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I would say, if you really like someone, subtly try to take care of them or spend time with them and if they open up to you or show interest in you, then continue to be there for them and slowly express your feelings (or speed things up if they mirror the interest—going slow isn't always the answer—there can be exceptions.) If there's someone else who likes you, get to know them, see if they strike your interest, and notice whether you naturally grow feelings for them or not. If what they, as a person, bring in to the relationship is what you're looking for at a pace you can keep up with, then it's not a bad idea to give it a try but obviously, you cannot guess any future conflicts that could possibly arise, so take it slow, be tentative, and above all, don't force yourself or give the other person false hope because that's cruel—for both you and the other person. Most relationships do grow from friendship to love so getting to know each other is the most important aspect of it all. If the person of interest doesn't give you the green light and actually keeps moving away from you and avoids engaging in conversations, then it's better to drop it and not make them uncomfortable. Ofc, it hugely depends on the situation and the person but I feel like being a constant and almost like a dependable "rock" in their life definitely improves their outlook towards you as a person so just being a friend in the beginning and then slowly expressing feelings could get you a better result than just straight up going for it. As for which of the two options is better, no one can really say because how each person matches with you and you energy is different. If the someone that likes you makes you feel energized and happy and full of life, they're obviously a better choice than someone who you like but drains your energy and makes you tiptoe around them in fear of setting them off. It's all about compatibility. Maybe they picked up something that you haven't yet or vice versa.

You could take Jun Seong and Seong Ho as an example. Jun Seong expressed his interest in Seong Ho from the beginning and stayed constant without being overbearing and giving him space and allowing him to make his own decisions, and Seong Ho came back to him after satisfying his curiosity. Jun Seong did wait but he also seized any opportunities to spend time with Seong Ho as he did show interest in Jun Seong as well.

As for an example from this show, I feel like Hyeon Jun is a similar case. He expressed his interest in Yeong Gyeong and they had a good time together. But after Yeong Gyeong showed curiosity in getting to know the others, he never outright told her to not do that as he does not have that right as of now. He patiently waited and continued to show interest in her and take care of her quietly, even though it is exhausting at times. We then see him make his intentions clear to Yeong Gyeong about being interested in her and that does make her see him a bit clearer?

P.s. Sorry for the essay sldfksflks I got too engrossed and didn't realized I wrote a whole page 😭

Bruh, Ye Eun bringing her dramatics in once again 😭

Right from the beginning, you could see how overbearing she was with how she instantly subjected Sang Won to the cold shoulder after hearing one singular response from him about being interested in the other women, which is ????? This is a dating show after all, I'd much rather have my date be honest about his curiosity than reassure me with fake promises and then break my heart later. That frigid atmosphere must've really left an impression on Sang Won, even if just subconsciously. He mentioned his energy felt drained every time he was with Ye Eun, and honestly, you could see it. Ye Eun's overbearing streak continued in this episode too and idk what it is about her, but she makes me uncomfortable lowkey. Like she'd plan and pray on your downfall if you cross her path even a little bit 😬
I mean, that conversation in Bon Hee's room was proof enough where she kept trying to rub it into Ji Won's face that she has a date with Sang Won and how "fun" it was. Girl, we get it, lay it down. I mean, this could be her ballet background playing in to the picture. Her competitiveness for that "lead role" from all those years in the industry could also be to blame but she should learn to tamper it.

Anyhow, I've been rooting for Ji Won since the beginning of the show, no matter who she decides to pursue. Wishing her the best! And Sang Won in his redemption arc was such a nice surprise lmao, I LOVE IT! <3

Was planning on catching the live broadcast but my assignment submission took much longer than anticipated so I couldn't 😭💔

Now I have to wait a whole day even for the raws 🥲

Just finished the first episode and it's not looking good. The medical in the title is only for name, the medical portrayal is not accurate in the least. A painful watch, I'm gonna have to drop cause even tho I like the cast, I can already sense that it's going to be heavier on the melodramatics and there's going to be close to zero credibility in the medical aspect which is not my cup of tea. But whatever I saw, was unprofessional and unrealistic on so many fronts, not to mention a strong ground to get your medical license cancelled. Like you CANNOT just brute force your way through a surgery and refuse help and say "NO! I can do it!" even though you genuinely are unable to. You're putting the patient's life at risk. And ofc, the elephant in the room, the chief allowing a foreign surgeon to perform surgery in HIS hospital with NO verifications whatsoever. Dude NO. If this was real life, there'd be such serious consequences. The board members would flip tf out.

Hard pass.

Ikr! Even Bon Hee was taken aback by the quick development 😭

Mu Jin is one brave and fearless mfer. Like holy-
A RING?!?!? RING?!??!
The most I would've dared would be a necklace cause it's only been four days but I also get that there are instances where you meet someone that you like so much that you would even go as far as to imagine yourself marrying them on the spot 😭

Lowkey kinda upset that Ji Won and Ji Yung didn't work out so far. They would've been a good fit had their timings not been so off :(

Well well well...if it isn't episode 7 stirring the pot.

SHAKING IN MY BOOTS OMFG THIS MOVIE IS GOING TO END ME

NEW JI SUNG DRAMA
I'M SO SAT

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He's one of those ppl that gets less and less attractive the more he opens his mouth 😭

Right 😭
They fit so well together! They're my next fave pick after Bon Hee and Mu Jin!

Yes I'm yapping quite a bit but eh, I'm too invested.

Ye Eun's only problem is that she switches between excited and depressed way too quickly and at random. She has no emotional stability, and her unpredictable nature where she's elated one second and grim the next almost comes across as if she has bipolar disorder (or maybe she's just really spoiled? Plus with her job being on the stage, her dramatics are really either at the highest peaks or lowest valleys. Perks of being in the entertainment industry ig) Her mood swings are too great and too intense. She's like the wings of a helicopter, even the tiniest disturbance or change will make her go completely out of a control. Her emotional baggage is too great and the rollercoaster of emotions she puts the other person through by going silent all of a sudden over the tiniest thing she finds unpleasant makes it so awkward and puts them into a tight spot. And no one really wants to experience that. She acts a lot like a school girl. And the ppl here are the ones who signed up for older women who are mature and who they could feel comfortable around and rely on, not a land mine that they have to carefully toe around to avoid detonating.

Sang Hyeon really has no tact oml. He's so petty that it's unattractive 😭
He acts like he's walked through life with his eyes closed and has never had to read the room or people in his entire life.
The one line he uses the most and I absolutely HATE "Of course it bothers me."
LIKE BOY IF IT BOTHERS YOU THAT MUCH THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. DON'T JUST WHINE LIKE A 2 YR OLD! Stop sitting on your hands and GET UP! AND WHERE IS YOUR NUNCHI??!?!? Like bro, even Ji Yung who came in later realized that Bon Hee had no interest in others and was drawn to Mu Jin. Learn to take a hint??? You let it get so far and are only now waking up and deciding to take action. It's only going to mess things up.
And how are you so oblivious and selfish to believe that you can just tell someone to "back off" and let you go at your snail-like pace just because you like the same person??? How sheltered exactly are you 😭
Mu Jin my boy, don't give an inch, you hear me?!?!? Go be with your person and keep showing up and letting Bon Hee know how much you like her instead of sitting on the sidelines and magically hoping she gets you message telepathically that you like her.

Istg, Sang Hyeon's the one that pisses me off the most in this show. (Yes even more than Sang Won bc no matter how odd his approach might be, at least he TRIES. Ignoring the fact that most times it ends up making things worse but STILL. He gets up and gets on with it!)

So Hyun is pretty chill, I like her. She's really proactive but also laid-back at the same time. This is how I imagined the older women in the show would be like.
And the fact that she's interested in Sang Hyeon 🤌

Like YES PLEASE! Take him away from being all depressed and miserable, hovering around Mu Jin and Bon Hee all the time 😭

She's my nabi yeojeong 🦋🧚

I feel like the 12 year age gap the show mentions is between Mu Jin and Bon Hee.

I keep going back to the number 37 and 38 for Bon Hee's age for some reason and with that 12 year age gap factored, Mu Jin would have to be around 25/26. Plus from his childhood photo, he does look to be about 9 or 10 in it. Ji Yung looks to be about 24/25 tho so he could be the potential outlier as the other men all seem older than 27 to me.

As for any hurdles or doubts that Bon Hee might have in regards to age gaps in a relationship, I don't think there would arise such a situation. She's pretty secure in herself and is already aware of the fact that she's much older than the male contestants and has mentioned as such during conversations. She didn't look to be put off by the age factor and continued to express her interest in Mu Jin instead of shying from it. But once their ages are revealed, Mu Jin might end up getting a little flustered since he thinks Bon Hee looks quite close to him in age but then again, he did see Bon Hee's photo from 2004 so from that he should have an idea that she is in fact, much much older than what he might've expected. At least by about 8 years. The photo might've even given him time to process their age gap actually. Regardless of whether he gets flustered or not, I'm sure he likes her enough and is secure in their feelings for each other that he'll come around fairly quickly.

I love how the show and the contestants never really go in the direction you expect them to. People are messy and unpredictable and this show highlights exactly that lol.
Unexpected and intriguing every step of the way, we have plot twists and eyebrow raising moments more often than not. I'm laughing, I'm seething and I'm shaking my head, screaming "NO! THAT'S SO CRINGE! Please stop it, for the love of God!" at my laptop. I empathize with the contestants but I also feel like reaching through the screen to shake them awake and slap some sense into them.

Fun times :)

Ji Won my girl- 😭
Baby that's too much TMI. That's not something you bring up on a date let alone on a whole reality TV dating show that's getting broadcasted internationally. It just turned the whole atmosphere awkward and embarrassing for the both of you 😭

Like I love you, but you really do need to work on holding back on the deets some times 🥲

Lmao, I was wrong about most of their job occupations but at least I got 2.5 right.

I was only able to get the obvious ones such as Ye Eun being a ballet dancer, Hyeon Joon being a chef. Bon Hee's interest in photography was quite apparent too and I guessed she'd be in something related to it but more on the fashion side like a stylist.

Mu Jin and Sang Hyeon were both a complete surprise. Kind of disappointed in myself for not guessing that Sang Won would be in the medical field after taking note of his ginormous ego 💔

Yeong Kyeong and Ji Won also seem like such a good fit in their respective professions, can't believe I didn't catch on 💔

Now for the new guy that's set to make an appearance next episode.
I AM SO READY

He looks to be more proactive and I feel like Ji Won is going to be drawn to him quite a bit. It's going to get so fun when the new male cast is going to start pursuing all the female contestants as they watch. It's going to stir feelings, get messy, become competitive and so so entertaining 😋