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Yeah see idk if I trust those words, she says a lot of things but when it comes to the most important stuff she still hid the tunnel from him. He actually let her hold the funeral rites for her grandfather in their house who caused him so much pain which shows how deeply he loves her and for her he's willing to let go of the hatred and put her first above his family but she's just not willing to do the same.

That fight was devastating, he loves her so much he's willing to do anything for her and she never actually trusted him. No wonder he doesn't believe the words she says after because how could he? Even I'm starting to question if she actually loves him or not. And now that tunnel has dealt them such a horrible blow and he's STILL willing to go fight for her clan's territory. I really thought we finally had a couple where both characters loved each other as deeply and sincerely instead of just the ML but apparently not.

That really doesn't apply here, he's literally going to protect the Qiao territory because their enemies got the best of them because of a tunnel QX , the cousin and her husband made that she never told him about. Not to mention he let her grieve her grandfather and hold the ceremony for him inside his own home so he can let go of the hatred of the man who caused his family's death but she can't ask her cousin for troops because her husband's troops are divided protecting her family's territory?

I understand where you're coming from but they both have to carry the burden of their families. It's absolutely not her fault at all but this is the way it was at that time, just him deciding to love her shows how much she means to him. This is the man who was going to wipe out their clan, the man who saw 3 generations of his family members murdered in front of him because of hers, who had to be a killer since he was a child and lead his clan as a consequence. They're both yielding and giving in in different ways, also regardless of their feelings for each other they're still a lord and a lady and they have to act accordingly otherwise they will be eaten alive. He also lets her berate him and throw things at him which insane for that period especially considering who he is and he has shown her so much love in so many ways so I don't think it's fair to say she's the one always putting him first, look at his wish, the way he gave her the wheat and carried her on his back in front of everyone and what it signifies for someone of his status especially considering whose family she belongs to.

It makes perfect sense why he is acting the way he is, instead of instantly falling into her arms at the first sign of feelings. Anything else would be bad writing, she's the daughter of the clan who caused his brother's, father's and grandfather's death all while he watched and he's carried that hatred and burden since he was a child. It essentially feels like he's turning his back on the people he loves the most, if he's not conflicted and wrestling deeply with his feelings then what does that make of his love for his family? Not to mention it's not like he's treating her badly in the meantime, he's showing her so much care and love in his own way, saving her, giving her warhorses, worrying about her etc

I'm referring to your statement that he fell harder, I think they both fell slowly and just as hard.

I disagree, so far it feels like they're as in love with each other in the way they treat and care for each other.

Thank you I was under the impression that Filter had quite an unequal relationship and just reading your review for it now it still gives that impression tbh.

Your review convinced me to watch this and I really enjoyed it so thank you. Like you said the mutual effort really stands out, do you have any other recs from 2025 that have the same kind of relationship? Especially modern ones?

I know she'll never abandon her family but neither should he have to. Since this is supposed to be a love story I hope unlike the novel she'll come to love him just as much as he'll love her enough to risk her life for him etc and even put him first in some ways like it's obvious he'll do for her. I've seen the actress talk about her XQ's best quality is her sincerity and that once she decides to be by his side she's genuine so I guess we'll see.

So you think she's mostly manipulating him in 16/17?

Yup I would rather it was the same for both but it is what it is.

He is, for all the other ships I feel like both parties are just as in love with eo but with these 2 it seems he's way more into her than she is him.

The fact that he agreed to be her guardian spirit and is actively fighting him means it's at least a possibility for him otherwise what's his plan? Since he was told he'd need to deplete it to defeat him, just hope it works without it and then that thing kills all of them?

No because I'm also confused regarding this? He was told it would kill him and then the next scene he was like yes to YR? Does he have some plan they're not showing us or what???

I just saw the end date and I don't think I can do this every day for 3 weeks watching and hoping we're getting something instead of just him sacrificing himself and saving her 6789 times. I think I'll let a few episodes accumulate and then see where the story is at.

Maybe you're right but they left it very ambiguous, a single line or thought from her showing that's why they did would've made it better. Instead she's telling him to marry the other person and that she disappointed him etc which makes it seem more like it's about that rather than helping him.

Exactly and so many dramas do not seem to get that and it's always the ML showing and doing everything and the FL barely anything. Let's hope this is not one of them despite the trailers making it seem like it is and they will surprise us???

Why does it happen like that in the books (and now in the drama too it seems) he can explain the misunderstanding which she doesn't even remember and even if she did I don't think what she *thinks* he did requires him getting tortured and almost murdered. Is it another misunderstanding? You can't build an entire romance on a ML suffering 24/7 for the FL while she does nothing, if there's no reciprocity then it all falls apart.

Yeah it's not looking good in that regard, from the trailers it seems the other lives is him saving her constantly at great risk and he's getting stabbed and struck by lightning and almost killed by her multiple times???