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Let me repeat my post: What would you do if someone forcefully cut and chopped off your long hair that you've been growing for years, hm?
Hair, especially long, stands for femininity and strength. Cutting someone's hair, even one lock, is equal to humiliating that person and robbing them off their strength. Take a look at the poem "The Rape of the Lock".

What would you do if someone forcefully cut and chopped off your long hair that you've been growing for years, hm?
Hair, especially long, stands for femininity and strength. Cutting someone's hair, even one lock, is equal to humiliating that person and robbing them off their strength. Take a look at the poem "The Rape of the Lock".

If you take a look at this comment section, you will see that most people have noticed it, it is not just me.
I would be exaggerating if the 'no lip movement and a scared face' happened only once, but you see female characters acting like that in almost every drama. Even when they are in a relationship.

Well, you basically take a part of someone's body without their consent, it is not the 'real' rape but it comes close to it. Girls tend to grow their hair for years, it would be so traumatic and humiliating to have it cut by someone forcefully. I think that even the mother said something like "You overdid it this time", but she did nothing to stop it.

Lucky you for being able to block such disturbing content, I know some people who can do that. However, I don't think that just because it is a different culture that makes abuse justified and okay. Human beings are human beings, no matter which culture they belong to.

I must disagree. Females tend to slap males more often than vice versa, and if there is a drama in which main characters are slapping each other, then I guess that can be called some sort of domestic violence?

I still don't understand how some people experienced that drama as romantic. If you go to the drama's profile page, you will see 99% positive comments.

Haha xD I agree that it is a double standard and women slap men way more often than vice versa; and even though I would love to say that is because men are physically more superior than women (in most cases at least), I'd be a hypocrite for saying that. I will always cringe more at seeing a woman or child getting slapped than a man.

Exactly, you just hit the nail on the head! ;)

Does that mean that you would like to be kissed or grabbed by a complete stranger? Because in most of these examples, the girls are fighting back and saying no.

I don't know about the 90s version, but in the newest Korean, Taiwanese and Japanese drama adaptations, there are instances when she tries to push him, and when he realizes that she's finally had enough of him, he gives her more hope. That is the ' famous' first kiss during the graduation, among others.

He is not mocking her only when she stalks him, he does it all the time and he enjoys it. And whenever she tries to break free, he makes sure to make her believe that there is hope of them being together. Stalkers should not be mocked but reported, and it is obvious that he enjoys being the center of her attention. And let's be frank, no normal woman would endure more than 2 minutes in his presence (when he shows his true colors) and he knows it.

These situations that you mention do not really require physical aggression. I mean, you could simply talk to someone, tap that person on the shoulder or show where you want to go with gestures. When you grab someone and start dragging them around means 'I don't care whether you want to or not, you are coming with me!"

I'd definitely see her as abusive, because no matter what gender a person belongs to it is still unacceptable to mock, humiliate and embarrass someone in such a way (and enjoy it all the same).

She is abusing him by stalking him and he is abusing her by constantly and verbally humiliating her. They are in a way perfect for each other - a masochist and sadist. However the message is still clear - 'be stupid and make the man priority of your life because you will get your happily ever after.'

I also remembered a scene in which that newbie (I guess he is the main male character) receives his punishment by being forced to do some kind of physical exercise and jump around the building/yard like a monkey. That was really painful to watch. :p But that was the point - they all believed it was proper and completely normal for their seniors to punish them like that.

And that's the core of everything I guess. I will admit that I did laugh at some scenes and I liked the reversal of genders HOWEVER that left a bad taste in my mouth in the end. Why? Because the ghost girl was imo portrayed in a bad way because of her sexual needs. It would have been a totally different story if the guy accepted her advances from the start, but he kept pushing her away until she turned into a rapey character. They were both victims imo, he because he was sexually abused and she because of a portrayal as being silly because of her basic human needs.

Thanks, now that you mentioned it, I do remember a couple of scenes of throwing water on someone's face :D Is rice throwing more prevalent in historical dramas?

I completely agree, that is why I also mentioned another drama that deals with discrimination and abuse at work, however, when it comes to the Misaeng example, it is correct that the behavior of men who abused her was not condoned, but HER behavior was, because (just like you said) it became apparent that a woman's perseverance was portrayed as the only way to deal with abusive people in a workplace, which is completely wrong. She was the victim and she did nothing but accept it in order not to lose her job (just like many other characters who endured worse fate for the same reason). And that sends a message that you should not speak up and report the abuse.

True and what I have also noticed is that when a female character is portrayed as successful and independent, she is usually a villain, an old "hag" or a bitchy person. Which is really sad.