies and there are many forms of it. And I still haven't got the answer to my question - how would she feel after having her hair cut forcefully and against her will. It is a both emotional and physical invasion of someone's body. And if you go so far to say that it belittles the original definition, then that can be said for wrist grabs too, which are a less violent form of abuse, but still damaging.